My DIL Spoiled My Long-Awaited Vacation — I Taught Her a Lesson in Respect
I thought I was a good mother-in-law and grandmother by availing myself to my son and daughter-in-law (DIL) as they needed. But I soon realized that I was getting the raw end of the deal when my DIL disrespected me. I had to take matters into my own hands to remedy the situation once and for all!
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My tale is about learning to set boundaries, standing up for yourself, and demanding the respect you deserve. Maybe it’s also a little about internalizing societal expectations. So finally, after two years of working hard while babysitting my grandchildren for three hours daily, I was free for a bit!
When I wasn’t working and babysitting, I spent time suffering from excruciating backache and joint issues. I was worn out and completely exhausted so I had booked myself some time off. I was ready to take my well-deserved and much-needed vacation!
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I had spoken to my son, George and my daughter-in-law (DIL), Sarah, way ahead of time about my plans. “Darlings, you are going to need to make babysitting plans for the next few weeks,” I told them. “What do you mean? Where will you be,” Sarah asked, unintentionally annoying me.
Now don’t get me wrong, she wasn’t annoying me because I was a mean mother-in-law (MIL) who hated her. But because of her selfish question. It seemed I was expected to always be around. “I am going on a vacation to the Bahamas. I already bought the tickets and booked myself at a lovely hotel.”
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My son and DIL exchanged surprised looks before staring at me as if I’d grown a second head. “This is so unlike you, mom. Who are you going with?” I rolled my eyes at George’s response. He’d somehow forgotten that before he had kids, I was jetsetting every few months!
“That’s not true my love. I used to travel all the time when my time was mine,” I replied a bit irritated. I couldn’t believe how clueless he’d become when it came to my life. “Well, where are we going to get someone to babysit the kids for free every day?”
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I realized at that moment that I’d spoiled these two. “Your parents are a start, Sarah. Arrange play dates with your friends’ children or something, I don’t know,” I said in frustration. Why was I the one who had to figure out what THEY did with their own children?
It dawned on me how much I had made them dependent on me. It wasn’t my intention, I think I took the Gam-Gam role a bit too far, and I so loved my little munchkins! They gave me so much to live for. But I was tired and needed a break.
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Without waiting for their response, which I anticipated would make me angry, I turned to leave. “I will send you the details of when I leave, where I’ll be staying, and when I’ll return. Toodles!” I heard them falling over themselves as they tried to catch up to my quick stride.
They were LITERALLY trying to get ME to tell THEM what to do with their children! But I was having none of it and quickly closed the door before rushing to my car and driving away. Yes, I felt like I was escaping and running away from my responsibilities and I HATED that feeling!
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When I arrived home, my DIL had left several voice messages that I had no intention of listening to. My therapist was the one who made me realize I was overworked and needed some time off. I was oblivious to that as I continued stretching myself to my limits.
She, my therapist, knocked it into my head that I was overcompensating by trying to be the best MIL and grandmother while losing myself. I stuck to my promise and sent George and Sarah all the details of my travels as a courtesy.
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The next few weeks were filled with Sarah trying to convince me to leave with the kids. When she wasn’t trying to do that, she tried to get me to stay and not leave. “I need to do this for ME, Sarah. You won’t understand,” I explained, trying to get her off my back.
If my DIL wasn’t the one pestering me, my son got in on it. But with the words of my therapist playing in my head, “Stick to your guns. You are doing this for YOUR well-being,” I remained resolute in my decision.
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When the fateful day came, I announced my departure to my son and left. For two glorious days on vacation, I had nothing but massages, long beach walks, drank piña coladas, and enjoyed the sunsets!
On the third day, my mood was spoiled when I suddenly received a disturbing message from my DIL. “George is on his business trip, my parents have house repairs, and I’m going on MY retreat,” her text began.
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“And you know what? It’s in the Bahamas!! Isn’t it amazing? We’re already boarding, I need you to watch the kiddos!” Annoyed is an understatement for what I was feeling! I couldn’t understand, so HER parents have repairs, and I have a vacation, so I can babysit the kids?!
I was MAD AS HELL! I was practically seething! This time I leaned on my own faculties and decided to teach her a lesson on mutual respect. When they pitched, I was my usual affectionate self to my grandbabies and hugged and kissed them.
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I then spent an hour bonding with the pair while Sarah mumbled about how SHE had to MEDITATE tomorrow. But the next day, I got an irritated call from her. “WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON? WHERE ARE YOU?!” she had the nerve to demand.
All calm and relaxed as I had anticipated that type of response, I answered, “I’m at the spa, getting a massage. Why do you ask?” Sounding more frustrated, my DIL replied, “Why would you not answer your phone?!”
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“The kids have been driving ME crazy, and I need a break!” I had finally had enough of her nonsense and took a deep breath before responding. “I hear you talking about what YOU need and want, but have you asked ME what my plans are?”
“Has it even occurred to YOU to find out if I WANT to babysit during MY vacation and time away?” I heard her gasp as she tried cutting in all respectful this time, saying, “Mrs. Thomas, I…” But I cut her off and continued my rant.
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“Do you know what I am doing here, huh? Do you even CARE?” My voice went up a notch. “You receive what you deserve, Sarah. And maybe it’s time for YOU and George to learn a lesson about respect!”
My DIL was stunned into silence. She realized for the first time in two years the depth of her imposition. Her voice had softened as she stammered, “I… I didn’t think… I just assumed…”
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I wasn’t done with her as I replied, “That’s exactly the problem we have, you assumed and KEEP assuming. I love my grandkids, but I also NEED my own time.”
“This was MY vacation. It’s time I took off so I can recuperate and have some self-care.” I could hear from the silence on the other side that Sarah was feeling guilty. She was FINALLY understanding where I was coming from.
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“I’ve given you and Georgie two long years of my love and dedication.” I shared how I’d stretched myself because I wanted to be a good MIL and grandmother. I also wanted to be there for them as they transitioned into parenthood.
But then I went too far as they kept demanding more and more of my time. I confessed to my DIL that I started feeling burnt out. Yet, because I hadn’t felt the feeling before, I didn’t realize what was happening to me.
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A friend I confided in suggested I see her therapist. That’s when it finally clicked that I was wearing myself thin. I was quite upset as I ended my rant by stating, “Next time, respect MY plans and ask, don’t just assume I’m here to serve your convenience!”
Sarah paused for a long time on the other end of the line and I was about to say something when she finally sighed. It appeared she finally understood the weight of my words and where I was coming from.
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“You’re right. I’m sorry. I should have asked. I’ll make other arrangements,” my DIL replied, sounding defeated. I won’t lie, I felt a tinge of regret for how I approached things, but decided it was something that had to be done.
After all, as they say, people treat the way you teach them to. I thanked her for understanding. “Now, I’m going to enjoy the rest of my vacation. I suggest you find a way to enjoy yours too, without relying on me.”
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I didn’t wait for a response before hanging up and felt the most serene wave of satisfaction! I had stood up for myself and drew boundaries that taught my DIL a valuable life lesson! I happily returned to my massage, content that I would not be disturbed anymore.
I felt the stress melt away from my body as the masseuse kneaded longstanding knots that had built up over the years. I was pleased to know that I had managed to reclaim my well-deserved break.
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Unfortunately, Mrs. Thomas isn’t the only person who’s had to take measures to teach people important lessons. Mark’s mother kept nagging his pregnant wife to the point that the younger woman had to leave. Not wanting his mother to miss her mistake, Mark found a clever way to teach the parent about respect and boundaries.
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Heather Locklear’s Tragic Details
In the 1990s, Heather Locklear was one of the most well-known and sought-after actors; but, in subsequent years, her star power started to decline. Does this stem from her making bad job decisions or from personal struggles?
The actress from “Money Talks” has struggled with a lot over the years, some of which have sent her to rehab several times. She has also experienced her fair share of breakups, love mishaps, and legal run-ins.
In 2018, a someone close to Locklear told Page Six, “We would hate to see that wasted because she has so much talent and beauty.” However, she faces numerous devils. She is left with no option but to resume her treatment and give it another go.
There have been many highs and lows in Locklear’s life, including heartbreaking moments when fans witnessed their idol fall from grace. The actress’s life seems to be turning around, even though she might have needed to hit her lowest point before she could rise above it.
The public has been made aware of Heather Locklear’s substance abuse issues, and it has been reported that she has sought therapy multiple times. When Locklear was admitted to a treatment center for the second time in 2019, her caregivers expressed optimism for her future, a source told People magazine.
The individual stated, “Everyone is hoping that this time will be different, but it’s difficult to predict.” The issue is that she’s simply repeating a previously learned behavior rather than trying something new. She may have attended treatment twenty or perhaps twenty-five times.
The source also highlighted how costly these programs were, and how detoxifications were often part of the treatment.
What particular problems did Locklear have? She was seeking help for issues with “alcohol, pills, and her mental health,” and the insider claimed that “she doesn’t want anybody to hold her accountable.”
There is therapy available if you or someone you know is experiencing addiction problems. Call the National Helpline of the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).
Being well-known has the drawback of making any problems or infractions you may have into newsworthy stories. Every mistake an actor makes is well publicized, and every setback they experience makes for a compelling story. This also applied to Heather Locklear, whose struggles with drug abuse and mental health problems have been well-documented.
Rather than being able to handle these issues in private, Locklear’s 2008 admission to a rehab center in Arizona was made public. “There is no statement, and we will not comment about Heather’s location,” her representative said at the time to E! News.
Although she had some privacy, the article claims that she was there for about four weeks. According to reports, Locklear entered the Sierra Tucson treatment center with the intention of concentrating on her mental health.
At the time, an agent for the actress stated, “Heather has been dealing with anxiety and depression.” “She entered a medical facility for appropriate diagnosis and treatment, and she requested a thorough review of her medications.”
Heather Locklear is fortunate to have a large support network of people who genuinely care about her well-being. However, she must take full responsibility for her recovery and must have wanted to ask for assistance.
In 2018, she made headlines once more, this time around for her struggles with addiction and mental health problems as well as her purported refusal to accept support from her friends and family. Her family’s anguish was evident, and the news was terrible.
“Heather is not getting the required medical attention or mental health treatment. It takes more than just going to treatment for addiction problems. Additionally, it’s about receiving the appropriate diagnosis and care for any underlying mental health conditions, a person close to her told People. She withdraws from people, which makes the other problems worse. Naturally, you can’t make someone obtain medical care; they have to desire it, but it can be challenging for a sick person to endure and make informed decisions. Her friends and relatives are incredibly eager to help.
Positively, Locklear eventually received assistance and celebrated her first year of recovery in 2020. She expressed herself on Instagram (or, more precisely, she posted a quote that she claimed to be by Maya Angelou). Later, she promised to give hugs in the post. “One year of sobriety today!!!”
Over the years, people have kept an eye on Heather Locklear because she has been unable to evade public attention in her personal life. This covers the difficulties she encountered in attempting to manage her addiction. Fortunately, she had friends and relatives that cared about her recovery at all times.
Locklear made the decision to keep this private at the time, and while she would subsequently publicly celebrate her sobriety, she has generally been more quieter about the path she traveled to get there.
Though they didn’t seem to be close friends, Denise Richards and Heather Locklear did seem to get along. Moreover, they were neighbors. Once Richards started dating Locklear’s ex-husband, Richie Sambora, their friendship would rapidly deteriorate. However, how were Locklear and Richards acquainted? Initially, Locklear’s friend and former co-star Charlie Sheen introduced them; the two collaborated on the television show “Spin City.”
It is thought that Sambora’s divorce preceded the start of Richards and Sambora’s romance. (Sheen and Richards were also breaking up at the time.) Even so, Locklear must have been hurt by the news. “I’m sorry, but our friendship had to come to an end. Richards said to People in 2006, “The last thing I want to do is create a media frenzy like this, especially as I’m trying to get through a divorce.”
“What brought Richards and Sambora together was our friendship and the fact that we were going through divorces at the same time. “I didn’t take someone else’s spouse,” she declared to Us Weekly. “Have I dated the ex-husband of a former friend? Indeed. Did I end someone’s marriage? No. That would never have happened with Richie if Locklear and I were still friends. Before Richie and I became acquainted, our friendship had ended.
Although her career has slowed down, she has persisted in trying to make a return.
In the 1980s and 1990s, Heather Locklear was a well-known person, most known for her portrayal of Amanda Woodward on the television series “Melrose Place.” Even once the program was over, she kept getting roles, but the amount of leading roles she was cast in in the following years clearly decreased. Older actors in Hollywood are rarely treated well, but Locklear had to face her issues.
Was she ready to quit her work permanently? Nope. Locklear was ecstatic to be chosen for the 2021 television movie “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: The Kristine Carlson Story.” Aside from having been sober for nearly two years, many viewed this as her comeback and anticipated great things from her.
In reference to her impending 60th birthday in 2021, she remarked, “I’ve always loved getting older because it means I’m alive.” I’m ecstatic. I was unable to care less. I could care less about how I look. My parents still think highly of me. My kid adores me.
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