My husband and I bought our granddaughter a wedding gift from her registry. She reached out and accused us of being cheap after getting the wedding present. Now, she is upset and threatens to cut us off because we didn’t give her the cash gift that we presented to each of our grandkids a day before their wedding.
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I’m in my 70s, a proud grandmother to five amazing grandkids: three women and two men. I adore my grandkids and often show up for them emotionally and financially. Whenever they have celebrations or hard times, they know that they can count on me.
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The youngest of grandkids, Eloise, got married last October. My husband, who is also in his 70s, and I have a tradition for our grandkids. We buy a small gift from the wedding registry, usually the cheapest item, and then, the day before the wedding, we give them a check for $40,000.
We hope they’ll use it for a house, but it’s ultimately their choice. We also ask them to keep it a secret, considering our large family. Until now, everyone has respected this request.
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This time, we sent an air fryer to our youngest granddaughter, the cheapest thing on her registry. Eloise called us, livid, accusing us of being cheap. I remember picking up her call and she didn’t even say hi, she just started ranting, “Seriously, Grandma? I just got your gift. An air fryer? That’s the cheapest thing you could find on my registry!”
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I was taken aback because as much as the air fryer was the cheapest on their registry, I still thought it’d be useful to them, so I told her that. Eloise kept on complaining, “Useful? Come on, you know you can do better than that. Everyone knows you have the money. I just can’t believe you’d be this cheap with me. It’s embarrassing.”
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In this heated moment, I told her, “Yes, you’re right. We are cheap, old, and useless. The only thing you DIDN’T know is that the day before the wedding, we were going to gift you a check for $40,000.”
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I revealed this in an attempt to explain to Eloise about the cash gift we usually give our grandkids before the wedding but she was so angry at this point, that she wasn’t listening to a thing I said. I speculated that maybe she didn’t believe we would gift her such an amount of money after only buying her an air fryer.
Eventually, she said, “No, it’s clear. You just don’t love me enough to show it. You know how much pressure I’m under with the wedding. And then, this? It’s like you don’t even care,” then she hung up.
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Despite my husband and I’s shock at Eloise’s reaction, we then bought her a China set, hoping to appease her, but decided against giving her the $40,000, feeling she hadn’t earned it.
Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling her the truth about the money. After confirming it with her cousins, she, called again, accusing us of discrimination, “I just found out that it’s true you gave the money to everyone else when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?”
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We stood firm, explaining our stance was due to her initial reaction, “We felt after your reaction to the wedding gift, it wasn’t right to go ahead and gift you the money.” Eloise pleaded trying to convince us otherwise, “So, you’re punishing me? Is that it? Because I was upset about an air fryer?”
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I was angry that she didn’t even understand what she did wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was how you spoke to us, the disrespect. That’s not something we expected or can support,” I explained.
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Eloise implored us, nearly in tears, “But that’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard, and I just snapped. I didn’t mean any of it.” I felt like she should have only apologized to us instead of finding excuses to justify her behavior.
However, I told her, “We understand that it’s a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hoped you’d understand the value of family and love over material things.” Full of desperation, Eloise added, “But you don’t understand! Can’t we just forget all this happened? I need that money, Grandma.”
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She pleaded, threatened to boycott Christmas, and accused us of cutting her off but we didn’t budge. In the end, I expressed, “We love you very much. This has nothing to do with cutting you off. We just hope you’ll reflect on this and understand why we made our decision.”
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Now, Eloise has followed up on her threat and she’s boycotting Christmas. Her mother, who is our daughter-in-law, is siding with her, calling us unreasonable. However, we feel that after all we have done for Eloise, the air fryer gift, shouldn’t have triggered this reaction.
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For context, we had already paid for her college, and her parents covered her graduate school and half the wedding. Additionally, she and her husband are financially comfortable and do not desperately need our money.
We’re also not upset with our grandkids for revealing the cash gift since she is among the group of family members who are allowed to know about it. Our reason for sending the air fryer earlier was that we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.
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The wedding gift is also separate from the money, which we give with the hope it will be used for something significant, like a home. Now, we feel like the action we took towards Eloise was well deserved and we are not going back on our decisions even if she and her mom threaten to do their worst.
Despite the tumultuous events and Eloise’s refusal to understand our perspective, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect in our family are paramount, and we hoped this situation would be a learning experience for her.
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The holidays might be quieter this year with her family’s absence, but our hope is for healing and understanding in the future. Our door and hearts remain open to Eloise, whenever she’s ready to mend fences.
CHRISTOPHER REEVE WAS READY TO GIVE UP—THEN HIS WIFE SAID 8 LIFE-CHANGING WORDS
Christopher Reeve had a major accident that left him paralyzed. He felt very hopeless and thought about ending his life. But everything changed when his wife said some supportive and encouraging words to him.
Christopher Reeve was well-known for playing Clark Kent in the popular “Superman” movies. His role made him loved by fans all over the world.
Christopher Reeve met his future wife through their shared love for the performing arts. One night, while taking a break, he went to a cabaret show and was captivated by a performer named Dana Morosini.
Winning Dana Morosini’s heart took some effort, but Christopher Reeve eventually succeeded. The couple married in 1992 and welcomed their son, William Reeve, later that same year.
In 1995, Christopher’s life changed dramatically when he was paralyzed from the neck down after a horse-riding accident during a cross-country competition.
In a heartfelt interview in May 2001, six years after his accident, Christopher Reeve talked about how his life had changed. He found it hard to believe that six years had gone by, feeling like the time was both very long and very short.
Christopher shared that he sometimes had flashbacks to the day of the accident, even though he tried not to think about it. He described that day as “very hot, very humid, and very lethargic.”
The Emmy Award winner also remembered feeling that “things weren’t really in the groove” that day. He admitted that he wasn’t fully into the competition and had even thought about going sailing instead.
Over time, Christopher found it easier to accept what had happened. The thoughts about what he could have done differently slowly began to fade.
Although Christopher knew his injuries might feel heavier over time, he decided to keep moving forward and not let those thoughts control his future.
When asked about how the accident affected his family, Christopher explained that while he had faced many injuries before, he always managed to recover without lasting effects.
He admitted that he used to think, “I must not injure myself to avoid becoming incapacitated.” This time, he realized how deeply his injury affected his loved ones.
He felt very guilty and recognized the burden his condition placed on his wife and children. “It’s okay to make your own mess, as long as it doesn’t affect others,” he said. But this injury had clearly impacted those closest to him.
Christopher recalled always trying to avoid serious injuries that could leave him incapacitated. But this time, he understood how deeply his injury affected his loved ones.
He admitted feeling very guilty, recognizing the burden his condition placed on his wife and children. He reflected, “It’s okay to make your own mess, as long as it doesn’t affect others.” Unfortunately, his injuries had a significant impact on those closest to him.
Christopher wondered how his family would cope and adjust to his condition. He realized they couldn’t do the things they used to do before the accident.
He also worried about how he would support his family financially and felt especially sad for his two older children, Matthew and Alexandra, from his previous relationship. They were only 15 and 11 when he got injured.
When Christopher woke up in the hospital after the accident, he was filled with despair and even thought about ending his life. In a moment of deep vulnerability, he asked his wife, Dana, if she would let him go. Dana looked him in the eye and said, “‘But you’re still you, and I love you.’” Her words gave him hope and strength to keep going.
On Instagram, social media users had strong reactions to this story. One person commented, “That’s so heartbreaking but the strength she gave him has me in awe.” Another user praised Dana, saying, “That is an amazing woman,” while someone else simply stated, “What a sad story.”
Dana’s unwavering love and support became a crucial turning point for Christopher, motivating him to aim for walking again. Her powerful words also inspired the title of his book, “Still Me.” This deep support helped Christopher find reasons to continue despite his injury.
The author encouraged people not to give up, reminding them that breakthroughs can happen. He talked about how, after the initial shock and grief of an accident, people face a choice: to give in to despair or to use their resources to make a positive difference.
For Christopher, the choice was clear—he chose to fight against the physical and emotional challenges, driven by his competitive spirit and determination to overcome the effects of his condition.
Christopher shared that for three years after his accident, he never dreamed of being in a wheelchair. Each morning, it took him a few moments to adjust and remember that he couldn’t move his arms or legs.
Reality often took five to ten minutes to sink in. In his dreams, he still saw himself doing activities he once enjoyed—sailing, riding, traveling, and acting on stage. His mind held onto memories of when he was able-bodied.
Christopher emphasized that while he couldn’t represent all disabilities due to his limited knowledge, he was dedicated to raising awareness. He worked hard to secure a two-hour primetime TV special that highlighted spinal cord injuries and showcased disabled performers.
Through his foundation, Christopher directed 30 percent of the funds raised to improve the quality of life for people with disabilities. He personally focused on research, therapies, and finding cures.
The actor acknowledged that, like any public figure, he was aware of differing opinions about his work. He believed everyone, including those with disabilities, had the right to focus their energy on their chosen goals, even if others disagreed with their approach.
Sadly, Christopher Reeve passed away in October 2004 from an infection. A year later, his wife Dana Reeve was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer. She also passed away, two years later, in March 2006.
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