Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around

A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.

Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.

Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.

Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.

Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.

A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”

Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.

While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?

Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”

With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.

There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).

A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.

Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.

Bless!

Kathleen Turner Shocks Fans with Stunning Comeback Amid Ongoing Health Battles

Kathleen Turner, the celebrated actress famous for her roles in *Body Heat* and *Romancing the Stone*, has recently raised concerns about her health following a public appearance in New York City.

The 70-year-old was seen using a wheelchair and a cane during her outing, which took place in Manhattan. She was dressed casually in a black shirt, black pants, a gray sweater, and black sneakers. Initially, she used a cane as she got out of a vehicle and entered an office building. However, when she left, she was in a wheelchair, leading to worries about her well-being.

This sighting comes after a recent incident where Turner had to leave the stage during a performance of *A Little Night Music* due to feeling unwell. This raised further questions about her health, especially given her long history of serious health issues.

Turner has been candid about her battle with rheumatoid arthritis, an autoimmune disease that affects the joints and can cause severe pain. She was diagnosed during the height of her career in the early 1990s, and the illness has significantly impacted her life.

In earlier interviews, she described the severity of her symptoms while filming the 1994 film *Serial Mom*, explaining that her feet swelled to the point where she couldn’t fit into her shoes. “I couldn’t walk. I couldn’t hold a glass,” she shared. “The only way I could go up and down stairs was on my butt, pushing myself. The pain is very bad because there’s no way to sit, lie, or stand that allows you to escape it.”

Turner noted that while her condition is not life-threatening, it severely diminishes her quality of life. She turned to alcohol as a way to cope with her pain, believing it was a safer option than pain medication. “It was incredibly stupid,” she reflected, realizing later that drinking was taking away precious moments with her family. She eventually checked into rehab in 2002 and now only enjoys a cocktail occasionally.

Despite her chronic pain and the challenges of her condition, Turner has continued to work in Hollywood, albeit with fewer leading roles. She recognizes that she needs to adjust her career to manage her health better.

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Turner reflected on the challenges of living with rheumatoid arthritis, but she emphasized her determination to keep going. “Yeah, but I wouldn’t accept it. I am a very stubborn woman,” she said.

She shared that she regained her strength, stating, “I got back to full strength, as full as I would ever be again. They told me I would be in a wheelchair for the rest of my life. Now, that was almost 30 years ago. And I look at what I’ve done in 30 years and I think: ‘Well, go to hell!’”

Despite her ongoing health issues, Turner’s fighting spirit has kept her active in film and theater. However, her recent appearances, along with her need for mobility aids, have led to increased public concern about her health.

Fans are undoubtedly hoping that the beloved actress, who has been open about her health struggles and her past with alcohol abuse, will continue to tackle her challenges with the same resilience and strength she has shown throughout her career.

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