Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
Donna Mills Defied the Odds at 54 – Meet Her Beautiful Daughter Who’s Now Pregnant at 30!
Donna Mills has always done things her own way, both in Hollywood and in her personal life. At 54, she made the bold choice to become a mother, even though some people doubted her ability to raise a child at that age. Now, 30 years later, she is excited to become a grandmother.
For many years, Donna Mills was a well-known face in Hollywood, famous for her roles on popular TV shows and her passion for acting. But she had a strong desire for something more. This led her to step away from her successful career and embrace motherhood, even when many thought it was too late.
Although some people were surprised by her choice, Donna’s determination remained strong. Her child became the most important part of her life, and she has treasured being a mother more than any other role.
Now, as her life comes full circle, Donna is about to become a grandmother. Her story is one of perseverance, love, and defying what society expects.
Defying Society’s Expectations and Choosing Motherhood
When Donna decided to adopt her daughter, Chloe, at 54, many people were doubtful. They thought she was too old to raise a child and often said things like, “You’ll be too old to keep up with a little toddler running around.”
But Donna didn’t let these doubts stop her. Despite the criticism, she was sure she could handle it. “I never felt older than the other mothers, who were probably in their 20s,” she said.
Before adopting Chloe, Donna was deeply focused on her acting career. She had become well-known in Hollywood, starring in shows like *Knots Landing*. However, despite her success, she felt something was missing. “I was jealous every time I saw a kid run up to their mom and say ‘mommy, mommy!’” Donna once admitted.
The desire for a child grew stronger over time, and Donna knew her life wouldn’t feel complete without one. “As wonderful as my career was, as wonderful as my life was, there was a big hole,” she explained.
Putting Her Career on Hold for 18 Years
After adopting Chloe, Donna made a surprising and significant choice. She stepped away from her thriving acting career for 18 years to focus completely on being a mother. At first, Donna managed to balance both work and parenting.
During Chloe’s early years, Donna accepted roles in TV movies and took her daughter along with her wherever she went. However, when Chloe started school, Donna realized she couldn’t keep up the same pace with her career.
“I wasn’t going to go out of town for two months at a time,” Donna explained. “I didn’t become a mother to hand her over to a nanny.”
Although stepping away from the career she had worked so hard to build was a big change in her life, Donna never regretted it. She has even encouraged others to think about having children later in life, sharing her belief that it helped her be more present and focused as a mother.
“If you want to focus on your career, I believe having a child later in life is better than having one early,” she advised. For Donna, her decision to adopt Chloe at 54 gave her the chance to give motherhood her full attention, something she felt wouldn’t have been possible earlier in her career.
Donna Mills is also excited for this next chapter, knowing that the strong bond she built with Chloe will now extend to the next generation.
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