This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
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Neighbor Tossed Gravel onto My Immaculate Lawn During My Vacation, I Executed the Perfect Retaliation
After returning from a lovely vacation in Hawaii, 50-year-old Wendy was dismayed to find her beautiful lawn buried under a huge pile of gravel, dumped there by her inconsiderate neighbor, Tom. When he refused to take responsibility for the mess, Wendy decided to take matters into her own hands with a clever revenge plan that soon became the talk of the neighborhood.
Wendy was excited to come home and enjoy her cherished yard, but her joy quickly turned to shock. Instead of a lush green lawn, there was a mountain of gravel that made her garden look like a construction site.
She stormed over to Tom’s house, where he was lounging on the couch, seemingly unconcerned. When Wendy confronted him, he casually admitted he dumped the gravel there because he needed space for a renovation project, not caring about the damage he caused to her lawn.
Wendy was furious and demanded that Tom fix her lawn. He brushed her off, saying it was just gravel and no big deal. Feeling disrespected, Wendy left his house, determined to get even.
Over the next few days, she worked tirelessly, using a wheelbarrow to haul the gravel back to Tom’s driveway. Tom saw her efforts and tried to stop her, but Wendy explained she was simply returning his mess. Their exchange escalated, but Wendy remained resolute, enjoying the sight of his frustration as her hard work transformed his driveway into a gravel pile.
Wendy knew she needed to escalate her plan, so she turned her attention to Tom’s prized garden gnome collection. Enlisting the help of two friends, they snuck into Tom’s yard at night and “liberated” the gnomes. The next day, they took the gnomes on a hilarious town adventure, taking photos of them at various landmarks.
When Tom discovered his gnomes were missing, he was frantic. Wendy feigned innocence and teased him about their vacation. She handed him photos of the gnomes having fun, insisting they wouldn’t return until he compensated her for the lawn damage.
Despite the laughter around the neighborhood, Tom refused to budge. He had a big dinner party planned and loved showing off his garden, which gave Wendy another idea. That night, she returned the gnomes, but with a twist: she dressed them up in funny poses and scenarios, creating a scene that would shock his guests.
When Tom woke up to find his gnomes in embarrassing positions, he was mortified. The neighborhood buzzed with gossip, and he was left scrambling to restore order. Eventually, Tom came to Wendy, defeated and ready to make amends. He finally offered to pay her for the lawn repairs. Wendy agreed, reminding him of the lesson he needed to learn about being a good neighbor.
To celebrate the return of her lawn, Wendy threw a barbecue party and made Tom the reluctant host. She decorated the area with photos of the gnome adventure, ensuring everyone enjoyed a good laugh. Wendy wondered if she had gone too far, but deep down, she felt that Tom had it coming. After all, sometimes a little playful revenge can teach valuable lessons about respect and community.
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