We Postponed Our Wedding Because of My Fiancé’s Business Trip, but I Accidentally Saw Him in Town That Same Day

When Jennifer’s fiancé, Chris, postpones their wedding for a last-minute business trip, she’s heartbroken. But on her birthday, the day they were meant to marry, Jennifer spots him in town. Suspecting betrayal, she confronts him, only to uncover a life-altering secret that Chris has spent years keeping quiet.

Six months ago, when Chris got down on one knee in the park where we had our first date, I thought nothing in my entire life could feel more perfect.

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A smiling couple | Source: Midjourney

We set the date for late fall, on my birthday, no less. It felt right, like everything in my life had been leading to that moment.

Chris and I were two halves of a whole, and as cheesy as that sounds, I mean it. He was the methodical planner, thriving on spreadsheets and five-year goals, while I was the impulsive dreamer, chasing creative projects and wandering wherever life led me.

Together, we found balance.

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A stack of wedding invitations | Source: Midjourney

Or so I thought.

But then something happened that made me question everything.

A month before our wedding, Chris’s boss threw us a massive curveball. Chris had to attend a crucial business trip.

On the same day as our wedding!

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An older man sitting at his desk | Source: Midjourney

“It’s just three days, love,” Chris said, holding my hands. “I know how disappointing it is, but at the same time… this is huge for my career, Jen. There’s a promotion on the line, and it could mean big things for us. We could move into our dream home sooner, we could extend our honeymoon for longer… I wouldn’t ask if it weren’t important.”

I was devastated. I mean, who wouldn’t be?

But what could I do? Reluctantly, I agreed to postpone the wedding for a few weeks. I tried to put on a brave face, telling myself that it was just a small delay along our journey.

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An upset woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

“Fine,” I said. “And I’ll make all the calls to the vendors and send out messages to all our guests. You focus on work and the trip, and I’ll do the rest. Okay?”

“I knew you’d get it,” he smiled.

Then my birthday arrived, the day we should have been saying ‘I do.’ Instead of getting all dressed, spending time getting my hair and makeup done to perfection, I found myself wandering aimlessly through the city.

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A woman walking down a street | Source: Midjourney

My bridesmaids had wanted to spend the day with me, knowing that Chris would be away, but I didn’t want to see them. I didn’t want to see anyone.

“Why are you acting like the wedding is canceled, Jen?” my friend Avery asked. “It’s not. It’s just been postponed.”

“I know that,” I said. “But… I can’t help the way I feel. It’s just… never mind.”

“You can talk to me, Jen,” she said softly.

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A woman talking on the phone | Source: Midjourney

“Yes, but I don’t even know what words to use. I’m feeling deflated, I guess. That’s all. I want to be alone. But I’ll come over tomorrow, I promise.”

I cut the call and left home in my boots. The crisp autumn air bit at my cheeks as I clutched my coffee, trying to ignore the gnawing ache in my chest.

The streets blurred as I walked, my thoughts spinning. I missed Chris. I missed him terribly. And I missed what the day should have been.

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A person holding a cup of coffee | Source: Midjourney

Eventually, I ended up on the outskirts of town, where a fancy boutique hotel caught my eye. Deciding I needed a drink, something stronger than coffee, I stepped inside the warm lobby.

The soft hum of voices and clinking glasses greeted me as I made my way to the bar. The bartender had just started making my drink when something, or someone, caught my eye.

There he was.

Chris.

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The exterior of a hotel | Source: Midjourney

In a suit, standing at the reception desk, talking to the concierge.

My heart stopped.

I blinked, sure that I was imagining things. Chris was supposed to be 500 miles away on his business trip. So, what the hell was he doing here?

Before I could think, I slapped a note on the bar, paying for my untouched drink. I stormed toward the staircase where he had disappeared. My boots echoed against the polished wood as I raced upstairs, my pulse pounding in my ears.

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A note on a bar counter | Source: Midjourney

“Chris!” I shouted. “What is happening? Why are you here? What are you doing here?!”

He turned, startled, his face turning pale before my eyes.

“Jen! Wait!”

“No!” I said, my voice giving my feelings away. “You lied to me, Chris! You’re supposed to be on a business trip. Are you… are you cheating on me? Is that what this is?”

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A man wearing a suit | Source: Midjourney

His hands shot up in defense.

“No, Jen, I swear it’s not that. Just… please, come with me. I’ll explain everything.”

I followed him down the hall, my anger simmering under the surface. He stopped outside a door, pulling a keycard from his pocket.

“What’s in there? Who is in there?” I demanded.

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A man holding a hotel keycard | Source: Midjourney

“Just… trust me.”

The door swung open, revealing a simple hotel room. My stomach churned as I scanned the space, expecting to see some other woman. Instead, it was empty.

Chris gestured to the armchair by the window.

“Sit down,” he said softly.

“Explain, Chris,” I said, suddenly exhausted. “Now. Please.”

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The interior of a hotel room | Source: Midjourney

He sighed, running a hand through his hair.

“Jen, I’ve been working on something for a long time. For years, actually. It’s about your mother.”

I froze.

“My mother?” I echoed. “What?”

He nodded, his voice trembling slightly.

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An upset woman holding her head | Source: Midjourney

“I know you don’t talk about her much, but I know how much it’s hurt you, love. Not knowing why she left you at the hospital… not knowing where she went or why.”

I swallowed hard, the familiar ache of abandonment rising in my chest.

“For three years, I’ve been trying to find her,” Chris continued. “I hired private investigators, scoured records, even contacted labs to trace potential matches. And… I think I found her.”

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A man holding his head | Source: Midjourney

My heart thudded in my chest.

“There’s a woman,” he said. “Her name is Margaret. She’s staying here at the hotel. I didn’t tell you because… well, I wasn’t sure. I didn’t want to get your hopes up in case it wasn’t her. I didn’t even know how to bring it up. But a few weeks ago, we got confirmation that her story matches yours. She’s been looking for you, Jen. My PI told me.”

Tears filled my eyes.

“You’ve been doing all this for me? And you didn’t tell me?”

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A private investigator sitting at a desk | Source: Midjourney

He stepped closer, his voice gentle.

“I wanted to protect you. And… I wanted it to be a surprise for your birthday. If it was her, I mean.”

I sank into the closest armchair, my legs too shaky to hold me.

Two hours later, there was a knock at the door. My stomach flipped as Chris stood to answer it.

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A woman sitting in an armchair | Source: Midjourney

When the door opened, a woman stepped inside.

She was tall and graceful, with streaks of gray in her dark hair. Her eyes, a piercing shade of green, locked onto mine, and I felt like the air had been punched out of my lungs.

We stared at each other for a long moment, neither of us speaking.

Finally, she broke the silence.

“Jennifer?”

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A smiling older woman | Source: Midjourney

My name on her lips sounded strange, foreign yet familiar.

I stood slowly, my hands trembling.

“You’re… my mother?”

Tears filled her eyes as she nodded.

“I think so. But… we should go to the lab for a DNA test, just to be sure.”

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A close up of a woman | Source: Midjourney

“No,” I said, my voice firm despite the storm of emotions swirling inside me. “I don’t need a test. I know it’s you.”

It sounded stupid, I know. But I could see it all over her face. It was clear, if this woman wasn’t my mother, then she was still closely related to me.

She smiled softly, her tears spilling over.

“You look just like my mother,” she said. “I’ve been looking for you for so long.”

I blinked, confused.

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An older woman sitting on a couch | Source: Midjourney

“You’ve been looking for me?”

She nodded, sitting down across from me.

“It’s a long story,” she said, her voice shaky. “Forty years ago, when I gave birth to you, there was a terrible mistake at the hospital. The nurse mixed up the babies… and I… I left with someone else’s child.”

My head spun.

“What?”

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A newborn baby girl | Source: Midjourney

She shook her head.

“I didn’t know the truth until years later, when my daughter, well, the daughter I thought was mine, died in a car accident. A DNA test revealed she wasn’t biologically related to me. I was devastated. And that’s when I started searching for my real daughter. For you.”

My throat tightened.

“But… my mother left me at the hospital. That’s what my foster mother told me.”

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The exterior of a hospital | Source: Midjourney

Her face crumpled.

“I know. I think the woman who was supposed to take you home ran away when she realized the mistake. I’m so sorry, darling. You were abandoned because of what happened, and it’s all my fault. I passed out after I gave birth to you, I didn’t know any better when I came to.”

Tears streamed down my face as I tried to process everything.

Chris wrapped an arm around me, his touch grounding me.

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A woman in a hospital bed | Source: Midjourney

“You’re not alone anymore,” he whispered.

Looking at the woman in front of me, my mother, I felt a strange mix of pain and hope. After years of wondering, I finally had answers. And on my birthday, of all days.

“It’s the best gift I could have asked for,” I said softly.

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A smiling woman | Source: Midjourney

Two weeks later, we finally celebrated our wedding. My mother sat in the front row, tears shining in her eyes as Chris and I said, “I do.”

And for the first time in my life, I felt whole.

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A smiling bride | Source: Midjourney

When Jake insists on cooking Thanksgiving turkey for the first time, Jen is skeptical but supportive until the result is a culinary disaster no one at the table can ignore. But the real shock comes when she discovers the recipe isn’t Jake’s. As tensions simmer and doubts creep in, she’s forced to confront the cracks in their marriage. This Thanksgiving, the turkey isn’t the only thing leaving a bad aftertaste.

This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

23 Backhanded “Compliments” That Are Actually Insults

 Everyone has been guilty of giving compliments that turn out to be less-than-sincere upon closer inspection. However, backhanded “compliments” are some of the worst, especially since they’re disguised as sweet remarks. It’s important for friends to be honest with each other, of course, but couching hard truths in fake compliments is rarely the way to go. (Unless you’re auditioning for a Real Housewives franchise, of course, in which case you can carry on.) If you’re ever on the receiving end of a backhanded compliment from a friend, the real meaning might not even sink in until hours, or even days, later.

While backhanded compliments typically stem from the speaker’s own insecurities, that doesn’t make them any less hurtful, says Sherese Ezelle, LMHC, LCPC, a licensed behavioral therapist. And when they come from a friend, a backhanded compliment is likely to sting even more — and may even damage your relationship.

Backhanded compliments run the gamut from clueless comments to rude remarks, and can also be a form of microaggression, Ezelle says. If it seems like your pal has crossed a boundary, she recommends disputing their comment in the moment by calmly asking for more info. “More often than not, to challenge them on the spot allows for the individual delivering the ‘compliment’ a chance to defend or further explain their intent,” Ezelle tells Bustle. “You want to be sure to give an opportunity for conversation so that growth can happen and friendships can be preserved.”

Of course, different friendships have different dynamics. Some close friends tease each other mercilessly and, as long as everyone’s on the same page, it tends to be OK. That said, it’s alright to recognize when something feels more hurtful than funny, or more like passive-aggressiveness than silly banter, Ezelle says. If backhanded compliments seem to be a habit rather than an exception, you can always tell your friend to buzz off — or look for a new friend circle.

These 23 backhanded compliment examples can help remind you of what a barely-concealed dig really sounds like. That way, the next time your friend claims to love your outfit or announces that they find your apartment “cozy”, you’ll know exactly how to handle it.

1. “Your Instagram Makes You Seem So Fun!”

Why it’s backhanded: On the one hand, it’s good to know all your careful filtering and captioning haven’t been in vain. But when your friend says your Instagram seems fun, they may be implying that the real you is much less interesting than the image you’re trying to project.

How to respond: “Because I am fun!”

What they could have said instead: “I’m so inspired by the way you curate your feed. It really shows off your creative side.”

2. “You Look So Great In That Photo. I Can’t Even See Your Acne!”

Why it’s backhanded: The nice compliment is immediately weighed down by the acne comment. They’re basically saying you typically have a flaw, but in this photo, you only look great because that flaw is removed. “It would be particularly hurtful if you also had an insecurity about your complexion,” says Sarah Dumoff, LCSW, a psychotherapist and founder of private practice here/now.

How to respond: “Thanks. I love this picture too, though I feel good in photos even when my skin isn’t ‘perfect.’”

What they could have said instead: “Omg, you look amazing!”

3. “I Didn’t Expect You To Get The Job. Congratulations!”

Why it’s backhanded: When a friend makes a point of mentioning their low expectations, it takes away from their congratulations.

How to respond: “I worked really hard for this. Go me!”

What they could have said instead: “I was rooting for you and am so relieved it went well!”

4. “You’re So Independent. It’s No Wonder You Haven’t Found Someone Yet.”

Why it’s backhanded: Among all the things ambitious people are tired of hearing, this is probably the most common. In theory, such a remark compliments your sense of autonomy; in practice, it implies that your independence is driving potential significant others away. As an added bonus, it perpetuates the idea that you have to compromise your sense of independence in order to be attractive. Yikes.

How to respond: “Yup! And I’ll know someone’s right for me when they respect that.”

What they could have said instead: “If you ever want to get back into the dating pool, I know someone’s going to fall immediately for your drive.”

5. “I Love How You Don’t Care How You Come Across.”

Why it’s backhanded: Your friend may profess to love your devil-may-care attitude, but what they’re really saying is that they think you’re too “out there.” Either that, or they’re making a salty comment because they’re envious of your laid-back attitude.

How to respond: “Yes! It’s taken a lot of work to get my confidence to this level. I try not to focus on what others think anymore.”

What they could have said instead: “You always seem so confident and relaxed. Tell me all your secrets.”

6. “I Wish I Was As Chill As You About All This Clutter.”

Why it’s backhanded: The real translation may be, “Your place isn’t cleaned to my exact standards and I need you to know that.” Regardless of their intention, it’s rude to make comments when you’ve been invited into someone’s private space.

How to respond: “Really? What would you do differently?” Sometimes asking someone to explain their comment is a way to get them to pause, reflect, and realize they’re being mean.

What they could have said instead: “Thanks for having me over!”

7. “That New Haircut Looks So Much Better Than Your Old One.”

Why it’s backhanded: They’re right — your new ‘do does look fabulous. But no need to be rude about what you looked like literally an hour ago. It may also make you wonder how long they’ve secretly disliked your hair.

How to respond: “I’m all about changing up my look. I’ve loved all my hairstyles and this one’s great, too.”

What they could have said instead: “Wait, this so, so good.”

8. “I Love How You’ll Just Wear Anything.”

Why it’s backhanded: If you’re getting ready together, chances are this comment is constructive and your friend is trying to prevent you from leaving the house in a not-so-great look. If they make this comment once you’re already out, however, that’s when it’s officially rude — and it might even plant a seed of self-doubt that ruins your whole night.

How to respond: “Is that a hint? What’s wrong with my outfit?” You can be honest with each other, laugh it off, and ask if they’d like to offer some advice.

What they could have said instead: “Hold up, hold up. Do you still have those wide-leg pants? Those would be perfect for tonight.”

9. “I Would Never Be Able To Pull Off That Outfit!”

Why it’s backhanded: While it sounds like they’re admiring your style, your friend is likely saying they wouldn’t be caught dead in anything similar.

How to respond: “Thanks, yea. I’ve been feelin’ myself lately. I’m all about the cargo pants trend. Can you believe they’re back?” This is a way to brush off their comment and show your friend that your “weird” look is deliberate — and fashionable.

What they could have said: “Ugh, I can’t keep up with trends. Can you share your Pinterest with me?”

10. “You’re So Charming When You Make An Effort.”

Why it’s backhanded: Great! You’re being charming and suave right now. Mission accomplished. But what about when you’re lounging in your soft pants? Your friend is kind of saying that you’re not usually this charismatic.

How to respond: “I don’t always feel the need to be ‘on’ around my close friends, but sure, I can pull out the charm when need be.” You can also mention that their comment was hurtful. Remember, when in doubt, call it out.

What they could have said: “Bestie, you’re a shining star of wit and charm.”

11. “You Look So Professional With Your Hair Straight.”

Why it’s backhanded: Talk about microaggressive “complimenting” styles. On one end of the spectrum, they’re announcing that they believe you usually look bad or unkempt. On the other, they’re saying curly or natural hair is somehow unprofessional. And that’s not OK.

How to respond: “Well, I’m glad to know that you think my natural hair makes me look so unprofessional.”

What they could have said instead: Nothing. Or, “Did you do something different with your hair?”

12. “I Wish I Didn’t Have Any Responsibilities Like You.”

Why it’s backhanded: People might be inclined to say this to their friends who live with their parents or to those who don’t have kids. Living rent-free or child-free can be less stressful than many alternatives, but that doesn’t mean anyone’s life is totally carefree or without responsibility. Saying otherwise is passive-aggressive at worst and presumptuous at best.

How to respond: “Oh wow, do I make it look that way? I have a million plates spinning at once. How are things going on your end?” This will get to the real root of the issue, which is that they’re overwhelmed.

What they could have said instead: “Do you have any spare time to listen to me vent? I’ve been so stressed lately.”

13. “Your Place Is So Cozy.”

Why it’s backhanded: Calling someone’s apartment “cozy” is often code for “super tiny” or even “so tiny I don’t understand how you live here.” It’s also condescending since not everyone can afford a sprawling abode — or wants to live in one. It just isn’t what you want to hear when you’ve invited folks over for a housewarming.

How to respond: “Thank you! I put a lot of work into the decor. Wait, did you see my record player over here?”

What they could have said instead: “Thanks so much for having me over! I always love how you decorate. Oh! I brought a quiche.”

14. “You’re Coping With This So Much Better Than I Thought You Would.”

Why it’s backhanded: You’re literally on your couch in a onesie surrounded by tissues and rubbing at your puffy eyes — and this is better than what your friend thought? How did they expect you to deal with a breakup? You might not want to know.

How to respond: If you can muster some cheekiness, say, “Thanks for the vote of confidence, pal.” If you’re too upset say, “I just need someone to listen to me, if that’s OK.” Also, side note: If a certain friend isn’t supporting you the right way during a tough time, try reaching out to someone else. Another friend, family member, or therapist may be a better bet.

What they could have said instead: “What you’re going through is one of the toughest things ever. You’re handling it so well, but it’s also OK if you need to take more time for yourself.”

15. “You Look So Much More Awake With Makeup.”

Why it’s backhanded: Your friend may be trying to give you a compliment, but this one sends the message that you usually look bad or tired whenever you deign to go outside without blush or mascara. It might be their way of judging — or they simply might not realize why it’s a rude thing to say.

How to respond: “Wait, what do I normally look like?”

What they could have said instead: “I need that blush. Where’d you get it?”

16. “You Look Refreshed Today. I Almost Didn’t Recognize You!”

Why it’s backhanded: According to psychologist Dr. Roberta T. Ballard, Ph.D., this is a common backhanded compliment. It’s something you might hear from an office friend who means well, but doesn’t realize they’re implying you usually look messy or tired. Not to mention, it’s never smart to comment on someone’s appearance, especially if you don’t know what’s going on with their health or personal life.

How to respond: “Thanks. Guess it was that extra cup of coffee I had today.” And leave it at that.

What they could have said instead: “That color blue looks amazing on you.”

17. “You’re So Chill In Your Relationship.”

Why it’s backhanded: “It may be innocent admiration of your patience in your relationship, or it may feel like something else is being implied,” says Lauren Spinella, LPC, a licensed mental health therapist and owner of Peaceful Path Counseling. Are they really impressed by your patience during a tough time in your relationship, or are they implying you’re a doormat?

How to respond: “Do you feel like I’m too chill?” According to Spinella, it’s totally fair to ask for some genuine clarification in a non-accusatory way. That’ll open the door to a deeper convo.

What they could have said instead: “I really admire how patient you are. I’m also a little concerned that you’re dealing with so much and want to make sure you’re OK.”

18. “You Look Great For Your Age!”

Why it’s backhanded: While this one’s often said with the best of intentions, it’s steeped in ageism and the idea that you can only look good if you look young. “Sometimes the person giving the backhanded compliment might not have the intention of saying something hurtful, however, the impact is still there,” says therapist Emily Sharp, MA, LCAT, ATR-BC, RYT-200.

How to respond: “I’m sure you didn’t intend to, but when you make comments about my appearance it makes me uncomfortable.” Sharp says this will get the message across in a diplomatic way.

What they could have said instead: “You look great!”

19. “You’re So Articulate.”

Why it’s backhanded: Calling you articulate is a way to express shock that you said something intelligent. It has the same vibe as, “Wow, I didn’t expect you to be good at this.” The “you’re so articulate” comment also comes with a long history of racism, especially when aimed at Black people, Ballard says.

How to respond: “What did I say that surprised you?” Again, asking someone to explain their comment is a subtle way of calling them out.

What they could have said instead: Nothing. Or something like, “It’s always such a pleasure to talk to you. I’m glad we ran into each other.”

20. “You’re So Pretty. I Don’t Get Why You’re Still Single.”

Why it’s backhanded: This backhanded compliment can send your brain swirling through a list of possible meanings. Are they saying something else is wrong with you? Or that you’re incomplete until you meet a partner? Whatever it is, it won’t feel good.

How to respond: “How are the two related?”Depending on the type of relationship you have with your friend, you can straight up call them out or ignore them, Sharp says. “You can also respond to a portion of the backhanded compliment that feels genuine, in order to maintain positivity,” she tells Bustle. “Everyone handles these situations differently, but the important part is validating your feelings for yourself.”

What they could have said instead: “We haven’t chatted about our dating lives in forever! Are you talking to anyone or nah?”

21. “I Love Your Nails. It Must Be Nice To Have So Much Extra Time In Your Day To Pamper Yourself.”

Why it’s backhanded: “This may be an innocent comment,” Spinella tells Bustle. “But it’s also understandable for someone to be put off by hearing it. You might think, are they implying that I don’t have a lot going on or that I am prioritizing the wrong things?”

How to respond: “What do you mean?” While it’s often possible to glean the intent of a backhanded compliment, Spinella says it’s best to ask for clarification, especially if the words hurt.

What they could have said instead: “I love how you did your nails! It can be so hard to prioritize self-care with a busy schedule. Maybe you can help me do the same?”

22. “You Look So Comfortable!”

Why it’s backhanded: This isn’t a real compliment, says wellness coach Dr. Cali Estes. Instead of saying what they really think, it’s a roundabout way for your friend to indicate that they don’t like your outfit or that they think it’s inappropriate for a situation.

How to respond: “Thanks! I’m so grateful to be comfortable so I can fully enjoy myself at this wedding.”

What they could have said instead: “I love your outfit. I really wish I would have chosen something more comfortable, too.”

23. “You’re Incredible For Working That Hard! I Could Never Leave My Cat Alone All Day.”

Why it’s backhanded: While it feels like they’re complimenting your work ethic, what they’re actually doing is commenting on your choices as a caretaker. This one’s also commonly aimed at new moms, according to Dr. Anisha Patel-Dunn, DO, a psychiatrist and chief medical officer of LifeStance Health.

How to respond: “What do you mean by that?” Patel-Dunn recommends asking for more info. For instance, “Ouch, I feel a bit hurt by that comment. Can you clarify what you mean because this is what I heard…”

What they could have said instead: “You’re the queen of getting stuff done. How do you do it?”

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