Mariska Hargitay’s journey to motherhood is truly inspiring. Known for her iconic role on “Law & Order: SVU,” her real-life story revolves around love, resilience, and the joy of raising three children. The actress’s path to building a family is filled with unexpected blessings and deep gratitude.
Mariska Hargitay’s journey into motherhood began in her early 40s when she gave birth to her first child. Despite the challenges of being a first-time mother later in life, she wholeheartedly and joyfully embraced motherhood.
Her family grew when she and her husband, actor Peter Hermann, welcomed two more children within a year. Each child brought unique blessings into their lives, and Mariska cherishes the unexpected path that led her to become a mother of three.
Long before becoming a mother, Mariska always envisioned having her own family. From a young age, she knew motherhood was part of her life plans, a desire deeply rooted in her own upbringing.
A Childhood of Glitz and Heartbreak: The Early Life of Mariska Hargitay
Mariska is an actress, who added producing and directing to her list of talents. She was born to the glamorous actress Jayne Mansfield and the former Mr. Universe Mickey Hargitay on January 23, 1964.
Being born into Hollywood royalty, Mariska’s early life was surrounded by fame and glitz. This set a unique backdrop for her childhood. However, her early years were also marked by tragedy.
When Mariska was just three years old, her mother died in a car accident on June 29, 1967. This loss left a lasting scar on the actress, both physically and emotionally.
The actress expressed, “I clearly was in that frozen place for a lot of my childhood—of trying to survive, actually trying to survive. My life has been a process of unpeeling the layers and trust and trusting again.”
Despite this tragic beginning, Mariska’s parents’ legacy played a significant role in shaping her character. Her father, Mickey, raised her with discipline and love, teaching her the importance of hard work and resilience.
He ensured she had a normal upbringing. Mariska joined the swim team, ran cross-country, played volleyball, and by 1982, she was crowned Miss Beverly Hills. Despite her accomplishments, she was always aware of the darker side of life.
The actress later explained that she learned about crisis early and realized that life offers no guarantees, but we must keep moving forward and transform our experiences.
She considers this ability to be her superpower and sees it as a gift from experiencing trauma early in life. Despite these challenges, Mariska went on to live a full and fulfilling life.
Embracing Motherhood: Mariska’s Journey from Daughter to Mom
For Mariska, 2004 marked the beginning of a new phase in her life. That year, she married Peter, and on June 28, 2006, the actress welcomed her first child, August Miklos Friedrich Hermann, at 42.
Starting this journey into motherhood was easy for Mariska as she knew from a young age that she was meant for it. Despite losing her mother, she never lacked a maternal figure in her life. The actress was raised by her father’s third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, who never made her feel like an outsider.
Mariska reminisced, “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids. So we were blessed that she really embraced us and loved us so quickly. And I was very fortunate to have a maternal figure in my life after such a horrific accident.”
Additionally, while Ellen’s motherly act prepared Mariska for being a mom, it also stirred in her the desire to have children by other means. The actress had grown up realizing that being a mother did not have to be biological.
A Dream Fulfilled: The Adoption of Amaya Josephine
After a few years of becoming parents, Mariska and Peter, who came from big families, decided it was time to expand theirs. They were also not the only ones clamoring for more kids around the house. Their son August also wanted siblings.
However, the actress was over 40, and at her age at the time, pregnancies were never easy. Knowing she and her husband had so much love to give, Mariska was hopeful. She said, “I was really letting the chips fall as they might, because I do think so much is up to God.”
Mariska didn’t know how she was going to have more children, but she knew it was something that would happen. The actress remarked, “I always said, ‘I don’t know how this is going to end up. I don’t know if I’m going to get pregnant and have twins.’”
Despite having no clue, there was something she was sure of, and that was adoption. She recalled not knowing if someone would leave a baby on her doorstep. Nevertheless, she said, “But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan.”
In early April 2011, Mariska and Peter’s plan came to fruition as they welcomed their second child, Amaya Josephine Hermann. Their daughter had been born in the United States about a week before her adoption.
As soon as the couple decided to adopt, they did not limit themselves as they considered international and domestic adoption. Mariska revealed they had talked about the idea of mixed-race adoptions, and were excited to become a multi-racial family.
The actress’s excitement began even before Amaya joined the family. Mariska had revealed, “I’m deliriously happy. From the minute she was born, she was just surprisingly alert and so full of love.”
The second time Mother was not alone in her excitement. August, who was less than five at the time, was also happy to have a baby sister. His Mom disclosed, “He is over the moon. He calls her his baby because he says the whole thing was his idea. He always talks about how he’s going to protect her. He’s going to be a great big brother.”
A Brother’s Dream: The Joyous Arrival of Andrew Nicolas
August, who prided himself as a big brother, was very hands-on in his sister’s life. He reportedly even participated in picking out her name. However, seeing as he thought it was his idea for her to join the family, he wanted yet another sibling.
Six months after Amaya came home as a newborn, August’s wish was fulfilled as he welcomed his baby brother, Andrew Nicolas Hermann, in October 2011. This time, Andrew was not a newborn, as he had been born in the summer of that year.
Mariska noted, “August thinks this was all his idea! He said, ‘I want a baby sister,’ and Amaya came. Then he said, ‘I want a baby brother,’ and Andrew came. August is feeling pretty good and pretty powerful!”
While August Miklos Friedrich Hermann felt powerful, Mariska was feeling a range of positive emotions. She said, “We adopted Amaya, and Andrew, I always describe it as this angel that fell out of the sky, because he was a little unexpected. [sic]”
Andrew Nicolas, Peter Hermann, and Mariska Hargitay at the ceremony honoring Mariska Hargitay with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 8, 2013, in Hollywood. | Source: Getty Images
The adoption of Andrew was not something Peter and Mariska had planned for at the time it happened. The couple had initially planned to adopt another baby a year or more after Amaya joined their household.
However, things happened differently. The actress revealed that their lawyer suddenly called them to inform them about Andrew. Their lawyer noted that it was an amazing opportunity, and the couple, in that moment, had never been more sure about having him in their lives.
The swiftness and timing of Andrew joining their family makes the actress believe her son “fell out of the sky.” Nevertheless, Mariska knows that it’s not an easy journey.
She once remarked, “I’m not gonna lie, there were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, ‘Adoption is not for the faint of heart.’” But, on some days, the actress feels like she’s living in a dream world. She said, “I just sit and pinch myself.”
Mariska Hargitay with Amaya, Andrew, and August at The Children’s Museum Of The East End 5th Annual Family Fair on July 20, 2013, in Bridgehampton, New York. | Source: Getty Images
Family and Fulfillment: Mariska Hargitay on Life as a Mother of Three
At 47, Mariska, who initially didn’t think it was possible to love more than one kid, had become a mom of three. She said, “You know you have one kid, and then you think, oh my gosh, I’ll never love another kid, and then the second one comes, and you can’t believe that you love them, and then the third one fell out of sky.”
Becoming a mother did not only teach Mariska about her capacity to love, it did more. She noted, “Becoming a parent erased many of my negative childhood feelings and filled them in with something new,” some of which include trying out new cultures when it comes to their cuisines.
The actress is not the only one to have spoken to the media about their family of five. Peter Hermann’s love for his family is always evident even though gets private about their kids. However, he expressed his thoughts on the unconventional manner in which their family grew.
The actor divulged, “It’s funny, I always get so private about our kids, but I think that the easiest way or the easiest answer is we just wanted a bigger family and we feel incredibly blessed.”
In 2018, Mariska also opened up about her life with the kids as she graced the cover of People’s magazine. She said, “The thing that’s made me a better parent is my kids. Because they taught me to really listen. My husband is my North Star, and my kids are my teachers.”
Not only did they make her a better parent, they also gave her something perfect in life. The actress revealed, “Our family is so perfect, or at least perfect for me. Together we’re just this whole, happy, joyful, chaotic, crazy unit. I’ve never known anything that was more right.”
Despite having a crazy and chaotic unit, Mariska and Peter work together to get the results they desire. Even though they have different parenting styles, the couple complement each other, with the actress revealing that her husband knows everything she doesn’t know.
Shortly before turning 60 in 2024, Mariska reflected on her life’s journey, career, motherhood, and more. The actress had countless reasons to be thankful.
Peter Hermann and Mariska Hargitay with their children, August, Andrew, and Amaya at the 2023 Stuttering Association For The Young (SAY) Benefit Gala on May 22, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
One of the things Mariska was thankful for was the timing when she started her family. She said, “I’m so grateful that I’m an older mom. Grateful that I became successful older. I don’t know if I could have handled it when I was younger.”
The actress then compared what she was like in her younger days. She remembered that in her younger years, she struggled to be present, but as she got older, she learned to accept and appreciate life more deeply.
She noted, “And now I’m going to savor this moment. I want to share my lessons and where there is pain that I can fix that really inspires me to lighten the load.”
Mariska’s journey shows her strength and love. Starting her family in her early 40s, she faced the challenges and joys of raising three children with Peter. Their story is full of unexpected blessings and deep gratitude. As she cherishes her family, Mariska inspires us to embrace life’s surprises and the power of love at any age.
My Ex-husband’s Wife Threw My Daughter’s Sewing Machine in the Pool – I Didn’t Think Twice About Teaching Her a Lesson
When my teenage daughter saved up all the money she could to buy a sewing machine, she didn’t know that her stepmother would destroy it out of sheer vengefulness. But when I heard the news, I enlisted the help of a close friend to get sweet revenge.
I never thought I’d have to go head-to-head with my ex-husband’s new wife after all the disrespect she’d shown to my daughter over the years, but when she took things too far, I knew I had to act. Let me back up a little.
A stressed out teenage girl | Source: Midjourney
I’m 46, and my daughter, Rachel, is 16. She’s smart, creative, and has big dreams of becoming a fashion designer. She usually lives with me but stays at her dad’s house every other weekend. Let’s just say those weekends aren’t her favorite.
Rachel’s dad, Mark, and I split up years ago. Our relationship now? Civil but distant. He’s always been the “hands-off” parent — more of a buddy than a father. He remarried soon after our divorce to a woman named Karen, and she lives up to the stereotype.
A mean-looking woman | Source: Midjourney
She’s cruel and runs their house like a boot camp, setting strict rules and expecting everyone to follow them without question. Rachel, being independent and headstrong, has always struggled with that.
Karen believes in discipline to an extreme, so my daughter isn’t allowed any spending money and has to work hard for everything. Sadly, Mark isn’t willing to support her financially. His reasoning? “I pay for her schooling and feed her when she’s here, right?”
An unbothered man | Source: Midjourney
So when Rachel told me she wanted to save up for her dream sewing machine, I was proud! My little (okay, not so little) go-getter managed to get a part-time job at a local fabric store, balancing school and work like a champ!
She worked so hard and diligently that I even offered to match her savings to help her get the machine faster! When she finally brought it home, her face lit up, and I knew it had been worth it. It was the first thing that truly felt like hers!
A happy girl with her sewing machine | Source: Midjourney
Enthralled with her new purchase, my daughter spent all her free time working. She really hoped to turn her hobby into a career. But Karen? She wasn’t having it.
“You spend too much time on that thing,” she’d furiously scold Rachel, ignoring how passionate she was about sewing. “It’s a distraction. You have responsibilities in this house.”
I could see the tension growing every time Rachel came home after a weekend there.
An unhappy girl | Source: Midjourney
One Friday, she called me in tears, devastated over something her stepmother had done. When she broke down telling me what had happened, I was livid.
“She threw it in the pool, Mom,” my daughter whispered, her voice shaking. “All because I didn’t wash the dishes fast enough. I tried explaining I’d do them right after, but she didn’t listen and felt I was arguing with her. She just picked it up and threw it outside as a way to punish me.”
I felt my blood boil. “Are you serious?!”
An angry woman on a call | Source: Midjourney
“I’ll be there in a bit, my baby. I’m sorry this happened,” I said, feeling like a kettle about to explode.
I quickly grabbed my car keys and drove over. I wasn’t supposed to take Rachel, as I’d just dropped her off earlier in the day, but I was determined to protect her.
When I arrived, Rachel met me at the front door, tears welling up again. “She said I needed to learn a lesson. Dad didn’t even stop her. He just… stood there.”
My heart broke as I comforted her and walked in to confront Karen.
A woman comforting her child | Source: Midjourney
What hurt the most was that Mark just stood by while Karen destroyed something our daughter had worked so hard for. When Karen saw me, she had that smug look she always wore.
“What are you doing here?” she asked, arms crossed.
I didn’t hesitate but kept my voice steady. “I’m here to get Rachel’s things. You had no right to destroy something she worked so hard for!”
Karen didn’t even flinch. “It was a distraction! She’s too focused on that sewing machine and not enough on her chores. Now that she’s learned her lesson, maybe next time, she’ll listen!”
A woman shouting | Source: Midjourney
Rachel stood behind me, fists clenched. I could see how much this had hurt her, and I wasn’t about to let it slide.
“Karen,” I said, stepping closer, “if YOU think you’re teaching responsibility by ruining something she loves, you’re mistaken. What you’re teaching is cruelty!”
Mark, who had been watching from the kitchen, finally spoke up. “Look, I think you’re overreacting. It’s just a machine, and Karen’s just trying to help our daughter stay on track.”
A man being dismissive | Source: Midjourney
I shot him a glare. “Mark, this is exactly why Rachel barely wants to come here! You let your wife do whatever she wants, and you don’t stand up for your daughter!”
He looked away, clearly uncomfortable, but I didn’t have time for his excuses. I turned back to Karen. “You’re going to regret this,” I said calmly.
“Go get your stuff, Rach. You’re sleeping over at my place,” I told my daughter, looking at my ex defiantly.
“I’ll bring her back if she wants to return,” I informed Mark and Karen, who both said nothing.
An upset woman leaving a house | Source: Midjourney
Furious about how things had gone down, I took my daughter home, and we watched comedies, ate popcorn, and snuggled under a blanket. I hoped this little reprieve would ease her, but I was determined to teach her stepmother a very important lesson.
The next day, I set my plan into motion. A friend of mine, Jason, was an actor, and he owed me a favor. He had an old police uniform from a past gig and knew exactly how to pull off a convincing performance.
A happy man dressed as a cop | Source: Midjourney
We devised a little scheme to give Karen a taste of her own medicine. My daughter’s stepmother worked from home and was practically glued to her laptop. That thing was her lifeline — meetings, reports — everything was on it.
I figured it was time for her to feel what it’s like to have something important taken away. The next day, I filled Rachel in on the plan and explained what part she’d play as we finalized things.
Of course, my feisty teenager was on board, ready to take Karen down and give her a taste of her own medicine! Let me just say that Karen’s screams were worth it.
A woman talking to her daughter | Source: Midjourney
On Sunday, we woke up early so I could drop Rachel off at Mark’s house and then pretend to leave. I parked my car out of sight and met up with Jason, who was fully dressed as a policeman.
Jason knocked on their door while I watched things play out from a safe distance.
Karen answered, and Jason launched into his rehearsed speech. “Ma’am, we have an order to confiscate your laptop due to an ongoing investigation.” He flashed some very convincing-looking documents.
A policeman holding a document | Source: Midjourney
Karen’s face drained of color. “What? No! This has to be a mistake!” she screamed in horror, thinking of all the important information she had on the machine.
“I’m afraid not,” Jason said, stepping inside. “I need you to hand it over now.”
I could hear her panicked voice from where I hid. “You can’t just take my laptop! I need it! Everything’s on there — my work, my personal files!”
Jason stayed in character, shaking his head. “Ma’am, I understand this is difficult, but it’s out of my hands.”
A serious policeman | Source: Midjourney
She was almost on her knees, begging Jason not to take what she described as “my life!” Sadly, Karen was one of those people who didn’t believe in saving things on the cloud, so she’d have no access to all the crucial information that helped her do her work.
At that moment, Rachel walked in from behind her through the kitchen with her phone in hand, filming everything. She looked Karen straight in the eye and said, “See? It’s unpleasant to part with something important to you.”
A girl recording with her phone | Source: Midjourney
Her stepmother’s mouth fell open as realization hit! She turned red, her eyes darting between Rachel and Jason. “Wait… is this some kind of joke?!”
I stepped inside then, smiling. “No joke. Just a lesson in empathy.”
Karen’s jaw clenched, and she stammered, “You can’t just—”
“Oh, but I can,” I said, crossing my arms. “Here’s the deal. You’re going to pay Rachel back for the sewing machine, and you’re going to apologize. If not, we’ll upload this video on social media, showing all your friends how you got in trouble with the law. You’ll be a pariah and might lose your company’s trust.”
A serious woman | Source: Midjourney
Karen looked around as if hoping someone would save her, but Mark had gone on a fishing trip the previous day, and she was at my mercy. She sighed heavily and muttered, “Fine.”
She stormed off to grab her checkbook, her face burning with humiliation. She scribbled down the amount and shoved the check into Rachel’s hand. “Sorry,” she muttered, avoiding eye contact.
An angry woman handing over a check | Source: Midjourney
My daughter looked at me, and I nodded. “We’re done here.”
We all left together, leaving Karen behind. I told the evil stepmother that my daughter was going to stay with me full-time for a while until she was ready to visit them again.
Rachel let out a laugh the moment we got in the car. “Mom, that was amazing!”
“Sweetheart,” I said, squeezing her hand, “nobody messes with my daughter and gets away with it!”
A happy woman | Source: Midjourney
Since then, Rachel hasn’t spent a single weekend at her dad’s house unless she wants to. They meet on neutral ground now, usually at a coffee shop or the park. As for Karen? She’s been on her best behavior, though I doubt she’ll ever forget that day.
My daughter used the money to buy a brand-new sewing machine, and this time, she’s keeping it right where it belongs — at home, with me.
A happy girl with her sewing machine | Source: Midjourney
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