Jennifer Lopez admits not everyone in her camp initially supported the idea to document her romance with husband Ben Affleck in her upcoming “This Is Me… Now” album and companion film.
“As artists, we have to follow our heart and this is me following my heart and doing something that maybe everybody didn’t think was the best idea, but I had to do it,” Lopez tells me.
Lopez is set to drop “This Is Me… Now,” a new album that marks the 20th anniversary of “This Is Me…Then,” on Feb. 16. The Dave Meyers-directed companion short film will be released at the same time by Amazon MGM Studios.
Sure, Lopez has some worries about putting her and Affleck’s life in the spotlight because “we both have PTSD” caused by the media scrutiny they endured back when they first dated, she said, “but we’re older now. We’re wiser. We also know what’s important, what’s really important in life, and it’s not so much what other people think. It’s about being true to who you are.”
Asked if the film is a scripted feature or doc, Lopez explained, “You have to see it and you’ll have to experience it to understand it. That’s why I call it a ‘musical experience.’ Because there’s music, you can see it, you can hear it and then you’ll get to live it.”
A recent teaser for the film included a clip of Lopez saying, “When I was a little girl, when someone asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer was always… in love.”
It was almost a year ago when Lopez told me, at the premiere of her rom-com “Shotgun Wedding,” that she would love to act with Affleck again. They infamously co-starred in 2003’s “Gigli,” which bombed both with critics and at the box office. “We talk,” Lopez said at the time. “We love being together and working together so, yeah, you never know.”
Lopez and Affleck initially dated in the early 2000s. Bennifer, as they were often called, came to an end not long after they called off their wedding in 2003. The relationship was rekindled in 2021 before marrying in Las Vegas in 2022.
Lopez and Affleck’s most recent red carpet appearance took place on Dec. 5 in Hollywood when she was honored at Elle’s Women in Hollywood celebration.
My MIL Decided to Announce Her Pregnancy at My Wedding & Spoil It — My Sister Took Stone-Cold Revenge on My Behalf
Before she even became my mother-in-law, Diane was a thorn in my side. Little did I know how far she was willing to take her disrespect until my wedding day came. Luckily, I had the support of someone very close, who taught Diane a lesson she NEVER forgot!
When I first met my mother-in-law (MIL), Diane, 45, she immediately saw me as her competition. Everything I did, she had to do better. From cooking to fashion, and even in getting my husband’s attention, Diane always tried to outshine me! It was exhausting but manageable until my wedding planning began.
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Before my husband and I tied the knot, Diane got married for the second time and it was a modest celebration. She and her new husband didn’t have much saved, so they had a small, intimate ceremony.
Despite its simplicity, my MIL acted as though it was the GRANDEST wedding ever!
When my fiancé, Barry, and I started planning our wedding, she repeatedly urged us to keep it “cheap!” But Barry and I had enough saved and wanted to celebrate our love in a big way.
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So, we politely declined her advice and moved forward with our dream wedding.
But Diane’s attempts to control our wedding were RELENTLESS. She tried influencing every decision and had opinions on everything: the venue, the guest list, the menu, the cake, and even my dress!
Every suggestion was a push towards what SHE wanted. For instance, when I showed her my dream dress, a STUNNING lace gown with intricate beadwork, she scoffed! “A SIMPLER dress would be more elegant. This one is too flashy,” she said.
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I smiled and nodded but knew I wasn’t going to change a thing! I easily put her in her place and shut her suggestions down.
When the day of the wedding arrived, I was filled with joy and anticipation!
But my excitement was quickly dampened when Diane showed up in a WHITE dress! It was a full-on bridal gown! I couldn’t believe her audacity! But instead of letting it ruin my day, I just smirked. She wasn’t going to get under MY skin!
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During the reception, just a few moments after we exchanged vows, my sister and bridesmaid, Liz, approached me with a concerned look. “Amelia,” she said, “I overheard Diane talking to her husband. She said, ‘Right before their first dance, I’ll announce my pregnancy. That’ll definitely outshine her today!’”
I felt my stomach drop before I lost it! “How could she be so selfish? My wedding day is supposed to be about Barry and me, not her!” I vented.
Seeing the distress on my face, Liz took my hand and squeezed it. “Don’t worry. I have a plan. If you’re okay with it, I’ll take care of everything.”
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Trusting Liz completely, I nodded, giving her the green light. We both watched Diane move towards the stage where the microphone was. But as she was about to take the mic, Liz swiftly intercepted her! She grabbed it first before turning and smiling at the crowd.
“Ladies and gentlemen,” Liz began, her voice clear and confident. “I have a special announcement to make. Amelia just asked me to share some wonderful news! I’m thrilled to announce that I’m pregnant, and the bride is going to be a GODMOTHER and an AUNTIE!”
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The room erupted in applause and cheers. Diane stood frozen, her face pale with shock. Liz walked over to me and hugged me tightly.
“Thank you,” I whispered, tears of gratitude welling up in my eyes.
My MIL forced a smile as she approached us, trying hard to keep her composure. “Oh, that’s… wonderful news,” she said, her voice strained.
Liz leaned in close to Diane and whispered, “Did you really think you could steal her moment?”
Diane’s eyes narrowed, but she tried to brush it off. “Well, congratulations to you too, Liz. But I STILL have an announcement!”
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Liz didn’t back down. She stepped forward again and addressed the guests, saying, “Today is about Amelia and Barry. If anyone can’t respect that, they might want to reconsider what they’re about to do.” She smiled as she spoke.
The guests, sensing the tension, remained silent, their eyes shifting between Diane and Liz. My MIL’s façade cracked for a moment, revealing her true feelings, but she quickly recovered and nodded reluctantly, forcing a smile.
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“Well, it should be about ME! I’m the matriarch of this family, and everything revolves around me!” my MIL said to Liz off-stage.
I couldn’t stay silent any longer. I stepped forward and faced Diane. “Mother, you lost your moment when you showed up in all white and tried to ruin our wedding by announcing your pregnancy behind my back. This day ISN’T about YOU, so respect that!”
Diane sneered, her lips curling in disdain. “Respect works both ways, Amelia!”
“Exactly,” I replied. “And today, respect means letting Barry and me have our moment!”
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The tension was palpable, but Diane finally stepped back, conceding defeat. I smiled at the guests and waved, showing them that everything was fine. This seemed to calm their nerves as they continued enjoying the day.
Having seen all the drama, my husband rushed over. “What’s going on here?” he asked.
His mother opened her mouth to say something, but Liz came to the rescue again! She cut my MIL off and said, “Nothing’s wrong, Barry. Your mother was just asking for some clarity about giving a speech congratulating you two.”
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“We’ve sorted it all out, and she’s decided to congratulate you two privately, after your honeymoon,” Liz continued. She gave Diane a sharp look that clearly conveyed, “If you go against what I just said, your son will know the truth, and you might lose him over it.”
Catching Liz’s warning, for the first time, I saw my MIL falter. She looked down, then turned to her son and said, “Liz is absolutely right! I’ve decided it’s best to keep the focus on you two.”
“What I have to say can wait. Besides, I realized it’s a personal message that I want to share with just the two of you,” she added.
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Touched by his mother’s words, Barry stepped in to hug her. “I knew you always wanted what was best for me and Amelia. I’m so glad to see you’re finally warming up to our union,” he said.
“Of course, Barry! I even apologized for wearing all white. I thought it would be nice to match with my daughter-in-law, but I forgot that I should have asked first,” Diane lied, smiling.
I let her have it because Liz and I had already won, so there was no need to stir things up again.
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The evening continued without further interruptions, and the tension slowly dissipated as we enjoyed the celebration. Reflecting on the day, I realized how important it was to stand up for myself and set boundaries, even with family.
Thanks to Liz’s quick thinking and unwavering support, we were able to preserve the joy of our special day. As the night drew to a close, Barry and I shared a quiet moment, watching our guests dance and laugh. “We did it,” my husband said, squeezing my hands.
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“Yes, we did,” I agreed, leaning into him. “And we did it OUR way.”
Life after the wedding gradually settled into a comfortable routine. Barry and I moved into our new home, a cozy little house with a white picket fence and a yard big enough for the dog we planned to adopt.
We were eager to start our lives together, unencumbered by the drama that had plagued our wedding day.
Yet, Diane’s influence lingered like a shadow.
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Although she had somewhat apologized, she still found subtle ways to insert herself into our lives. There was the time she showed up unannounced with a brand-new set of kitchen appliances, insisting that ours were outdated.
“These will make your life so much easier,” she said, her smile as tight as the grip she had on the boxes.
I thanked her politely.
As time went on, Diane’s behavior began to change. She was still herself, but there was a noticeable effort to respect our space and decisions. She even started asking for our opinions before making decisions that involved us.
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On the day our baby was born, my MIL was at the hospital, waiting anxiously with the rest of our family. When Barry and I finally introduced her to her granddaughter, I saw tears in her eyes. “She’s beautiful,” Diane whispered, gently cradling the baby. “Thank you for letting me be a part of this.”
At that moment, I felt a deep sense of peace. My journey with my mother-in-law had been tumultuous, but it had brought us to a place of mutual respect and understanding. Our family was stronger because of it.
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As we settled into life as new parents, the lessons we learned about setting boundaries and standing up for ourselves continued to guide us. Diane’s transformation wasn’t perfect, and there were still moments of tension, but we navigated them together, knowing we had the strength to overcome any obstacle.
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