“Tell you what, sweetie?” I replied, puzzled.
She revealed a baby’s pacifier and exclaimed, “That I’m going to be a big sister!”
Her words stunned me. Since Laura’s birth, more children had become an impossibility for us. The presence of a pacifier in Henry’s briefcase, where Laura had found it earlier that day, churned a storm of confusion and worry inside me.
As the evening quieted down, my mind raced with unanswered questions and fears. I knew I couldn’t just let it go. The next morning, after Henry left for work, I tiptoed into his study. My hands trembled slightly as I placed the pacifier exactly where Laura had found it.
I was determined to uncover the truth behind this unsettling discovery without alarming Henry. Something was amiss, and I needed to find out what it was, not just for my peace of mind but for the sake of our family.
The morning sun had barely risen when I started following Henry’s car from a distance. My heart pounded with a mix of fear and determination as I watched him drive. Normally, he would head straight to his office downtown. But today, he took a different route. My grip tightened on the steering wheel as his car turned into a less familiar part of town.
After about thirty minutes, Henry pulled into the parking lot of a quaint little coffee shop on the outskirts of our city. It looked like a place hidden away from the usual rush, where secrets could be whispered without fear of being overheard. I parked a few cars away and watched as he stepped out, his movements relaxed and unhurried.
My breath caught when I saw a woman approaching him. She was about my age, with a gentle smile. They greeted each other not like strangers, but with a familiarity that sent a chill down my spine. They hugged—a long, comfortable hug that you’d only share with someone you truly cared about.
I felt a sting of betrayal as I watched them sit down at a table outside the coffee shop. They ordered coffee, laughing and chatting with an ease that made my stomach turn. Who was she? Why had Henry never mentioned her? Every cheerful gesture, every shared laugh seemed to amplify my fears and suspicions.
I couldn’t just sit there and watch any longer. My mind was racing with dark thoughts, and I needed answers. I gathered all my courage, stepped out of my car, and walked towards them. With each step, my heart felt heavier. I dreaded the confrontation that was about to unfold but desperate to uncover the truth behind this mysterious meeting.
As I approached Henry and the woman, my feet felt like they were made of lead, each step heavier than the last. Reaching their table, my voice came out sharper than I intended, fueled by a mix of hurt and suspicion.
“Henry,” I called out, ignoring the woman at first. “What is going on here? Who is she?”
Henry looked up, clearly startled by my sudden appearance. The woman turned towards me, her expression a blend of surprise and concern.
“Jen, this is Emma,” Henry said, his voice calm but serious. “She’s… she’s my sister.”
“Sister?” I echoed, my confusion growing. “What are you talking about? You never mentioned you had a sister!”
Henry sighed, a deep, weary sound that seemed to carry more stories than I could have imagined. “I didn’t know until a few weeks ago,” he explained. “After our father passed away, Emma found some old letters he had written. It turns out he had another family before us, and Emma is my half-sister. She reached out to me, wanting to connect.”
Emma, the woman I had mistaken for a threat, offered me a tentative smile. “I didn’t mean to cause any trouble,” she said softly. “I just wanted to know my brother.”
As the initial shock began to fade, we decided to move to a more private corner of the coffee shop. There, Emma shared her story. She told us about being raised by her mother, who had a brief relationship with their father. It was only after he had passed that she discovered letters and other mementos he had left behind, including a baby’s pacifier.
Emma explained that the pacifier was a keepsake from her own infancy. Their father had held onto it. Henry had brought it home, thinking to discuss the possibility of trying for another child with me or perhaps adopting.
Hearing Emma’s story my heart began to soften. I understood the innocence of her intentions and the coincidence of the pacifier. The tension that had built up slowly dissipated. It was replaced by an emerging sense of empathy and curiosity about this new member of our extended family. The day that started with suspicion and dread was turning into a moment of unexpected bonding. It opened the door to new family ties and healing old wounds.
After our conversation at the coffee shop, Henry, Emma, and I decided to continue our discussion in a quieter, more private setting back at our home. As we sat in our living room, the light filtering in through the windows seemed to ease the earlier tension. We talked openly about everything that had transpired, delving into our feelings and the surprising turns our lives had taken.
Henry and I took a moment to reconnect, acknowledging the gap that had formed in our communication. “I should have told you about Emma the moment I found out,” Henry admitted, taking my hand. “I was just trying to figure it all out myself.”
“I understand,” I replied, squeezing his hand back. “But let’s promise to keep no more secrets from each other, no matter what.”
“Agreed,” he nodded, and we both smiled, a weight lifting from our shoulders. We turned to Emma, who had been watching us with a hopeful look. “Welcome to the family,” I told her, and we embraced, sealing our new bond.
A few months later, we gathered to celebrate Emma’s birthday. Our home buzzed with laughter and chatter, a stark contrast to the quiet tension of our first meeting. Laura, who had eagerly taken on her role as a niece, flitted around, helping set up decorations and making sure Emma felt special.
Laura and Emma bonded quickly, laughing and sharing stories. I felt a profound sense of gratitude for the unexpected twists that had brought us closer. Our family had grown not just in numbers but in understanding and love, embracing both the past and the potential for our future together.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.
Psychologists Explain Things We All See in Dreams, and It’s Better Not to Ignore Them
Humankind has been trying to solve the mystery of dreams for as long as they’ve existed. Today there is even a special discipline in the study of dreams called oneirology. Those who prefer the esoteric side of things over science love to interpret their dreams according to various dream books and believe that they can predict the future. But psychologists think that dreams accurately reflect our current condition and that our subconscious tries to tell us something important via dreams from time to time.
We at Bright Side have learned that there are dreams that are common for all of us. Each of us sees these types of dreams every now and then. These dreams are caused by our ancient instincts, a cultural code, the experience of our ancestors, and personal experience. A psychologist and an expert in the field of dreams, Patricia Garfield, calls them “universal dreams” and says, “Like a hearty stew that is rich with local produce, the universal dreams differ among different peoples, but they are all nourishing variants of the same wholesome meal. They are as old as humanity and as widespread as our globe.”
1. Falling
In adulthood, we see falling more often than flying. According to the psychologist Ian Wallace, a dream about falling symbolizes the fear of losing control. You can’t control something in your life anymore because some drastic changes that you were not ready for took place in your life. Think about what sphere of life (work, relationships, finances, health, etc.) you feel most suppressed or vulnerable in as well as the ways to correct it.
Some scientists explain dreams about falling with simple physiology. As the body is sinking into sleep, the nerve system starts to calm down, your blood pressure and heart rate decrease and your falling asleep brain (especially if it was overwhelmed during the day) can perceive this physiological change as danger or an approaching death and therefore, makes you wake up suddenly.
The opposite version of this dream is flying which signifies freeing oneself from some hard burden and getting the desirable freedom.
2. Teeth that fall out and injuries
Our subconscious interprets teeth as an indicator of strength, and an ability to “bite off” a piece of the world. “Perhaps, you have recently been feeling unarmed and helpless in the real world,” Penney Peirce explains.
Patricia Garfield, another expert who’s studied dreams for many years, connects dreams about teeth falling out with hidden anger. As a rule, when we suppress anger, we clench our jaw, and our teeth might start to creak and grind. This dream might be signaling that it’s high time to get rid of negative feelings.
We often have dreams where someone close to us is wounded or sick. Those dreams cause consternation; however, from psychology’s point of view, things are not that bad. It’s simply our fears of the future and inevitable changes with those close to us. If you see your own death, it means that some part of you is dying and staying in the past to give space to something new.
“Opposite” dreams about birth and recovery usually appear when something new is taking place in a person’s life (like a new job or project) and symbolize a new experience.
3. Failure at an exam or public performance
You’re about to take an exam and suddenly realize that you don’t remember anything or you can’t say a word when standing in front of a big crowd. These dreams might be experienced not only by students and school kids but also by people who have graduated a long time ago. It’s likely that you had some stress shortly before going to sleep or was extremely worried about something. In this case, it’s better to take a short break and relax.
4. Being chased or persecuted
Such dreams have several different meanings. An expert in the field of dreams named Lauri Loewenberg says, “People that tend to avoid conflict, who are afraid of ruffling feathers or causing issues will have the recurring dream of being chased.”
Pay attention to the thing chasing you — they symbolize an unpleasant feeling or situation that you try not to think about in real life. It can be debt or addiction. Are you chased by a person you know? Think about what or who you associate this person with. They might indicate some other person or even a part of your personality that you don’t want to admit (like a hidden talent or aspiration) in your dream.
There’s also a theory saying that dreams about running away from someone are simply the echoes of primitive instincts that are in our genes thanks to our ancestors. All because they were constantly running from predators.
5. Inappropriate clothes or an absence of any
In your dream, you turn up in a public place wearing inappropriate clothes or not wearing anything at all. In this situation, it’s important to pay attention to the feelings you encountered in your dream. These dreams are usually followed by a feeling of shame and embarrassment.
Psychologist Ian Wallace notes, “It means that you feel vulnerable at your new job or in your new relationship and are afraid that others will learn about your weaknesses and disadvantages.” However, if you don’t feel any shame in your dream but instead feel proud of yourself, the dream has the opposite meaning. Perhaps you feel a lack of recognition and admiration and would like others to see your talents as well as your personality more.
6. A catastrophe or an apocalypse
We’ve all dreamed about natural or man-made disasters where we’re scared for our own lives and the lives of those close to us. These dreams might indicate personal problems that have gotten out of control or are a result of feeling threatened by something. Of course, constant messages in the media about catastrophes and terrorist acts worsen the situation. As a result, we start feeling vulnerable in the modern world.
Sometimes, when having a nightmare, we try to shout out loud but feel that our voice has left us, which causes an even bigger fear. Psychologists explain it as sleep paralysis. During the last phase of sleep, when we have dreams, our brain purposefully paralyzes the body so that we can lie still and not “live” in our sleep by running, jumping, etc. People who have sleep paralysis usually wake up before the end of the last phase and enter a state between sleep and reality for a short period. This can be felt as an inability to move, speak, and, in some cases, breathe.
7. Faulty equipment or vehicles
You try to use some gadget or device, and it breaks right away. For example, your phone stops working, and you can’t call anyone. According to Patricia Garfield, these dreams are more often experienced by women and symbolize worries about relationships or losing an emotional connection with someone.
Dreams in which you’re trying to operate a vehicle that doesn’t work properly or breaks down are in the same category. You are likely missing support and can’t cope with a difficult life situation by yourself.
8. Pregnancy
As strange as it might sound, it’s not only women who can have dreams about pregnancy. A psychologist name David Bedrick says, “Pregnancy symbolizes something new growing inside us.” You subconsciously dream about “giving birth” to a new fascinating creative project. It can be anything from writing a book to repairing a house. It’s time to set a goal and show the world how you can take on this new role.
If you’re not pregnant in real life, you may be seeking fulfillment after having such a dream.
9. Being late
Dreams that have you running after a departing train or running late for an important meeting can occur quite often. According to a dream expert, Michael R. Olsen, they can symbolize the fear of missing out on something very important in your relationships or in the upbringing of your child, for example. If you’re constantly overwhelmed and don’t have much time to accomplish things in real life, your subconscious is signaling that it’s time for you to reconsider your schedule and free up time for really important things.
10. An unknown room
Dreams about new rooms are about self-knowledge. If you find yourself in an unknown house in your dream, it means that you don’t know yourself well and try to neglect some sides of your character. A separate unfamiliar room symbolizes that you have a hidden talent, skill, or opportunity that you don’t use.
A psychotherapist named Eddie Traversa thinks that we subconsciously associate some rooms with certain processes. A kitchen is a place where products get transformed into a finished dish which means that you’re currently going through some inner changes. A bathroom is a symbol of freeing oneself from unnecessary baggage. It might symbolize that it’s time to get rid of something that is not needed any longer. A bathroom is a symbol of cleansing and it means that you feel the necessity to clarify things or see them in a different light. A bedroom signifies the things that worry you in your romantic relationship.
Have you ever experienced any of these dreams or do you usually see something different? Please tell us about it in the comments!
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