According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
“Heartbreaking Appeal: Abandoned Puppy Clings to Hope with Plea for Rescue”
In a world where compassion often shines its brightest in the midst of adversity, a poignant story of a vulnerable puppy’s plea for help has stirred the hearts of many, serving as a powerful reminder that acts of kindness can transcend even the harshest circumstances. The scene opens with a small, abandoned puppy adorned with a heart-wrenching sign that reads “Help Me,” a desperate cry for assistance that almost went unnoticed by a world seemingly too busy to care.
The story unfolds as a young child stumbles upon the sight of this forlorn puppy, shivering and hungry, left to fend for itself. With innocence and empathy, the child recognizes the urgent need for intervention and makes a call to those who can offer help.
Responding swiftly and compassionately, a dedicated team from an animal welfare organization arrives on the scene. Armed with warmth, nourishment, and a deep-seated commitment to making a difference, these volunteers extend a lifeline to the trembling puppy. Wrapping it in soft blankets, offering sustenance, and cradling it with the utmost gentleness, they exemplify the power of human empathy in its purest form.
The puppy’s journey from despair to hope is a testament to the strength of collective compassion. As it devours the offered sustenance with a hunger that goes beyond the physical, the transformation begins. With each bite, the puppy is nourished not only in body but also in spirit, finding a flicker of hope amidst its dire circumstances.
Soon after satiating its hunger, the puppy’s weariness takes over, and it drifts into a peaceful slumber. This vulnerable state serves as a poignant reminder of the vulnerability of all creatures, a reminder that resonates with the viewer’s sense of empathy.
As the puppy awakens, a beautiful metamorphosis takes place. In the company of kind-hearted individuals and the comforting presence of other dogs, the once-desolate creature begins to flourish. Its playful interactions and moments of unadulterated joy become a beacon of resilience, a testament to the capacity for happiness and healing even after facing abandonment.
The heartwarming narrative of this rescued puppy touches on themes of responsibility and compassion, inviting reflection on our roles as stewards of the animals that share our world. It is a stark reminder that each life, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, carries its own inherent worth and deserves a chance to thrive.
The final chapter of this story is one of promise and commitment. The compassionate individuals who stepped in to save this puppy’s life also vowed to give it a forever home. The once-abandoned puppy will now be cherished as a member of a loving family, a testament to the enduring impact of compassion and care.
This heartrending tale of rescue and redemption demonstrates that in a world often marred by indifference, a simple act of kindness can become a catalyst for change. The puppy’s plea for help, conveyed through a handwritten sign, touched hearts around the globe, uniting people in a shared sense of empathy and determination.
As we reflect on this story, let it serve as a call to action—a reminder that our compassion can reshape lives, that our empathy can bridge the gaps of understanding, and that our collective effort can make a world of difference for those who cannot advocate for themselves. The tale of the adorable, abandoned puppy with a heartfelt plea is a testament to the power of compassion, a testament that resonates far beyond its pages and encourages us all to be the change we wish to see in the world.
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