Uma mulher, não familiarizada com casamentos no país estrangeiro onde reside, recebeu um convite de uma colega mais velha e gentil, solicitando sua presença na ocasião importante de sua filha. Seguindo o código de “vestir-se para impressionar”, ela escolheu um traje tradicional de seu país para a ocasião. Para seu espanto, tanto a noiva quanto sua colega ficaram furiosas com sua escolha.
Empresária confiante com os braços cruzados no escritório | Foto: Getty Images
Em 25 de outubro de 2023, uma autora anônima compartilhou sua história no popular fórum do subreddit “AITA”. A autora do post , uma mulher negra africana de 27 anos, viveu e trabalhou na Alemanha por um certo período em destacamento. Durante sua estadia, ela formou uma amizade próxima com um colega de 60 anos.
Uma senhora idosa se olhando no espelho | Foto: Shutterstock
Esta senhora idosa convidou a mulher para o casamento de sua filha, o que a deixou animada, pois ela nunca tinha ido a um “casamento branco” antes. Para esclarecer as expectativas sobre o traje, ela perguntou sobre o código de vestimenta e o esquema de cores, que não estavam especificados no convite. Ela foi informada de que o código era “vestir-se para impressionar”.
O que aconteceu no dia do casamento?
A mulher aceitou o desafio e no dia do casamento ela usou confiantemente seu traje tradicional, uma linda vestimenta verde que se destacava claramente no ambiente alemão. A princípio, ela assumiu que não haveria problema com sua escolha. No entanto, ao longo do evento, ela recebeu inúmeras perguntas e elogios sobre sua roupa, que ela modestamente minimizou para não ofuscar o dia da noiva.
Quando chegou segunda-feira, a mulher sentiu uma atmosfera incomum no escritório, com sussurros abafados e colegas demonstrando um comportamento mais reservado do que o normal.
Membros da família comemorando uma recepção de casamento | Foto: Getty Images
“Minha parceira parece mais fria do que o normal, mas não dou a mínima porque ela é a mãe da noiva e pode estar preocupada. A noiva é totalmente rude comigo, mas de novo eu a enrolo. Eu a parabenizo e agradeço por me incluir, e recebo uma cara tensa em resposta”, disse a mulher.
Uma mulher vestida para uma ocasião especial | Foto: Getty Images
Durante todo o evento, a mulher permaneceu na periferia da sala e se distanciou da música que não combinava com seu gosto. Ela observou as nuances dos casamentos europeus, tentando entender as diferenças culturais. Depois de cinco horas, às 8 horas em ponto, ela fez sua saída, indo embora antes que o casamento terminasse.
Como todos reagiram quando a mulher voltou ao escritório na segunda-feira?
Quando chegou segunda-feira, a mulher sentiu uma atmosfera incomum no escritório, com sussurros em tom abafado e colegas mais reservados do que o normal. Uma amiga do escritório a chamou de lado e esclareceu a situação: a mãe da noiva estava furiosa.
Uma noiva com sua mãe | Foto: Getty Images
Segundo ela, o traje da mulher no casamento foi considerado muito extravagante e inapropriado, e desviou indevidamente a atenção da noiva. Aparentemente, a mãe havia falado sobre isso, espalhando a versão de que o traje da mulher não era apenas ostentoso, mas também desrespeitoso, causando um rebuliço entre os convidados.
Sentindo a necessidade de abordar o assunto, a mulher abordou a mãe da noiva e pediu que ela tivesse uma conversa. No entanto, a mãe da noiva recusou, alegando que não tinha nada a dizer a ela. Perplexa, a mulher perguntou por que ela havia compartilhado suas queixas com os outros, mas não as comunicou diretamente a ela. Em resposta, a mãe da noiva chamou a mulher de insolente.
Uma mulher em perigo | Foto: Shutterstock
Em sua defesa, a mulher esclareceu a qualquer um que a repreendesse que essa era sua primeira experiência com um casamento em um contexto cultural predominantemente branco. Ela enfatizou que havia buscado orientação específica sobre o que vestir e havia seguido as instruções que lhe foram dadas.
Um casal recém-casado celebrando sua união com amigos | Foto: Getty Images
A mulher explicou que em sua terra natal, os casamentos eram celebrações vibrantes onde os participantes usavam seus melhores trajes. O conceito de não ofuscar a noiva era estranho para ela. Quando alguém fazia um comentário racista, insinuando que pessoas daquela origem tinham melhores maneiras, a mulher respondia desafiadoramente, recusando-se a recuar. Como resultado, começaram a circular rumores de que ela não tinha remorso por suas ações, levando a perguntas sobre seu comportamento e se ela havia cometido um erro.
Elegantes castiçais e um buquê de flores brancas em um vaso | Foto: Pexels
A mulher compartilhou alguns detalhes adicionais de sua história, notando que estava prestes a embarcar em um voo depois que alguém lhe disse para voltar para seu país, um comentário que ela recebeu com humor. Ela reconheceu os comentários que recebeu e admitiu que, embora não estivesse errada, ela entendia que poderia ter se aprofundado mais ou feito mais pesquisas, o que era justo.
A mulher também explicou que seu uso de “casamento branco” foi em referência ao fato de que foi o primeiro casamento em que a noiva, o noivo e a festa nupcial usaram branco. Ela enfatizou que o termo não pretendia ter nenhum significado profundo. Ela também postou uma foto de um vestido semelhante ao que usou no casamento, para seus seguidores do Reddit verem.
Uma mulher relaxando em um avião | Foto: Getty Images
Respondendo a um comentarista que culpou a mãe, criticando-a por fofocar, dar conselhos errados e convidar a mulher para o casamento de sua filha, o que, segundo o comentarista, deveria ser responsabilidade do casal, a mulher explicou:
“De onde eu venho, [isso] não é nada fora do comum. Presumi que ele tinha definido [o número] de convidados ou tinha permissão da filha.”
Comentários dos leitores
“Isso é culpa da mãe. Não só por ser fofoqueira e dar conselhos ruins, mas também por convidar você para o casamento da filha dela. O casal deveria convidar as pessoas. Não é culpa sua”, comentou um usuário.
“Gostaria que mais noivas parassem de se preocupar com o que seus convidados vestem”, comentou outra.
“Oi, como imigrante do Leste Europeu, eu também não entendo essa coisa de ‘ofuscar’ a noiva. É por isso que no meu primeiro casamento americano anos atrás, eu também usei o meu melhor e me arrumei demais. Eu não conseguia imaginar não usar o meu melhor. Eu me casei com uma pessoa do Sudeste Asiático, e em ambas as culturas, você não pode ‘ofuscar’ a noiva. Você pode usar as joias mais brilhantes, e a noiva vai aparecer com um lustre cheio! Não leve para o lado pessoal, seus colegas parecem muito mesquinhos. No entanto, se eles continuarem a fazer comentários inapropriados, entre em contato com o RH. Não é sua culpa”, disse outro.
“Como alguém pode ofuscar a noiva a menos que esteja usando um vestido de noiva de verdade?! Eu sou sul-asiática e nosso código de vestimenta para casamento é EXTRAVAGANTE. APENAS vá tão extravagante quanto quiser porque a noiva vai ofuscar todo o local!” outro usuário comentou.
O que você acha dessa história? Você acha que a mulher cometeu um erro ao escolher uma roupa que ofuscou a noiva, ou que sua colega mais velha deveria ter sido mais explícita ao especificar o código de vestimenta?
My Husband Yelled at Me Because the Sounds of Me Cleaning Distracted Him from Work – And Then I Saw What This ‘Work’ Really Was
When I married my husband, I thought we both wanted the same things. I carried the whole household, thinking I was supporting him in whatever work he did from his home office until I discovered what the “work” actually was.
For the past three years, I’d been married to Jake, a man who called himself “the busiest man on Earth.” That’s how he justified locking himself away in his home office for hours on end. But one day I became privy to his “work,” and everything changed between us.
A man working | Source: Midjourney
Jake often spoke of “building our future,” a phrase he used so often it might as well have been his motto. I believed him. I wanted to. Isn’t that what love is? Supporting your partner, even when it’s hard?
To ease his stress, I took on all the other work. I raised our two children, managed the house, and even worked part-time to help stretch our tight budget. But lately, everything felt like it was slipping through my fingers—our finances, my sanity, and, most painfully, my trust in Jake.
An exhausted woman | Source: Midjourney
Although our bills were always late and the struggle was constant, I trusted him when he promised that he was “so close” to a breakthrough. He spent most of his days locked in his bare “office,” saying he was in “important meetings” or “crunching numbers.”
I was forced to adjust our whole lives to support him, including keeping the children as quiet as possible and timing my chores to avoid disturbing him. Our days followed a predictable pattern.
A woman keeping her children busy | Source: Midjourney
Jake would wake up early, scarf down breakfast with a quick “Got a big meeting today,” and then disappear into his so-called “war room.” He called it that as if he were strategizing for a global takeover. But for all his ambition, our bills remained overdue.
But yesterday was different, and things changed drastically from that point onward…
A frustrated woman | Source: Midjourney
It was a Wednesday, the kind of day that dragged on forever. The kids were out of school, which meant extra chaos because they became restless. Tyler, my youngest, kept running circles around the dining table with the dog barking in gleeful harmony.
My older daughter, Mia, was practicing her cartwheels in the living room. All the while, I scrubbed the kitchen counters, trying to keep some semblance of order while also making an effort to be as quiet as possible.
A woman cleaning | Source: Midjourney
“Keep it down!” I hissed at Tyler as he whooshed past me. “Daddy’s working.”
“But Mommy,” he whined, clutching the dog’s collar, “Scruffy wants to play!”
I sighed. I didn’t have it in me to argue. Jake had locked himself in his office hours ago. He’d reminded us at breakfast, “I’ve got a critical meeting today. Zero interruptions.” I nodded, like always, though the words stung. Zero interruptions had become our family’s unofficial rule.
A man giving instructions | Source: Midjourney
As I wiped down the stove, my mind wandered. When was the last time Jake and I really talked? Not about bills or the kids, but about us? About anything real? I shook off the thought, focusing on the task at hand.
Then it happened.
When Tyler ran through chasing the dog, he frightened me and the frying pan slipped from my hand, clanging against the tile floor with a sound so loud it made Mia scream and my son laugh.
“Oops!” Tyler giggled, his hands flying to his mouth.
A boy laughing | Source: Midjourney
The next moment, Jake burst out of his office, his face red and eyes blazing! “Can YOU not keep it down for one single minute?!” he roared, startling the kids into silence. “Do you have any idea how embarrassing this is during a work meeting?”
I froze, clutching the counter for support. “Jake, I—”
He cut me off, his voice dripping with frustration. “You’re unbelievable, you know that? I’m in there busting my ass, and you can’t even manage to keep things quiet!”
A man shouting | Source: Midjourney
The kids were staring at us, wide-eyed and silent. Tyler clung to Scruffy’s fur as if the dog could shield him from the tension. I opened my mouth to apologize, but then I heard it, a woman’s voice. Soft, playful, and utterly out of place in our home.
I turned toward the office door, my stomach tightening. “Jake,” I said slowly, “who’s in there?”
His face turned from anger to panic in an instant. “It’s just a client,” he stammered, blocking the doorway. “Stay out of it.”
An upset and defensive man | Source: Midjourney
But I wasn’t buying it! My gut twisted with suspicion as I pushed past him and stepped into the room.
The sight before me was surreal! The computer screen displayed a bright, cartoonish online game. In the corner of the screen was a video call window, and inside it was a bubbly, animated avatar labeled “SUZYLOVELY88.” The avatar giggled as if this were the funniest thing in the world.
“What is this?” My voice came out shaky but firm.
An upset woman | Source: Midjourney
Jake’s panic morphed into indignation. “It’s my hobby,” he said, puffing out his chest like he always did when cornered. “You’re always so boring! I need an escape! Suzy gets me. She’s fun to talk to, unlike you.”
I felt like I’d been slapped!
“Your hobby?” I repeated, my voice rising. “You’ve been locking yourself in here, pretending to work, while I’ve been breaking my back to keep this family afloat? And for what? To talk to some stranger online?!”
An angry woman shouting | Source: Midjourney
“She’s not just some stranger!” Jake snapped, his face flushed. “She actually listens to me, which is more than I can say for you.”
I blinked, stunned into silence. The kids peeked around the corner, their curious eyes darting between us. I gestured for them to go to their rooms, and thankfully, they obeyed.
Turning back to Jake, I felt my anger boil over. “Do you hear yourself?” I said, my voice trembling with emotion.
An angry woman shouting | Source: Midjourney
“I’ve sacrificed everything for you—for us! And you’ve been sitting here, wasting time on this… this nonsense?”
Jake scoffed, his bravado crumbling. “Maybe if you weren’t so naggy and exhausted all the time, I wouldn’t need this.”
Tears streamed down my face, but I didn’t care. Getting angry again, he added, “You know what? I’m done! I’m going to Suzy! She actually makes me happy!”
He stormed out of the office, grabbed a duffel bag from the bedroom closet, and started stuffing in clothes without looking at me. I followed him, trying to talk some sense into him, but he wouldn’t listen. And just like that, he was gone.
An upset man leaving his home | Source: Midjourney
The next day passed in a blur. I vacillated between anger, heartbreak, and an odd sense of relief. The house felt quieter, not just physically but emotionally. The kids kept asking when Daddy was coming home, and I gave them the same answer each time: “I don’t know, sweetheart.”
On the second day, Jake’s mother called. I hadn’t expected it, and the desperation in her voice caught me off guard.
“Sweetie,” she began, “I know you’re upset, but I need to tell you something.”
A woman on a call | Source: Midjourney
“What is it?” I asked, bracing myself.
Her voice quivered as she explained. “Jake drove hours to meet Suzy. But… she wasn’t who he thought she was.”
My heart sank. “What do you mean?”
“Suzy,” she continued, “isn’t a woman. He’s a middle-aged man with a beard. He’s been catfishing Jake for months and even convinced him to send money for ‘plane tickets.’ My son’s devastated!”
An upset woman on a call | Source: Midjourney
The absurdity of it hit me like a wave, and before I could stop myself, I burst into laughter! Real, deep, uncontrollable laughter. It felt good, like releasing years of pent-up frustration.
“So, all along he really wasn’t working?” I asked curiously.
“No, sweetie, he played video games for some money but wasn’t making much. Whatever little he got, some of it he sent to this Suzy person. Please,” his mom pleaded. “He’s humiliated. He wants to come home.”
A desperate woman | Source: Midjourney
I took a deep breath, my laughter fading. “No,” I said firmly. “Jake made his choices. I’ve spent too long putting myself last. I’m not doing it anymore.”
When Jake tried calling to ask to come back, I told him I wanted a divorce and that I was taking everything. I offered to let him keep his laptop. “Maybe you’ll find a better ‘Suzy’ next time.”
Not having much to his name and having cheated online, my husband couldn’t fight me much, and I got everything, including the kids.
A sad man | Source: Midjourney
In the weeks that followed, I began rebuilding my life. I found a full-time job and enrolled the kids in daycare. It was scary, but every step I took felt like a step toward freedom. The weight of carrying Jake’s burdens was gone, and I felt lighter than I had in years!
One night, as I tucked Tyler into bed, he looked up at me with big, curious eyes. “Mommy,” he whispered, “are we gonna be okay?”
I smiled, brushing his hair back gently. “Yes, sweetheart,” I said with a confidence I hadn’t felt in years. “We’re going to be more than okay.”
And for the first time, I truly believed it.
A content woman and her son | Source: Midjourney
Unfortunately, Jake’s wife isn’t the only woman who has had to deal with a secretive husband, but in the following story, the truth is something worse and completely unexpected. It changes the woman’s life for the better.
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.
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