While celebrating a new life and transitioning into a new role, a mother found herself struggling to get a moment alone after she welcomed her daughter. A time that was meant to be exciting for her and her husband led to them having a big fight over their parenting roles.
In the whirlwind of joy and exhaustion in the early days of parenthood, a mother found herself longing for a mere moment of quietness and alone time. She took to Reddit to share her frustrations. She started off by explaining that she had only had her child for two weeks. Her daughter was strictly breastfeeding, but in addition to cluster feeding, she realized her daughter found comfort in being close to her.
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This meant that her new role allowed her little to no time alone. “I’ve showered once by myself since having her, and it only lasted long enough for me to soap up before she was crying and my husband was bringing her into the bathroom with me. I think I literally had all of 2-3 minutes,” she wrote.
On the contrary, she noticed her husband’s life had not changed. He still got to have long and uninterrupted showers every day but never understood why his showers frustrated his wife.
Each time she was in the shower, and the baby would cry, her husband would bring their newborn to her to calm her down. It made her angry that he did not even try to calm the baby down on his own, but his excuse was that the child loved showers, and seeing her cry hurt him deeply.
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As sweet as his fears sounded, the Redditor still needed to find a way to get a full self-care routine without a baby being handed over to her. So, she decided to call in help. She asked her mother to watch her daughter as she showered. Her husband was not there when she reached out to her child’s grandmother, but when he arrived, he asked what his mother-in-law was doing at their house.
Surprisingly, he was angry at his wife’s decision to call her mother just to take a shower. “I could have watched her. Why would you do that?” he asked, to which the Redditor responded, “Every time you watch her while I shower, she ends up in here with me within 2 minutes of me being in here because you don’t even try to calm her down.”
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Therefore, after five days of trying to shave her legs, she could not wait to enjoy the warm water hitting her body and relaxing her muscles. “I need to self-care,” the Redditor emphasized.
The original poster’s honest account of her experience as a new mother erupted in a chorus of voices from commenters sharing their own experiences and offering support. One commenter challenged the husband’s logic and suggested, “If, according to hubby, showers calm her down, why isn’t he taking her on his 30-60 minute showers?”
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Another suggestion was for the OP to lock the door as a temporary solution and to teach her husband a lesson on respecting someone’s privacy. Another Reddit user said the husband made himself look bad in front of his mother-in-law, but it was time he realized that he could also parent his daughter without always running to his wife.
The discussion took a deeper dive into the dynamics of communication and support within the relationship. Commenters pointed out the absurdity that the husband had been more concerned about his wife calling her mother rather than making sure that his wife’s well-being was attended to. “You found a way around it. And now, even knowing how hard it’s been for you, he’s still not actually concerned about you; he’s just worried about how it looks to your mum,” remarked a commenter.
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One mother said her husband once interrupted her hair appointment but she had a serious conversation with him and made him look back at the number of haircuts he had had since their baby arrived. She told him never to interrupt her alone time unless it was an emergency, so the commenter advised the OP to have the same stern conversation with her husband.
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Another commenter shared a personal story of how her husband had slacked at the beginning of their parenting journey and how she eventually found a way to work as a team. The mother said her baby was a bit fussy on the first night home and she would always take the lead and calm her down.
But after three days, she put on earplugs and requested her husband only wake her up when the baby needed a feed and let her partner take care of the baby during the night, which led to a more equitable parenting dynamic.
The commenter added that allocating responsibilities helped them both understand the difficulty and joy of caring for a newborn, but it also allowed them to foster empathy and understanding. “That night, my partner became an equal parent,” the commenter added.
Here is a story about a newborn who cried nonstop no matter what the parents did. But they eventually realized the answer to their child’s misery was in the crib.
I Accidentally Grabbed the Wrong Luggage at the Airport — What I Saw Inside Made My Jaw Drop
I Accidentally Grabbed the Wrong Luggage at the Airport — What I Saw Inside Made My Jaw Drop
When Clara realizes she has grabbed the wrong suitcase at the airport, she doesn’t expect anything unusual. But as she opens it, her jaw drops in shock. Among the clothes lies a mysterious envelope that will change everything.
“Bella, make sure you grab the right one,” I called out, half-jokingly.
“Don’t worry, Clara,” Bella laughed. “I know which one’s mine.”
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I never thought a simple suitcase mix-up could lead to such an emotional rollercoaster. It all started at my parents’ house.
Mom’s birthday weekend was lovely. My sister, Bella, and I had a great time catching up with our parents. But now, it was time to head back to reality.
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We were in the front yard, stuffing our suitcases into the trunk of our Uber.
Our identical suitcases, I should add.
Mom had gifted us these suitcases many Christmases ago, and it had never been a problem… until that day.
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Mom came out to wave us off, a warm smile on her face.
“Safe travels, girls. Call when you get home.”
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“Do you have everything? Tickets, phones, chargers?” Dad asked, helping us load the luggage.
“Yep, all set!” I said, giving him a quick hug.
Bella and I got into the car, and as we drove off, I felt a familiar pang of sadness.
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Leaving home always made me a little nostalgic. After I moved out, college barely gave me any free time. So now my visits to Mom and Dad’s were limited to holidays and special occasions.
I cherished those rare moments, whether it was Thanksgiving, Christmas, or just a random weekend when I could break away.
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“I wish we could stay longer,” I sighed, staring out the car window.
“I know,” Bella agreed. “But we’ll be back soon. Cheer up!”
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We chatted about the weekend and our plans for the next visit. Bella and I live in different states, and we were already excited about our upcoming visit.
The drive to the airport was smooth, but I couldn’t shake the feeling of already missing home.
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Finally, we reached the airport, checked in, and went our separate ways to catch our flights. I arrived back at my apartment later that evening, exhausted but content.
As I opened the suitcase in my living room, expecting to see my clothes neatly packed, I froze.
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Staring back at me were Bella’s shoes and clothes. I plopped down on my couch, chuckling about the suitcase mix-up.
I started pulling out clothes and shoes, realizing these were all Bella’s things. “Typical,” I muttered, shaking my head.
But then, something else caught my eye.
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An envelope lay nestled between Bella’s clothes.
My heart skipped a beat when I saw the familiar handwriting: “Open When Clara Is Not Around!”
It was unmistakably Mom’s handwriting.
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With a deep breath, I opened the envelope.
“What the…?” I whispered as I saw what was inside.
I sat back and stared at the envelope, memories flooding my mind.
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Just a few days ago, I had asked my parents for help with buying a new car.
They had shaken their heads, saying they were low on money and believed I could handle it since I was an adult. I had accepted it, even though it hurt a bit.
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Then, I remembered how Bella had been scrolling online and showed us a photo of a bag she really liked.
She had received a lot of attention for it, and I had brushed it off as a normal sibling thing.
But now that I saw money inside the envelope, my worst fears were confirmed.
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I have always been insecure that Mom and Dad like Bella more. So if this money was for her, I was right all along.
I paced around my kitchen, the envelope of money sitting on the counter. My mind raced with questions. I had to know what was going on.
Finally, I picked up my phone and called Bella.
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“Hey, Clara!” Bella answered cheerfully. “Did you get my stuff?”
“Yeah, I did,” I replied, trying to keep my tone light. “Looks like we swapped suitcases. I’ll mail your things back as soon as possible.”
“Same here,” Bella said. “I’ve got your stuff too. I’ll send it out tomorrow.”
“Thanks,” I said, hesitating before bringing up the envelope.
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“By the way, did you know there was an envelope in your suitcase?” I asked.
There was a brief silence on the other end.
“Envelope? No, I didn’t know about that.”
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“I thought maybe Mom put it there for you.”
Bella sounded genuinely surprised. “Really? That’s weird. Maybe Mom sneaked it in before we left. Did you see what it’s for?”
“No, not really,” I lied, feeling uneasy. “Just thought you might know.”
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“Sorry, sis, I have no idea,” Bella said.
“Yeah, it’s weird,” I said, feeling more confused than ever. “Talk to you later.”
“Later,” Bella said, hanging up.
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I put my phone down and stared at the envelope. Bella sounded clueless, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that something wasn’t right.
Was she being completely honest with me?
I decided I needed to call my mom and get to the bottom of this. I had to know what the money was really for and why it was hidden in Bella’s suitcase.
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I sat on my bed, the envelope still in my hand, and took a deep breath. Then, I dialed Mom’s number.
“Hi, sweetheart!” Mom answered cheerfully. “How was your trip back?”
“It was fine, Mom,” I replied, trying to keep my voice steady. “I need to talk to you about something…”
“Yes?”
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“I found an envelope in Bella’s suitcase with your handwriting on it. It said, ‘Open When Clara Is Not Around!’”
Mom went totally quiet as if she was thinking what to say next.
“Oh, that’s strange,” she said eventually. “What was in the envelope?”
I lost my cool.
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“Money, Mom! A stack of money,” I said, feeling a lump form in my throat. “I thought you said you didn’t have any money to help me with a new car! What’s going on?”
I could hear her sighing.
“Money? Oh, Clara, I’m so sorry. That envelope wasn’t meant for Bella. It was for you.”
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“For me?” I repeated, my mind spinning. “But why hide it in Bella’s suitcase? Why not just give it to me?”
“Sweetheart, it was supposed to be a surprise,” Mom explained gently.
“What?”
Mom started explaining what had happened.
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“Honey, your dad and I wanted to help you get a new car. It was all Bella’s idea that we’ll surprise you. We only remembered at the last moment that we hadn’t given Bella the envelope with our share. She contributed, too. Your dad must have mixed up the suitcases by accident, and well, you ended up with the money.”
“But like, I mean… Didn’t you guys say you were a bit tight on money?”
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“Oh, sweetheart, don’t worry about that. We managed. And it’s only now that I’m getting Bella’s text that I shouldn’t tell you everything! Oh, dear!” she laughed. “Sorry, hun. Didn’t want to hurt you,” Mom continued.
“So, you weren’t giving Bella money for that bag she wanted?” I asked.
Mom chuckled softly. “No, Clara. The money was always meant for you. We wanted to show you that we believe in you and support you, even if we didn’t have much to give at the moment.”
A woman holding a stylish bag | Source: Freepik
I didn’t know whether to cry from relief or laugh at the misunderstanding.
“Mom, I’m sorry I doubted you and Bella. I just… I’ve been feeling a bit insecure lately,” I said, feeling like I had been a terrible daughter.
“Oh, honey,” Mom said, her voice filled with warmth. “We love you so much, and we’re proud of you. Bella and I just wanted to make things a little easier for you. Now, enjoy that money and get yourself a nice car. This is for you and only you.”
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“I will,” I said, feeling a weight lift off my shoulders. “I love you, Mom. Thank you so much for this.”
“Love you too, Clara,” she said before we hung up.
I sat there for a moment, overwhelmed with emotions. I had been so quick to assume the worst, and now I felt a mixture of relief and guilt. But more than anything, I felt grateful for my family’s love and support.
I picked up my phone and dialed Bella.
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“Hey, Bella. I just talked to Mom. Thank you for the surprise. It means a lot to me.”
Bella laughed. “No problem, Clara. We just wanted to help. I’m glad you found the surprise, even if it was a bit mixed up!”
I couldn’t help but chuckle. “I was so stupid to act like that,” I said. “Thanks for everything. Love you so, so much!”
Have you ever ended up in a silly yet heartwarming situation like this?
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