I thought I was being a good wife, throwing a festive dinner for my husband Todd’s 35th birthday. But just as the guests were about to arrive, he told me he was ditching the party to watch the game at a bar. What happened next? Let’s just say, I got the last laugh.
You’d think six years of marriage would teach someone a little gratitude, but not Todd. Every year, I’d pour my heart and soul into his birthday, only for him to take it all for granted.
This year, though, his entitlement hit a whole new level.
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Six years. That’s how long Todd and I have been married.
Don’t get me wrong, our relationship isn’t all bad. Todd can be charming when he wants to be, and we’ve had some wonderful times together. But there’s one thing about him that drives me absolutely up the wall.
His entitlement.
Take last Thanksgiving, for example. Todd had this brilliant idea to host a dinner for both of our families. He announced it at breakfast one day, grinning like he’d solved world hunger.
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“Claire,” he said, “I think we should host Thanksgiving this year.”
“Okay,” I replied. “That sounds nice. How are we dividing up the responsibilities?”
He waved me off like I’d just asked him to do a headstand.
“Oh, you’re so much better at that stuff,” he said. “I’ll handle… I don’t know, drinks or something. Just make it memorable, alright?”
I should’ve known better, but I went along with it.
For two weeks, I planned and prepped while Todd played fantasy football and occasionally asked me, “You need me to pick up anything?”
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On the big day, I roasted the turkey, whipped up sides, and even made two pies.
And Todd? He carried the cooler of beer into the living room. That’s it.
After dinner, as everyone raved about the food and decor, Todd decided it was time to take credit for everything.
“Glad you all love it,” he said. “I wanted it to be special this year.”
I thought I’d misheard him.
“Oh, really?” I asked. “What part did you want special? The green bean casserole or the centerpiece?”
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He ignored me, of course.
And that’s Todd in a nutshell. He wants the credit without lifting a finger.
Then there was last year on his birthday.
I spent weeks creating a customized photo album, filling it with pictures from our travels and special moments together. I couldn’t wait to see his reaction when he unwrapped it.
But when he was done flipping through the pages, he just said, “Oh. So, where’s the real gift?”
It wasn’t just his words that hurt. It was the sheer audacity.
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I’d married a man who once wrote me poetry, and now he couldn’t appreciate a heartfelt gesture. That moment shattered something in me.
It made me realize he wasn’t the man I’d fallen for anymore.
And then came his 35th birthday. The final straw.
We were having dinner when Todd casually told me his plans.
“Claire, I want a big, proper birthday dinner this year,” he said. “Invite the family, my buddies, everyone.”
I raised an eyebrow. “You mean you want me to plan it?”
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“Well, yeah,” he said. “You’re good at this stuff. Just make it decent, alright? I don’t want to be embarrassed in front of everyone.”
“Decent?” I repeated.
“Yeah, just don’t go overboard or anything. Keep it classy.”
You see the entitlement here? See the way he thinks he deserves a birthday party while knowing how he’d hurt me with his words last time?
Honestly, I didn’t want to agree, but I decided to give him another chance. After all, it was his birthday, and I wanted to make it special even if he didn’t deserve it.
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For the next two weeks, I threw myself into planning Todd’s “big, proper birthday dinner.” If he wanted classy, I’d give him classy.
I drafted an impressive menu that had spinach-stuffed chicken, rosemary potatoes, a charcuterie board with cheeses I couldn’t pronounce, and a three-layer chocolate cake that would be the pièce de résistance.
Every day after work, I’d come home, tie my hair up, and get to work cleaning, organizing, and prepping. I even borrowed extra chairs and a folding table from our neighbor, Janice, just to make sure everyone would have a seat.
Todd’s contribution? Absolutely nothing.
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“I’m swamped at work,” he said one night, kicking off his shoes and plopping onto the couch. “But you’ve got this, babe. You’re good at these things.”
Good at these things? I was so tired I could’ve cried.
But instead of snapping, I smiled and said, “Yeah, I’ve got this.”
The day of the party finally arrived.
I woke up early, determined to make everything perfect.
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The house was spotless. The table was set with matching linens and little name cards I’d handwritten. The appetizers were chilling, the main courses simmering, and the cake was decorated with edible gold flakes.
Yes, I went that far.
Todd strolled into the kitchen around noon, scrolling through his phone as usual. He barely glanced at the spread I’d laid out.
“Looks good,” he muttered as he opened the fridge to grab a soda.
“Looks good?” I repeated, half-joking but half-hoping he’d notice the effort I’d put in.
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“Yeah,” he said, shutting the fridge door. Then, like it was no big deal, he added, “But hey, uh, don’t bother finishing all this.”
“What do you mean?”
“I’m heading to the bar with the guys to watch the game instead. Cancel everything. Tell everyone something came up.”
“You’re ditching your own birthday dinner?” I asked. “Todd, I’ve been planning this for weeks!”
“It’s not a big deal, Claire,” he shrugged it off. “Just call everyone and tell them we’re busy or something. They’ll understand.”
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“They’ll understand?” My voice rose. “Todd, people are already on their way! You told me to make this decent and now you’re leaving?”
“I don’t want to embarrass myself in front of the guys,” he said, ending the conversation.
Then, he grabbed his jacket and walked out of the door.
“You can’t do this, Todd!” I shouted, but he’d already left.
I was so heartbroken. I’d poured my heart, soul, and savings into this dinner, and he just walked out like it was nothing.
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Cancel everything? After all the work I’d done?
But more than anything, I felt humiliated.
How could he treat me like this? How could he brush off all my efforts as if they didn’t matter?
I stared at the table while the candles flickered mockingly.
Is this what you’re worth, Claire? I asked myself. Is this how you’ll let Todd treat you? No. You can’t do this.
At that point, I decided I wouldn’t cancel the dinner. I won’t allow him to make me feel bad again.
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If Todd wanted to act like a spoiled brat, I’d let him, but not without showing him what “embarrassing” really looked like. He had no idea who he was messing with.
I grabbed my phone and sent a group text to all the guests:
Party’s still on! Change of plans. Meet us at the bar on the main street near our place. Bring your appetite!
Then, I got to work.
I packed all the food and loaded it into the car. Then, I drove straight to the bar Todd had mentioned.
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When I arrived, the place was already buzzing with noise. I looked around and spotted Todd sitting at a table with his buddies, his back to the door. He was completely oblivious to my presence.
“Uh, ma’am? Can I help you?” the bartender asked with wide eyes after noticing the trays of food I was carrying.
I flashed him my sweetest smile. “Oh, I’m just here to share a meal with some people who’ll actually appreciate it.”
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I picked a table near the bar, in full view of Todd’s group, and began unpacking dish after dish. The aroma of the food quickly caught everyone’s attention. Patrons nearby craned their necks to see what was going on.
“What’s this about?” one man asked, gesturing toward the feast I was setting up.
I raised my voice just enough to carry across the room. “Oh, this was supposed to be my husband’s birthday dinner. But he decided to ditch me and come here, so I thought, why let all this food go to waste?”
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The room erupted in murmurs and laughter, and a few people even clapped. That’s when Todd finally turned around and spotted me.
He immediately stormed over while his buddies murmured amongst themselves.
“Claire! What the hell are you doing?” he hissed, his eyes darting nervously between me and the growing crowd.
I didn’t even look at him.
Instead, I addressed the nearest group of patrons. “You like ham? Help yourselves! There’s cake coming too.”
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Just as Todd sputtered out another protest, the front door swung open, and in walked his parents, my parents, his sister, and our cousins.
They looked at us, then at the food, and then at all the people munching on what was supposed to be a formal dinner.
Todd’s mom, bless her bluntness, walked right up to him. “What’s going on, Todd? Claire said to meet here for your birthday dinner, but why is she serving food in a bar?”
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Todd looked like he wanted to disappear into the floor.
“Uh, it’s complicated, Mom,” he muttered.
“Oh, I’d love to explain!” I intervened. “Todd decided that watching the game with his friends was more important than the dinner he demanded I plan. So, I brought the dinner to him!”
His dad shook his head. “How disrespectful,” he muttered.
Meanwhile, my mom grabbed a plate and said, “Well, the food smells amazing. Let’s eat!”
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Soon, both our families joined the other patrons and dug into the feast I’d worked so hard on.
And Todd’s friends? They were still laughing at his expense and told him they’ll never forget this day.
By the time I brought out the cake, the bar felt like a full-blown party. On top of the cake, in bold frosting letters, I had written:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MY SELFISH HUSBAND!
The bar erupted in laughter when I read it aloud, but Todd wasn’t too happy about that.
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“Was this really necessary, Claire?” he muttered under his breath.
I tilted my head, smiling sweetly. “Absolutely.”
Once everyone was done, I started packing up the empty trays. That’s when the bartender stopped me.
“Ma’am, you’re a legend,” he said. “Drinks on the house if you ever come back. Without him, of course!”
I chuckled. “Thank you! I’ll definitely drop by sometime.”
The families didn’t stick around long after the food was gone. My dad gave me a proud nod as he left, while Todd’s mom told him he could’ve done better.
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As we drove back home, Todd kept muttering about being “humiliated.” Once we were back, he protested even more.
“Claire, you humiliated me in front of everyone!” he said, throwing his hands in the air.
“No, Todd,” I shot back. “You humiliated yourself. And for the record, don’t expect another homemade meal anytime soon.”
He knew he couldn’t argue with me at that point. He just turned around and stormed off to the bedroom.
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It’s been two weeks since that night, and I kid you not, Todd has changed. Well, mostly.
His unrealistic demands have dialed down, and he’s been unusually polite, almost as if he’s afraid I’ll pull another stunt like that. He hasn’t apologized outright for ditching me, but his sheepish behavior says enough.
I guess now he knows I’m not the kind of wife who’ll roll over and take his nonsense anymore. If nothing else, that’s a win in my book.
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What would you have done if you were in my shoes?
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This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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Isn’t washing potatoes a must.
When it comes to food preparation, every family has its own unique traditions, routines, and quirks. But what happens when food safety practices clash with longstanding habits? Imagine sitting down to dinner, only to realize the potatoes on the table were cooked with their skins unwashed. Do you dig in, or do you hold back, especially when your kids are involved.
Why Washing Vegetables Is More Than Just a Habit
First things first, let’s address the basics. Washing vegetables isn’t just a step in your recipe—it’s a critical part of ensuring your food is safe to eat. Potatoes, in particular, grow underground and are covered in soil when harvested. That soil isn’t just dirt; it can harbor bacteria like E. coli or Salmonella, which are known to cause foodborne illnesses.
Even though cooking kills many bacteria, washing is a precautionary measure that prevents dirt, harmful microorganisms, and even pesticide residues from making their way into your meal. Think of it like washing your hands before you eat—it’s a simple step that protects your health and your family’s.
The Risks of Eating Unwashed Potatoes
Let’s get real: eating unwashed potatoes is more than just a little gross—it can actually be risky. Soil clinging to the potato skins often contains bacteria, and in rare cases, these bacteria can make you or your loved ones seriously ill. Here are the two major risks associated with eating unwashed potatoes:
- Bacterial Contamination
Soil can harbor harmful bacteria like Listeria, E. coli, and Salmonella. If these aren’t washed away, they may end up on your plate, posing a risk of foodborne illnesses that can cause symptoms like nausea, vomiting, or worse. - Pesticide Residue
Many commercially grown potatoes are sprayed with pesticides to keep pests away. These chemicals often remain on the skin and require thorough washing to remove. Consuming pesticides over time could lead to health issues, particularly for children with developing immune systems.
When you factor in kids at the dinner table, the stakes get even higher. Their smaller bodies are more vulnerable to toxins and bacteria, making washing potatoes a non-negotiable step in food preparation.
The Nutritional Goldmine in Potato Skins
Here’s the catch: while unwashed potato skins can pose risks, properly cleaned potato skins are a nutritional treasure trove. The skin of a potato contains:
- Fiber, which aids digestion.
- Vitamin C, an immune booster.
- Potassium, vital for muscle function and heart health.
- Antioxidants, which protect your cells from damage.
In fact, peeling potatoes removes about 50% of their fiber and 20% of their nutrients. So, the goal isn’t to avoid potato skins altogether but to make sure they’re clean enough to safely enjoy. A properly scrubbed potato lets you enjoy the best of both worlds: flavor and nutrition.
Cultural Habits vs. Modern Food Safety
Let’s not forget: cooking and eating habits are deeply tied to culture and family traditions. In some households, cooking potatoes with unwashed skins might be seen as harmless, even a time-saving trick. After all, “We’ve done it this way for years, and no one’s ever gotten sick,” might be the rationale.
But food safety practices have evolved alongside our understanding of bacteria and pesticides. Just because something was a common practice in the past doesn’t mean it’s the safest option today. While honoring tradition is important, so is prioritizing health—especially when young children are involved.
How to Properly Wash Potatoes for Maximum Safety
Washing potatoes isn’t rocket science, but doing it the right way ensures you get rid of all the dirt and harmful residues. Follow these steps for clean, safe potatoes every time:
- Rinse Thoroughly
Hold the potatoes under cold running water to wash away surface dirt. - Scrub the Skins
Use a vegetable brush to gently scrub the skins. This step is especially important for removing stubborn dirt and bacteria lodged in crevices. - Soak (Optional)
For an extra layer of safety, soak the potatoes in a mixture of water and vinegar for about 10 minutes. This helps loosen dirt and remove pesticide residues. - Rinse Again
Give the potatoes a final rinse to ensure no debris remains.
Once you’ve cleaned them, you can cook your potatoes however you like—boiling, roasting, or mashing—with peace of mind.
Addressing Food Safety Concerns with Family
If you’re ever in a situation where a family member prepares unwashed potatoes, addressing the issue can be tricky. No one wants to come across as judgmental or ungrateful, but food safety is too important to ignore. Here’s how you can approach the conversation diplomatically:
- Start with Empathy
Acknowledge their effort in preparing the meal. For example, “I really appreciate all the work you put into dinner tonight.” - Express Your Concerns Gently
Share your concerns without making it personal. You might say, “I’ve been reading about how washing potatoes can help remove bacteria and pesticides. It’s something I’m trying to be more mindful of, especially for the kids.” - Offer Solutions
Suggest ways to help next time, like assisting with the prep or offering to bring a vegetable scrubber as a gift.
Approaching the conversation with respect and understanding can help ensure your concerns are taken seriously without hurting feelings.
Finding the Balance Between Safety and Tradition
At the end of the day, the decision to eat or avoid unwashed potatoes boils down to balancing safety and tradition. It’s possible to honor family cooking habits while also incorporating modern food safety practices. Whether it’s washing potatoes before cooking or gently communicating your concerns, the goal is to create meals that are safe, delicious, and enjoyable for everyone at the table.
Conclusion: Clean Potatoes, Happy Family
So, is washing potatoes before cooking a must? Absolutely. It’s a simple, effective step that protects you and your family from potential health risks while preserving the rich nutrition that potato skins offer. While family traditions and cooking habits may differ, prioritizing food safety doesn’t have to mean abandoning what you love. By taking small, thoughtful steps—like properly washing potatoes—you can keep mealtime both safe and meaningful. After all, when it comes to feeding your loved ones, why take unnecessary risks?
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