Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
Future Mother-in-Law Offers $10K to Bride to Leave Her Son – She Takes It but Outplays Her Instead
A woman’s future mother-in-law gave her an offer she couldn’t refuse, or so she thought. Thirty years later, the woman didn’t tell her husband what the older woman had done and has since lived happily.After a woman and her friend got their nursing qualifications, they moved to another town. They decided to move after learning that the city has some of the most eligible bachelors in the area, based on a publication they had read.When the woman moved, she met her future husband and began dating.
However,their relationship was complicated because the man’s mother had a problem with her son dating the nurse.The nurse’s future mother-in-law made it clear that she didn’t think the nurse was good enough for their family and tried many times to dissuade her son from dating or marrying the nurse. The man didn’t know the lengths his mother would go to to try and end the relationship.
What Was the Nurse’s Relationship with Her Mother-In-Law? When the couple got engaged,the man’s mother was horrified and tried to break them up for a few months. She told the nurse to return to the city she came from and let her son know she didn’t believe the nurse was good enough for him.
The nurse’s mother-in-law was horrible to her privately “but hides it well to other people, always making sure she’s super (fake) sweet to everyone when others are around.” This led people to believe the pair had a friendly relationship.
After months of trying to break the couple up,she did not succeed. After the couple confirmed their wedding plans, the older woman became desperate. She decided to offer the nurse something she felt the nurse couldn’t resist.
What Did the Mother-In-Law Offer the Nurse? The older woman knew the wedding was imminent, and she had run out of ways to break the couple up, so she took drastic measures. She told the nurse that if she left her fiancé, she would give her $10,000. The nurse was horrified that her mother-in-law would make such an offer but used it to her advantage. She remained calm and told her mother-in-law she would take the money she was offering.
According to a reader’s comment, the amount equated to over $20,000 as of 2017. Although she accepted the money, the nurse still married her husband and did not tell anybody what her mother-in-law had offered her. The nurse’s mother-in-law also could not say anything without exposing herself.
The nurse and her husband have been married for over 35 years, have welcomed children, and lived happily, all while the nurse’s mother-in-law has suffered in silence as she does not want to expose herself. After the nurse’s story was shared online, many commented that the sum would be worth nearly $80,000 in 2017 if the nurse had invested the money. One person said they wanted to high-five the nurse.
The same person advised others always to take the money offered and make the person who had offered it choke on it. Some people thought the nurse’s mother-in-law could have told people that she had asked for $10,000 compensation in exchange for leaving her fiancé, but others agreed it would still have made her look bad.
Although some questioned why the nurse’s mother-in-law would not blame it on the nurse because it would mean she paid the woman to break her son’s heart, others said the older woman had never cared about her son’s heart in the first place.
Many others talked about what they would have done with the money, with one person saying they would have put it in a joint account and told their husband that his mother had given it to them as a wedding present. The nurse’s story gained much attention, and many people shared their opinions on the woman’s mother-in-law and applauded her for having handled the situation so calmly and keeping the secret for so many years.
Unfortunately, many women experience issues with their mothers-in-law and have to depend on their partners to set the women straight. This was no different with a woman who received a nasty text from her husband’s mother.
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