Budgeting is important. But when my husband demanded I JUSTIFY every dollar I spent, even on essentials like diapers and tampons, I realized this wasn’t about money. So I played along, but he had no idea I was about to teach him the most expensive lesson of his life.
I never thought marriage would turn into a daily accounting session. Yet there I was, a mother of twin babies, writing down why I needed to buy diapers and shampoo like I was applying for a loan from the world’s most condescending bank. But trust me when I say this… the reckoning that followed was worth every humiliating entry in that little notebook.
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Let me start from the beginning…
My husband, Ethan, and I had been together for six years, married for three. Before our twins arrived, we were equals. I had my marketing career and he had his finance job. We split expenses evenly and never argued about money.
“Look at us adulting like pros,” Ethan joked after we finished our monthly budget review. “Most couples fight about money, but we’ve got this down to a science.”
I laughed and clinked my coffee mug against his. “That’s because neither of us is trying to be the boss of the other’s wallet. Novel concept, right?”
Then I got pregnant with twins… and EVERYTHING changed.
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We agreed I’d take a year off to care for our babies before returning to work. It seemed like a solid plan at the time.
The twins, James and Lily, arrived in a whirlwind of sleepless nights and endless diaper changes. I barely had time to shower, let alone worry about household finances.
But as months passed, I noticed the change in Ethan. It began with small comments, dropped casually like breadcrumbs leading to something darker.
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“Holy cow, we’re burning through formula like it’s free,” he remarked one evening, eyebrows shooting up as I added it to our shopping list.
“Yeah, turns out babies don’t photosynthesize,” I replied dryly. “They need actual food! Crazy concept.”
He sighed. “At this rate, I might as well just hand my paycheck straight to the cashier and call it a day.”
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The comments continued, gaining frequency and edge. One night, as I rocked Lily to sleep, Ethan appeared in the doorway, waving a receipt like it was evidence in a murder trial.
“Another grocery run? What is this, your third pilgrimage this week?”
“No, it’s my secret affair with the cashier,” I whispered sarcastically. “We needed diapers, Ethan. Unless you’d prefer the twins start using the backyard like the neighbor’s dog.”
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The breaking point came on a Tuesday night. The twins were finally asleep, and I managed to cook an actual meal instead of ordering takeout.
Ethan sat down at the table, looking at the roast chicken with approval. “Wow, real food that doesn’t come in a delivery bag. I’m impressed.”
“Thanks,” I smiled, pouring water. “I figured we deserved something that didn’t taste like cardboard for once.”
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He took a bite, then set down his fork with the deliberation of someone about to detonate an explosive. “I’ve been thinking about our spending.”
My stomach tightened. “What about it?”
“I think you need to be more mindful about spending since you’re NOT earning right now.”
I blinked. “I’m sorry, what was that? The sound of your foot entering your mouth must have distorted your words.”
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“You’re not earning right now, Lauren,” he repeated firmly. “I think you should track what you spend and justify it. It’ll teach you to be more economical.”
I laughed sharply. “Oh, that’s rich. Tell me, what’s the going rate for a 24/7 nanny, housekeeper, and personal chef these days? Because I’m pretty sure I’m saving us about five grand a month.”
“Don’t be dramatic,” he snapped. “I just think it would be helpful for you to understand where the money goes.”
“Oh, I understand perfectly. Into keeping your children alive and your house from turning into a biohazard zone.”
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“Why are you making this into such a big deal?” he asked, exasperated. “I’m the only one bringing in money right now.”
“Fine,” I said, pushing back from the table. “You want receipts? I’ll give you receipts. And I hope you enjoy sleeping in the guest room tonight, because the Bank of Ethan doesn’t extend credit to this particular bed.”
The next morning, I found a notebook on the kitchen counter with a bright yellow sticky note: “Every purchase needs an explanation. This will help you learn better budgeting!”
I stood there, my twins balanced on each hip, staring at that patronizing exclamation mark as tears threatened to spill.
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When Ethan came into the kitchen, I was still standing there.
“You can’t be serious about this,” I said, nodding toward the notebook.
He poured himself coffee, calm as he could be. “I am. It’s just a good habit to develop.”
“A good habit? Next you’ll be asking me to raise my hand to use the bathroom.”
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“Very funny. Just write down WHAT you buy and WHY.”
“And if I don’t?”
His jaw tightened. “Then maybe we need to rethink how we handle household finances.”
“Meaning what, exactly? An allowance? A gold star when I’ve been extra thrifty? Or maybe you’d prefer if I just start bartering… a load of laundry for a new tube of toothpaste?”
“Just try this for now. Period.”
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“Sure thing, boss,” I replied, my voice syrupy sweet. “Anything else? Should I start calling you Sir? Perhaps bow when you enter the room?”
He rolled his eyes and headed for the door. “Just fill out the notebook, Lauren.”
I looked down at James and Lily, then back at the notebook.
“Well, kids,” I whispered. “Looks like Mommy’s about to teach Daddy a lesson in creative accounting.”
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For the first week, I played along. Every purchase was meticulously documented with an explanation that walked the line between compliance and defiance.
“Milk – $4.99. Because apparently the twins can’t survive on water and good intentions.” They need calcium.”
“Diapers – $19.50. Unless you’d prefer I use your dress shirts as alternative wiping materials.”
“Toilet paper – $8.99. For when nature calls and doesn’t send a text first.”
Ethan reviewed the notebook each night, his mouth tightening.
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“Is all this sarcasm really necessary?” he asked, skimming through the pages.
I batted my eyelashes innocently. “What? I’m being thorough. Isn’t that what financial responsibility looks like?”
“You know what I meant.”
“Do I? Because from where I’m standing, it seems like you’ve mistaken me for an employee rather than your wife.”
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Week two arrived, and with it, my counter-strategy. While Ethan was at work, I went through his wallet, our credit card statements, and his personal account. That evening, when he sat down to review my entries, he found something unexpected.
“Six-pack of craft beer – $14.99,” he read aloud, his voice rising. “Note: Essential for husband’s ability to watch sports without becoming insufferable.”
His eyes widened as he continued.
“Online poker deposit – $50. Note: Because gambling is a ‘hobby’ when men do it and ‘irresponsible’ when women buy a $5 latte.”
He flipped the page, his face reddening.
“Takeout lunch – $17.45. Note: Could have packed a lunch for $2, but that would require advance planning and basic kitchen skills.”
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He slammed the notebook down. “What the hell is this?”
I looked up from the laundry I was folding, the picture of innocence. “Oh, I decided to be extra helpful and track all household expenses. Comprehensive budgeting, right?”
“This isn’t about me,” he snapped.
“Oh, but it is. You’re part of this household, aren’t you? Or does the great financial overlord exist outside the rules he creates for his subjects?”
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Ethan stood up and walked out of the room.
“Don’t forget to document tomorrow’s coffee run!” I called after him. “I hear financial transparency is all the rage these days!”
But I wasn’t done yet.
For the next few days, an uneasy truce settled over our home. Then came the invitation to dinner at his parents’ house. Perfect.
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“Mom wants to see the twins on Saturday,” Ethan said.
I nodded, a plan forming. “It’ll be nice to get out of the house and interact with adults who don’t ask me to justify buying toothpaste.”
My in-laws, Mary and Victor, had always been kind to me, especially Mary, who had been a source of support since the twins were born.
Saturday arrived, and I packed the diaper bag with extra care, making sure to include one special item.
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Mary greeted us warmly, cooing over James and Lily. Dinner was pleasant enough, and as we finished the dessert, Mary turned to me.
“Lauren, honey, you look exhausted. Are the twins still not sleeping through the night?”
I smiled, seeing my opening. “Oh, you know, between the babies and the homework, sleep is a luxury.”
She tilted her head, confused. “Homework? What homework?”
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“Oh, didn’t Ethan tell you about his exciting new financial literacy program?” I reached into the diaper bag and pulled out the notebook. “Ethan’s been teaching me the value of a dollar while I’m on maternity leave.”
Her eyebrows shot up. “Is that so?”
“Mmm-hmm. He makes me write explanations for everything I buy. Like a seventh-grade economics project, but with more sleep deprivation.”
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Mary’s expression shifted from curiosity to disbelief. “He what..?”
Victor leaned forward, frowning. “Son, please tell me this isn’t what it sounds like.”
Ethan’s face drained of color. “It’s not… Mom, Dad, it’s just a budgeting exercise.”
“A budgeting exercise?” I asked, grinning like a Cheshire cat. “Let me read you my personal favorite entry: ‘Tampons – $10.49. Note: Because Mother Nature’s monthly gift doesn’t accept returns and I left my cork collection at my parents’ house.’”
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The silence was deafening. Then Mary erupted.
“ETHAN!” she thundered, slamming her hand on the table. “Are you out of your mind? Is this how we raised you to treat your wife?”
Victor shook his head. “Son, I’ve never been more ashamed.”
Ethan sputtered, “It… it wasn’t like that! We agreed —”
“She’s home raising YOUR children!” Mary cut him off. “What exactly do you think that’s worth per hour? Because I can tell you right now, you couldn’t afford her if she sent you an invoice!”
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I slid the notebook toward her. “There’s more. I started tracking his expenses too. For educational purposes, of course.”
Mary flipped through the pages, her expression darkening. When she reached the section with Ethan’s expenses, she let out a laugh that could only be described as predatory.
“Oh, this is rich,” she said to Victor. “Apparently, $50 poker games are essential, but Lauren needs to explain why she bought baby wipes.”
Victor crossed his arms. “You expect your wife to care for twins without pay, then make her grovel for necessities? What kind of man have you become?”
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Ethan finally broke. “ENOUGH! I GET IT! I SCREWED UP!”
He grabbed the notebook and ripped it in half, then stormed out. The door slammed moments later.
Mary reached for my hand. “Sweetheart, are you okay? Do you need money?”
I squeezed her hand. “No, don’t worry about the money. As it turns out, I’ve become quite the budgeting expert.”
The drive home was silent. When we pulled in, Ethan turned off the engine but didn’t move.
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“That was a nuclear-level humiliation back there,” he finally said.
“Imagine that feeling, but every day, in your own home… from the person who’s supposed to be your partner.”
He turned to look at me. “I didn’t mean to make you feel like that.”
“What did you think would happen? That I’d thank you for treating me like I was embezzling from the family cookie jar?”
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“I was scared,” he admitted. “The responsibility of being the only provider… it freaked me out. But I handled it all wrong.”
“That’s the understatement of the century.”
“I’m sorry, Lauren. Truly. I was an ass.”
“You were a world-class, gold-medal-winning ass, Ethan.”
A small smile flickered across his face. “I deserve that.”
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“I need you to understand something,” I continued. “I may not be bringing in a paycheck right now, but what I do has value. Massive value. I’m not spending your money… I’m investing it in our family.”
He nodded. “Crystal clear.”
The aftermath was transformative. Ethan never mentioned tracking my spending again. He started coming home earlier, taking the twins so I could have time to myself. Small gestures that spoke louder than any apology.
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And from that day on, he never questioned me about money. Not once.
Because every now and then, when a hint of his old controlling self surfaced, I would simply look him dead in the eye and ask:
“Would you like me to start another notebook? I still have your mother on speed dial.”
And just like that, he remembered not just the humiliation, but the lesson beneath it: that partnerships aren’t built on balance sheets and justifications, but on trust, respect, and the understanding that some contributions will never fit into the narrow columns of a ledger.
I never thought I’d need to teach my husband how to see me as an equal again. But sometimes, the hardest lessons are the ones that leave the deepest marks.
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This famous teen heartthrob is now 79 – try not to smile when you see him today.
One of the major musical stars of the 1960s and 1970s was Bobby Sherman. When I think back on it, I can hardly think of a single friend who didn’t at some point develop feelings for him.
Sherman sold millions of records, performed in front of thousands of people, put out several albums, and gained recognition as an actor. But eventually, at the height of his popularity, he made the decision to permanently leave the entertainment industry.
This, however, wasn’t because the 79-year-old thought his abilities had declined in any kind. No, he was fighting for something far more important: the preservation of life.
Everything you need to know about the renowned artist Bobby Sherman is provided here!
Bobby Sherman was raised in Van Nuys, a community next to Los Angeles, after being born in Santa Monica, California, on July 22, 1943.
Bobby Sherman’s childhood
He was reported to have mastered the trumpet by the age of 11, and subsequently the piano, trombone, piano, and of course, the guitar. Sherman went to Birmingham High School. He joined a band there and had a keen interest in singing. He apparently picked up the incredible skill of playing sixteen instruments throughout the years.
Following his high school graduation in 1961, Sherman enrolled in Woodland Hill, California’s Pierce College. A romance there would permanently alter the path of his life.
Sherman met his first lover while pursuing his studies in child psychology at Pierce College. She made the decision to bring him along to the cast party of The Greatest Story Ever Told one evening.
That was when Sherman had began to play music. Many folks in the San Fernando Valley knew he had a good voice because he sang with several bands there. Sherman so seized the chance to showcase his skills when he got to the party.
He subsequently recalled it, saying, “I was always the guy who had the guts to get up and sing in front of people.”
It probably helped a little bit because Bobby had party pals who were on stage with the band. Either way, he stood up in front of the group and sang What I’d Say by Ray Charles.
found during a party in Hollywood
As it was a Hollywood party, a number of entertainment celebrities were present. Sal Mineo, Natalie Wood, and Jane Fonda were a few of them.
They saw his talent after the show, and Mineo made the decision to mentor him.
“It was said by others, ‘Who’s handling you?’” Sherman remarked, “I had no idea what that meant.”
“Well, you know, I was a Van Nuys kid, and I was like, ‘What do they mean, handling me?’” I understood then that they intended representation.
He quickly became acquainted with Hollywood. Bobby Sherman was sent to an audition just three days later by an agent who had been tipped off by a partygoer. Bobby was cast as a featured character in Shindig, a new television series.
Even though Bobby was only in that capacity for two years, it was all he needed to leave his impact. At that point, he had become the national darling, and jobs were popping up out of every nook and cranny.
Sherman had guest appearances on a number of television programs after Shindig was canceled in 1966, including The FBI, Honey West, and The Monkees. Even though he had begun to gain attention in Hollywood, his major break came in 1968.
Bobby Sherman: acting, albums, songs, and music
Sherman spent two full years as the stuttering Jason Bolt in the television series Here Comes the Bridges. At the end of his run, his character stopped having stutters, and the show was eventually canceled.
Sherman discovered how well-liked Jason Bolt was by the public when he made an appearance at a Buffalo telethon. Suddenly, he was more than simply a rising star. Instead, he was now a celebrity.
Sherman told Tulsa World, “The show had just gone on the air, and we didn’t even have any records out yet.”
“Robert Brown, myself, and Greg Morris from Mission: Impossible from Here Come The Brides were requested to participate in the telethon, and things were going great until the fire marshal entered the room and announced, “We have a problem.” You must greet some individuals, so you’d better make your way to the second floor.
“They unlocked this window, and I peered outside, and the exit of this TV station was a sea of faces,” he continued. It was simply amazing. And that’s when I realized something was going on.
For Bobby, the ensuing year was “kind of limbo.” But that’s when he started getting interested in songwriting and experimented with his eight-track recording apparatus.
Bobby went on to become a professional singer, even if his voice wasn’t completely recognized at the time.
Bobby Sherman’s spouse, kids, and family
Sherman’s youthful fan base purchased millions of records between 1969 and 1971, during which time he released hits including Julie, Do Ya Love Me, Easy Come, Easy Go, and Little Woman.
One million copies of four distinct recorded albums and one million copies of six different single recordings were sold by him.
In 1971, he stated, “A song begins with an idea – one line.”I develop that into a full lyric. I then arranged the music to fit it.
Sherman starred in a number of guest roles after his 1970 and 1971 stint on the television show Getting Together, which was a spinoff of The Partridge Family and followed the lives of two songwriters.
Sherman initially married Patti Carnel in 1971, which also happened to coincide with his ascent to stardom. Christopher and Tyler, the couple’s two boys, were born.
Sherman made the decision to construct a scale replica of Disneyland’s Main Street in his garden because he wanted his children to grow up in an amazing environment. It took him almost two and a half years to finish the project, and it apparently cost him about fifteen thousand dollars to create.
The initiative wasn’t well received by everyone; his wife reportedly found the incessant hammering to be bothersome.
“I had no idea what home was,” Sherman said in a People interview. “She even threatened to kill me if I didn’t finish it.”
Bobby’s children served as the model for his new career in addition to inspiring him to construct his own portion of Disneyland.
Bobby rose to prominence on television before celebrities like Shaun Cassidy and even David Cassidy. Eventually, people like Donny Osmond “replaced” him.
But at the height of his popularity, millions of people loved Sherman, who was starring in popular TV shows and putting out hit tunes at the same time. Tiger Beat and Sixteen turned into two of his favorite records.
Sherman clarified that despite living the life of luxury that very few people get to experience, he would typically film five days a week and even have nighttime programs on the weekends. It’s safe to say that the hectic schedule had its effects.
“I didn’t know what home was for three years because it was so hectic,” he said to the Washington Post.
“I had no idea where I was, and I was lost.” I needed constant reminders. To be really honest, though, I had the best experience ever because of the fantastic concerts and amazing fans. Even though it was the classic love-in, I felt like I was totally taken advantage of.
Bobby Sherman gave up music to save people’s lives.
Then, in the middle of his enormous notoriety, Bobby made the abrupt decision to change careers to something completely different but equally significant.
In the end, he made the decision to turn around and give up his career in music and television in an effort to save lives.
Sherman’s former wife Patti was terrified of blood, and he was deeply involved in his children’s upbringing. Accidents happen frequently, as anyone who has reared children will attest, and Christopher and Tyler frequently fell and hurt themselves.
These falls occasionally resulted in minor cuts and scrapes as well as bleeding knees. Sherman made the decision to enroll in certain classes in order to better manage these kinds of circumstances. After taking an introductory course on first aid and CPR, he moved on to volunteer as an emergency medical technician.
“I rescued the life of a small 5-year-old girl on the very first call. Indeed, that is the most amazing feeling, I thought to myself. In an interview from 1994, Bobby recounted.
Sherman completed more training and went on to work for the Los Angeles Police Department as a first aid instructor for officers.
Emergency medical technician Bobby Sherman
Bobby was sworn in as a police officer in 1992 and appointed chief medical training officer for the Los Angeles Police Department. In the field, he gave birth to five children, and in 1994, he bravely faced hardship.
Sherman was awakened by an earthquake at his Encino, California, home on January 17, 1994. Rather than taking cover, he made the decision to hop in his truck and drive directly to the epicenter.
While some needed first aid, others there needed advise. Either way, Bobby’s expertise and presence were required.
Even though Bobby’s profession choice put him in danger and exposed him to many challenging circumstances, at his core he was still an entertainer and had many of the endearing traits from his days in the business. In fact, he ran across a few of his former admirers on the field.
He used to tell a tale about how, as a teen idol, his celebrity followed him around when he went on fire department paramedic rescue calls.
signed letters to patients
Bobby told The Times, “We were working on a bleeding woman who had passed out on one call in Northridge.”
Her spouse was staring at me nonstop. He exclaimed, “Look, honey, it’s Bobby Sherman!” at the end. The woman started as she came to. “Oh great, I must look like a mess,” she exclaimed. She appeared fine, so I reassured her not to worry.
Bobby kept using his improvised studio to record music for movies and TV series over the years. In 1997, he made his final appearance on television when he starred in an episode of Fraiser.
He participated in the “Teen Idol Tour” in the late 1990s with Peter Noone, Davy Jones, and Micky Dolenz from the Monkees. But he then made the decision to officially leave the entertainment industry.
Sherman thanked his supporters for everything and said it was difficult to maintain the success.
“My life’s work and accomplishments can be attributed to the blessings bestowed upon me by my fans.” The celebrity told Tulsa World, “It’s stayed with me, so I can have the opportunity to do things that I really love doing.”
Bobby Sherman’s current net worth is as follows.
Sherman said, “I don’t think there’s anything I would change, other than maybe being a little bit more aware of [the success], because I probably could’ve enjoyed the fun of it a little more.” It required a lot of labor. There were many tears, sweats, and bloodsheds. But the best of times was had by all.
In 2011, Bobby Sherman married Brigette, his second wife, and the two of them are still together today. They established The Brigitte and Bobby Sherman Children’s Foundation, a youth facility in Ghana devoted to fusing education and music, the same year they got married.
Bobby is 79 years old today. Still, I think you’ll all agree that he looks a much like himself because he still has a lot of his signature style!
Bobby Sherman was a fantastic actor and performer, and those wonderful years will always be missed!
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