I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
She was considered the most beautiful woman in Hollywood: Today at 85, she is unrecognizable
Ali MacGraw, originally named Elizabeth Alice MacGraw, was born on April 1, 1939, in Pound Ridge, New York. She is renowned as an accomplished American actress, model, author, and advocate for animal rights.
Her most iconic performances in “Love Story” and “The Getaway” have defined MacGraw’s career, which has been a journey marked by both triumphs and personal challenges.
Raised in a household steeped in the arts, MacGraw’s passion for creativity was fostered by her parents, both esteemed artists. Following her education in art history at Wellesley College, she ventured into the fashion industry, contributing significantly at Harper’s Bazaar and Vogue.
MacGraw’s striking appearance and magnetic personality propelled her from the world of modeling to the realm of acting. Her debut on the silver screen came in 1968’s “A Lovely Way to Die”, but it was her role in “Goodbye, Columbus” (1969) that garnered her a Golden Globe award.
Her career skyrocketed in 1970 with the iconic film “Love Story”, which not only earned her an Academy Award nomination but also secured another Golden Globe, establishing her as a household name.
In 1969, MacGraw married film producer Robert Evans, and they welcomed their son, Josh. However, their marriage came to an end in 1972, the same year she starred in “The Getaway” and embarked on a relationship with Steve McQueen. They married in 1973, but their tumultuous union ultimately ended in divorce in 1978.
Following her earlier successes, MacGraw made notable returns to the screen in films like “Convoy” (1978) and the miniseries “The Winds of War” (1983). However, her focus shifted in the late 1980s when she relocated to Santa Fe, New Mexico. There, she immersed herself in personal development, embracing practices such as yoga, meditation, and becoming a staunch advocate for animal rights.
In 1991, MacGraw chronicled her Hollywood journey and path to self-discovery in her autobiography “Moving Pictures”.
Ali MacGraw’s enduring legacy is a testament to her artistic prowess, resilience, and capacity for reinvention. Her unforgettable performances on screen continue to captivate audiences, while her passionate advocacy for animal welfare and holistic living serves as an inspiration to many.
Today, MacGraw remains an enduring icon of American cinema and a cherished voice for compassion and mindfulness.
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