Mariska Hargitay’s journey to motherhood is truly inspiring. Known for her iconic role on “Law & Order: SVU,” her real-life story revolves around love, resilience, and the joy of raising three children. The actress’s path to building a family is filled with unexpected blessings and deep gratitude.
Mariska Hargitay’s journey into motherhood began in her early 40s when she gave birth to her first child. Despite the challenges of being a first-time mother later in life, she wholeheartedly and joyfully embraced motherhood.
Her family grew when she and her husband, actor Peter Hermann, welcomed two more children within a year. Each child brought unique blessings into their lives, and Mariska cherishes the unexpected path that led her to become a mother of three.
Long before becoming a mother, Mariska always envisioned having her own family. From a young age, she knew motherhood was part of her life plans, a desire deeply rooted in her own upbringing.
A Childhood of Glitz and Heartbreak: The Early Life of Mariska Hargitay
Mariska is an actress, who added producing and directing to her list of talents. She was born to the glamorous actress Jayne Mansfield and the former Mr. Universe Mickey Hargitay on January 23, 1964.
Being born into Hollywood royalty, Mariska’s early life was surrounded by fame and glitz. This set a unique backdrop for her childhood. However, her early years were also marked by tragedy.
When Mariska was just three years old, her mother died in a car accident on June 29, 1967. This loss left a lasting scar on the actress, both physically and emotionally.
The actress expressed, “I clearly was in that frozen place for a lot of my childhood—of trying to survive, actually trying to survive. My life has been a process of unpeeling the layers and trust and trusting again.”
Despite this tragic beginning, Mariska’s parents’ legacy played a significant role in shaping her character. Her father, Mickey, raised her with discipline and love, teaching her the importance of hard work and resilience.
He ensured she had a normal upbringing. Mariska joined the swim team, ran cross-country, played volleyball, and by 1982, she was crowned Miss Beverly Hills. Despite her accomplishments, she was always aware of the darker side of life.
The actress later explained that she learned about crisis early and realized that life offers no guarantees, but we must keep moving forward and transform our experiences.
She considers this ability to be her superpower and sees it as a gift from experiencing trauma early in life. Despite these challenges, Mariska went on to live a full and fulfilling life.
Embracing Motherhood: Mariska’s Journey from Daughter to Mom
For Mariska, 2004 marked the beginning of a new phase in her life. That year, she married Peter, and on June 28, 2006, the actress welcomed her first child, August Miklos Friedrich Hermann, at 42.
Starting this journey into motherhood was easy for Mariska as she knew from a young age that she was meant for it. Despite losing her mother, she never lacked a maternal figure in her life. The actress was raised by her father’s third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, who never made her feel like an outsider.
Mariska reminisced, “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids. So we were blessed that she really embraced us and loved us so quickly. And I was very fortunate to have a maternal figure in my life after such a horrific accident.”
Additionally, while Ellen’s motherly act prepared Mariska for being a mom, it also stirred in her the desire to have children by other means. The actress had grown up realizing that being a mother did not have to be biological.
A Dream Fulfilled: The Adoption of Amaya Josephine
After a few years of becoming parents, Mariska and Peter, who came from big families, decided it was time to expand theirs. They were also not the only ones clamoring for more kids around the house. Their son August also wanted siblings.
However, the actress was over 40, and at her age at the time, pregnancies were never easy. Knowing she and her husband had so much love to give, Mariska was hopeful. She said, “I was really letting the chips fall as they might, because I do think so much is up to God.”
Mariska didn’t know how she was going to have more children, but she knew it was something that would happen. The actress remarked, “I always said, ‘I don’t know how this is going to end up. I don’t know if I’m going to get pregnant and have twins.’”
Despite having no clue, there was something she was sure of, and that was adoption. She recalled not knowing if someone would leave a baby on her doorstep. Nevertheless, she said, “But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan.”
In early April 2011, Mariska and Peter’s plan came to fruition as they welcomed their second child, Amaya Josephine Hermann. Their daughter had been born in the United States about a week before her adoption.
As soon as the couple decided to adopt, they did not limit themselves as they considered international and domestic adoption. Mariska revealed they had talked about the idea of mixed-race adoptions, and were excited to become a multi-racial family.
The actress’s excitement began even before Amaya joined the family. Mariska had revealed, “I’m deliriously happy. From the minute she was born, she was just surprisingly alert and so full of love.”
The second time Mother was not alone in her excitement. August, who was less than five at the time, was also happy to have a baby sister. His Mom disclosed, “He is over the moon. He calls her his baby because he says the whole thing was his idea. He always talks about how he’s going to protect her. He’s going to be a great big brother.”
A Brother’s Dream: The Joyous Arrival of Andrew Nicolas
August, who prided himself as a big brother, was very hands-on in his sister’s life. He reportedly even participated in picking out her name. However, seeing as he thought it was his idea for her to join the family, he wanted yet another sibling.
Six months after Amaya came home as a newborn, August’s wish was fulfilled as he welcomed his baby brother, Andrew Nicolas Hermann, in October 2011. This time, Andrew was not a newborn, as he had been born in the summer of that year.
Mariska noted, “August thinks this was all his idea! He said, ‘I want a baby sister,’ and Amaya came. Then he said, ‘I want a baby brother,’ and Andrew came. August is feeling pretty good and pretty powerful!”
While August Miklos Friedrich Hermann felt powerful, Mariska was feeling a range of positive emotions. She said, “We adopted Amaya, and Andrew, I always describe it as this angel that fell out of the sky, because he was a little unexpected. [sic]”
Andrew Nicolas, Peter Hermann, and Mariska Hargitay at the ceremony honoring Mariska Hargitay with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 8, 2013, in Hollywood. | Source: Getty Images
The adoption of Andrew was not something Peter and Mariska had planned for at the time it happened. The couple had initially planned to adopt another baby a year or more after Amaya joined their household.
However, things happened differently. The actress revealed that their lawyer suddenly called them to inform them about Andrew. Their lawyer noted that it was an amazing opportunity, and the couple, in that moment, had never been more sure about having him in their lives.
The swiftness and timing of Andrew joining their family makes the actress believe her son “fell out of the sky.” Nevertheless, Mariska knows that it’s not an easy journey.
She once remarked, “I’m not gonna lie, there were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, ‘Adoption is not for the faint of heart.’” But, on some days, the actress feels like she’s living in a dream world. She said, “I just sit and pinch myself.”
Mariska Hargitay with Amaya, Andrew, and August at The Children’s Museum Of The East End 5th Annual Family Fair on July 20, 2013, in Bridgehampton, New York. | Source: Getty Images
Family and Fulfillment: Mariska Hargitay on Life as a Mother of Three
At 47, Mariska, who initially didn’t think it was possible to love more than one kid, had become a mom of three. She said, “You know you have one kid, and then you think, oh my gosh, I’ll never love another kid, and then the second one comes, and you can’t believe that you love them, and then the third one fell out of sky.”
Becoming a mother did not only teach Mariska about her capacity to love, it did more. She noted, “Becoming a parent erased many of my negative childhood feelings and filled them in with something new,” some of which include trying out new cultures when it comes to their cuisines.
The actress is not the only one to have spoken to the media about their family of five. Peter Hermann’s love for his family is always evident even though gets private about their kids. However, he expressed his thoughts on the unconventional manner in which their family grew.
The actor divulged, “It’s funny, I always get so private about our kids, but I think that the easiest way or the easiest answer is we just wanted a bigger family and we feel incredibly blessed.”
In 2018, Mariska also opened up about her life with the kids as she graced the cover of People’s magazine. She said, “The thing that’s made me a better parent is my kids. Because they taught me to really listen. My husband is my North Star, and my kids are my teachers.”
Not only did they make her a better parent, they also gave her something perfect in life. The actress revealed, “Our family is so perfect, or at least perfect for me. Together we’re just this whole, happy, joyful, chaotic, crazy unit. I’ve never known anything that was more right.”
Despite having a crazy and chaotic unit, Mariska and Peter work together to get the results they desire. Even though they have different parenting styles, the couple complement each other, with the actress revealing that her husband knows everything she doesn’t know.
Shortly before turning 60 in 2024, Mariska reflected on her life’s journey, career, motherhood, and more. The actress had countless reasons to be thankful.
Peter Hermann and Mariska Hargitay with their children, August, Andrew, and Amaya at the 2023 Stuttering Association For The Young (SAY) Benefit Gala on May 22, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
One of the things Mariska was thankful for was the timing when she started her family. She said, “I’m so grateful that I’m an older mom. Grateful that I became successful older. I don’t know if I could have handled it when I was younger.”
The actress then compared what she was like in her younger days. She remembered that in her younger years, she struggled to be present, but as she got older, she learned to accept and appreciate life more deeply.
She noted, “And now I’m going to savor this moment. I want to share my lessons and where there is pain that I can fix that really inspires me to lighten the load.”
Mariska’s journey shows her strength and love. Starting her family in her early 40s, she faced the challenges and joys of raising three children with Peter. Their story is full of unexpected blessings and deep gratitude. As she cherishes her family, Mariska inspires us to embrace life’s surprises and the power of love at any age.
My Best Friend Kicked Me Out of Her Wedding After the Groom Took the Mic and Pointed at Me
When I walked into my best friend Lily’s wedding, I was ready to celebrate her happiest day. But by the end of the night, the groom was accusing me of sabotaging everything, while Lily demanded I leave. It wasn’t until I caught a glimpse of my reflection that I finally understood the chaos I’d caused.
Last weekend, I went to my best friend Lily’s wedding, and it was supposed to be the happiest day of her life. She and I had been inseparable since middle school.
Teens girl laughing | Source: Midjourney
We’d shared every milestone, from first dances to first heartbreaks, and always imagined ourselves in each other’s weddings. We even used to joke about it, sitting on her bed as teenagers and flipping through bridal magazines.
When she asked me to be a bridesmaid, I couldn’t have been more excited. It felt like I’d been waiting for this moment for years.
Lily planned this wedding down to the last detail, and it was clear from the start that she wanted it to be unforgettable.
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The venue, a picturesque vineyard nestled in the heart of Napa Valley, was a dream come true. Every detail she showed me through the process was stunning. She’d planned cascading flowers everywhere and string lights twinkling like stars because the theme was garden elegance.
She also wanted floral arches, pastel linens, and personalized champagne bottles at every table for the reception. It was extravagant, but it was so her.
A wedding aisle outdoors | Source: Midjourney
Unlike most brides, though, Lily didn’t want her bridesmaids to wear matching dresses. “I trust you guys,” she said during one of our planning calls. “I want you to pick something that makes you feel amazing. Be bold! I don’t care if it’s sparkly or neon green—just be you.”
I took her words to heart and spent weeks searching for the perfect dress. It had to be something that struck the balance between looking beautiful and not overshadowing her. I scoured boutiques, flipped through endless online catalogs, and even sent Lily pictures of my top choices.
A woman flipping through magazines | Source: Midjourney
She gave honest feedback on each one, but when I showed her the yellow dress I liked most, her response was instant: “OMG, yes! That’s gorgeous! You’ll look like Belle from Beauty and the Beast!”
On the day of the wedding, the vineyard looked like something out of a storybook. The ceremony took place outdoors under a flower-covered arch, with the golden sun setting in the background.
A wedding in a vineyard | Source: Midjourney
My best friend looked radiant in her custom-made gown, a stunning creation with lace sleeves and a long, flowing train. She practically glowed, and it was impossible not to tear up as she walked down the aisle with her father. She was beautiful, happy, and so in love with Matt.
For a moment, I forgot that he wasn’t exactly the type of man I would’ve chosen for her. We never got along, but she was happy, and in the end, that’s all that mattered.
A bride and groom dancing | Source: Midjourney
For the reception, we moved into a ballroom. It had high ceilings, glass walls that overlooked the vineyard, and more than enough room for the 300 people in attendance.
The food was incredible, the champagne was endless, and everyone seemed to be having the time of their lives.
Not to brag, but I got a lot of compliments on my dress throughout the night. People called it “stunning” and said the yellow color suited me. Some even joked that I looked like “Belle at the ball,” and honestly, I loved it.
A beautiful woman in a ballroom | Source: Midjourney
Even Lily pulled me aside at one point, grinning from ear to ear. “You look amazing!” she said. “I love how confident you are in that dress!”
Her praise meant everything to me. I couldn’t have been happier. For a while, it felt like nothing could ruin the night.
Then came a surprise: a blacklight dance party.
The DJ announced it around 10 p.m., and the crowd erupted with cheers. It was something Lily had planned without telling anyone, a fun, quirky twist to end the evening on a high note.
A DJ using a microphone at a wedding | Source: Midjourney
The lights dimmed, and the room was bathed in UV light. Suddenly, everything neon started to glow, and the dance floor filled with guests laughing at the colors that were highlighted. The music got more lively, and soon, people were dancing happily.
At first, it was great. The energy in the room was contagious, and I loved seeing everyone let loose. But then, I started noticing people staring at me. It wasn’t just quick glances, either. They were staring in shock or giving me side-eyes.
People shocked | Source: Midjourney
I frowned and tried to ignore them by dancing some more. Maybe it was the lighting, or maybe people were just tipsy from the open bar.
Then, out of nowhere, the music stopped.
Confused murmurs filled the room as people looked around. I spotted Matt snatching the microphone from the DJ booth, and my eyebrows furrowed.
His voice cut through the silence like a knife. “Look at her,” he said, pointing directly at me. “She came here to ruin my wife’s big day.”
An angry man with a microphone | Source: Midjourney
I blinked, shocked. What was he talking about?
Lily appeared beside him and, after looking in my direction, her face contorted with anger. “I can’t believe you would do this to me,” she snapped. “After everything!”
“What?” I stammered. “What are you talking about?”
Matt’s tone grew sharper. “You knew exactly what you were doing. Wearing that dress, trying to steal the spotlight. How dare you?”
An angry man pointing | Source: Midjourney
I stood there with my arms to the side, not knowing what was going on. The whispers in the crowd grew louder, and I felt the weight of every pair of eyes in the room on me.
This was like a dream I once had where I went to school in my pajamas.
Lily suddenly materialized beside me, her voice like ice. “You need to leave,” she ordered. “Now.”
“Please,” I begged, tears stinging my eyes. “I don’t know what—”
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“Stop!” she interrupted. “I don’t want to hear it. Just go.”
As I turned to leave, not knowing how I had offended my best friend, someone in the crowd shouted, “It’s the dress!”
My eyes snapped up, and I caught my reflection in the ballroom windows. My beautiful yellow dress, the one Lily had loved, was glowing bright white under the blacklights. It looked eerily similar to a wedding gown.
A woman shocked looking at her reflection in a window | Source: Midjourney
My stomach dropped. “It’s not white!” I shouted, spinning around to face the crowd. “It’s yellow! You all know it’s yellow! You saw me all night!”
But the room stayed silent.
“No!” Matt’s voice boomed through the microphone. “You did this on purpose to stand out! You knew about the blacklights! You planned this! GET OUT!”
I started crying while stumbling toward the exit. Lily’s other bridesmaids, her friends from college, followed me.
Two concerned bridesmaids | Source: Midjourney
Ashley, a kind soul, put a hand on my shoulder. “Cynthia, I know this isn’t your fault, but it’s just… not a good look right now. I think Matt may have been by the bar too long. Maybe you should go home, and you can talk to Lily tomorrow?”
Sarah, a more practical woman, nodded. “It’s an accident, but Matt’s making it worse. We’ll deal with this later.”
A woman in a hallway | Source: Midjourney
With a choked sob, I agreed and stumbled to my car, driving home blinded by tears.
Later that night, I sent Lily a long text. I apologized and explained that I had no idea she had planned blacklights for the party. I also added screenshots of her comments when I sent her pictures of my dress.
She knew it was yellow, not white!
“I’m so sorry,” I wrote. “I never wanted to hurt you or ruin your wedding. Please call me when you can.”
A woman holding a phone with a message | Source: Midjourney
She didn’t. Instead, by morning, I was blocked on all her social media. When I texted Ashley, she only said that Lily had been calling me “selfish” and “attention-seeking” and that she didn’t want me in her life anymore.
A week later, a package arrived at my door. Inside was a single photo of me at the wedding, glowing under the blacklights.
Below, a message was written, “Thanks for the memories.”
A polaroid of a woman with a handwritten message | Source: Midjourney
I stared at the picture, feeling my chest tightening. Was this really about the dress? Or had Matt been waiting for an excuse to push me out of Lily’s life? He’d always been cold toward me, even before they got engaged.
Maybe he didn’t like how close Lily and I were. Maybe Lily didn’t like me anymore and wanted an excuse to get rid of me.
What’s worse, I’ll probably never know the real reason for any of this because it’s been a while, and I’m still cut off.
A sad woman | Source: Midjourney
But here’s what I do know: a dress shouldn’t destroy a friendship. Their reaction told me everything I needed to know. After years of loyalty, I deserved better.
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