Actor Ali MacGraw sacrificed her own career for Steve McQueen

Ali MacGraw became a Hollywood superstar overnight. But just as quickly as she rose to fame, she disappeared from show business altogether.

Today, the 84-year-old actress has settled down in a remote and tiny town, and she’s aging gracefully with her grey hair.

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Ali MacGraw

Ali MacGraw – born Elizabeth Alice MacGraw – was born on April 1, 1939, in Pound Ridge, New York, USA. Her mother, Frances, was an artist and worked at a school in Paris, later settling in Greenwich Village. She married Richard MacGraw, who was also an artist. In 1939, Ali was born.

Ali’s father Richard supposedly had issues from his own childhood which made him a little bit different from others.

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He had survived a terrible childhood in an orphanage, running away at the age of 16 to go to sea. He would later study at an art school in Munich, Germany.

“Daddy was frightened and really, really angry. He never forgave his real parents for giving him up,” Ali explained, saying said her father’s adult life was spent “suppressing the rage that covered all his hurt.”

Ali MacGraw – childhood

Money was short for their family, too. Frances and Richard, together with Ali and her brother, Richard Jr, had to move into a house on a Pound Ridge wilderness preserve which they shared with an elderly couple.

“There were no doors; we shared the kitchen and bathroom with them,” Ali said. “It was utter lack of privacy. It was horrible.”

Mom Francis worked with several commercial-art assignments and supported the family. At the same time, Richard had a hard time selling his paintings, and as a result became very frustrated. Ali’s brother Richard became a victim for his anger at home.

“On good days he was great, but on bad days he was horrendous,” she recalled. “Daddy would beat my brother up, badly. I was witness to it, and it was terrible.”

Ali was the daughter of artists, and she knew that she, too, wanted to go into a creative line of work as she got older. She earned a scholarship at the prep school Rosemary Hall, and in 1956, she moved to study at Wellesley College in Massachusetts.

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By the age of 22, Ali MacGraw moved to New York and got her first job as an assistant editor at Harper’s Bazaar, working with photographers as an assistant.

Fashion work in New York

Fashion editor Diana Vreeland hired Ali as, what she recalls as, a “flunkie”. Ever seen the film The Devil Wears Prada? Well, it was pretty much that.

“It was ‘Girl! Get me a pencil!’,” MacGraw recalled.

The future Hollywood celebrity worked her job as an assistant for several months. Then, about six months in, fashion photographer Melvin Sokolsky noticed her beautiful looks, and Ali MacGraw was hired as a stylist,and given a better salary. She’d end up staying in that position for six years.

“I don’t know where she got this work ethic, but Ali would come in at eight a.m., and many times I’d come back at one in the morning and she would still be doing things for the next day,” Ruth Ansel, a former art director of Vanity Fair and Harper’s Bazaar recalls.

Ali was great as a stylist. But soon, she was asked to work in front of the cameras as a model. It didn’t take long before she was on magazine covers all over the world, even appearing in television commercials. For thing led to another, and Ali tumbled headfirst into the profession of acting.

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She had been sketched nude by Salvador Dali a couple of years earlier. But when the surrealist artist started sucking her toes, MacGraw decided that she’d rather be an actress than a model.

Ali MacGraw – films

Ali went straight from an unknown stylist and into the world of cinema, and boy, did she do it with a bang.

She was untutored in the art of film, which gave her acting another dimension. Her natural beauty was stunning, and the audience loved her.

Following a small role in A Lovely Way to Die (1968), she was asked to star in the 1969 film Goodbye, Columbus. It turned out to be a great call, with MacGraw receiving a Golden Globe for Most Promising Newcomer – Female. The following year, she got her big international breakthrough with a role that would pretty much sum up her career.

Ali MacGraw had received a script from her agent. She’d read it and wept twice because of how much she loved it. She decided she really wanted a part in it, and got herself a meeting with the film’s producer Robert Evans – who at the time was Paramount Picture’s head of production – at the Beverly Hills Hotel’s Polo Lounge. Not only did Evans think she was perfect for the part in the movie Love Story, he absolutely fell in love with her.

MacGraw – playing the role of Jenny – acted alongside Ryan O’Neal in the movie Love Story. The American romantic drama film, in which Ali played a working-class college student, became a smash hit.

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Love Story hit the cinemas in 1970, and wow did the audience cherish it. It became the No. 1 film in the United States, and at the time, it was the sixth highest grossing movie in history in the US and Canada.

Award-winning actress

MacGraw earned an Academy Award nomination for her role, and the film itself earned her another win and five Academy Award Nominations. She also won herself a second Golden Globe as Best Actress in a Motion Picture – Drama.

Film producer Robert Evans not only loved her on screen, he had fallen in love with her in real life, and that love was reciprocated. In 1969, the couple tied the knot, and two years later, they welcomed their son, Josh Evans.

Ali MacGraw was the hot new star of the 1970s, but her private life and marriage with Evans would soon come to an end. Steve McQueen had visited their home to ask her to star alongside him in The Getaway, and the two Hollywood stars clicked right away.

“I looked in those blue eyes, and my knees started knocking,” MacGraw recalled. “I became obsessed.”

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MacGraw and McQueen had an affair, and she soon left Evans to live with the actor in Malibu, along with her son Josh.

“Steve was this very original, principled guy who didn’t seem to be part of the system, and I loved that,” she said.

Ali MacGraw – Steve McQueen

But after a while, Ali realized that Steve McQueen had his own problems. Following his father abandoning his mother, a then-14-year-old Steve was sent to a school for delinquent children. MacGraw said he never trusted women after that.

American actor Steve McQueen (1930 – 1980) with Ali MacGraw, circa 1972.
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He didn’t like that she worked and had her own career. For a while, Ali stayed home to raise their sons. But her husband’s demands were something Ali simply couldn’t accept in the long run.

Not only that, but he’d explode if she even looked at another man. He also wanted her to sign a prenuptial agreement, promising not to ask for anything if they’d divorce. She abided by the agreement when they did divorce in 1978.

“I couldn’t even go to art class because Steve expected his ‘old lady’ to be there every night with dinner on the table,” she recalled.

“Steve’s idea of hot was not me. He liked blond bimbos, and they were always around.”

Steve McQueen and Ali McGraw in a scene from the 1972 movie “The Getaway.”

This was the start of a pretty dark time in MacGraw’s life. She arrived on set to shoot the 1978 film Convoy both drunk and high, which prompted her to quit drugs.

I Married My School Teacher – What Happened on Our First Night Shocked Me to the Core

I never expected to see my high school teacher years later in the middle of a crowded farmers’ market. But there he was, calling my name like no time had passed. What started as a polite conversation quickly turned into something I never could’ve imagined.

When I was in high school, Mr. Harper was the teacher everyone adored. Fresh out of university, he had a knack for making ancient history sound like a Netflix series. He was energetic, funny, and maybe a little too good-looking for a teacher.

Young male teacher in a classroom | Source: Midjourney

Young male teacher in a classroom | Source: Midjourney

For most of us, he was the “cool teacher,” the one who made you feel like learning was less of a chore. For me, he was just Mr. Harper—a kind, funny adult who always had time for his students.

“Claire, great analysis on the Declaration of Independence essay,” he told me once after class. “You’ve got a sharp mind. Ever thought about law school?”

Student handing her assignment to her teacher | Source: Midjourney

Student handing her assignment to her teacher | Source: Midjourney

I remember shrugging awkwardly, tucking my notebook against my chest. “I don’t know… Maybe? History’s just… easier than math.”

He chuckled. “Trust me, math is easier when you don’t overthink it. History, though? That’s where the stories are. You’re good at finding the stories.”

At 16, it didn’t mean much to me. He was just a teacher doing his job. But I’d be lying if I said his words didn’t stick.

Life happened after that. I graduated, moved to the city, and left those high school memories behind. Or so I thought.

High school graduate | Source: Midjourney

High school graduate | Source: Midjourney

Fast forward eight years later. I was 24 and back in my sleepy hometown, wandering through the farmers’ market when a familiar voice stopped me in my tracks.

“Claire? Is that you?”

I turned around, and there he was. Except now, he wasn’t “Mr. Harper.” He was just Leo.

“Mr. Har—I mean, Leo?” I stumbled over the words, feeling my cheeks heat.

His grin widened, the same as it always had been, but with a little more ease, a little more charm. “You don’t have to call me ‘Mr.’ anymore.”

It was surreal—standing there with the man who used to grade my essays, now laughing with me like an old friend. If only I’d known how much that moment would change my life.

People having a chat at a farmer's market | Source: Midjourney

People having a chat at a farmer’s market | Source: Midjourney

“You still teaching?” I asked, balancing a basket of fresh vegetables on my hip.

“Yeah,” Leo said, his hands stuffed into the pockets of his jacket. “Different school now, though. Teaching high school English these days.”

“English?” I teased. “What happened to history? “

He laughed, a deep, easy sound. “Well, turns out I’m better at discussing literature.”

What struck me wasn’t just how much older he looked—it was how much lighter he seemed. Less the energetic rookie teacher, more the confident man who’d found his rhythm.

People having a chat at a farmer's market | Source: Midjourney

People having a chat at a farmer’s market | Source: Midjourney

As we talked, the conversation didn’t just flow—it danced. He told me about his years teaching the students who drove him crazy but made him proud, and the stories that stayed with him. I shared my time in the city: the chaotic jobs, the failed relationships, and my dream of starting a small business someday.

“You’d be amazing at that,” he said over coffee two weeks later. “The way you described that idea? I could practically see it.”

“You’re just saying that,” I laughed, but his steady gaze made me pause.

“No, I mean it,” he said, his voice soft but insistent. “You’ve got the drive, Claire. You just need the chance.”

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People at a coffee date | Source: Midjourney

By the time we reached our third dinner—this one at a cozy bistro lit by soft candlelight—I realized something. The age gap? Seven years. The connection? Instant. The feeling? Unexpected.

“I’m starting to think you’re just using me for free history trivia,” I joked as he paid the check.

“Busted,” he said with a grin, leaning in closer. “Though I might have ulterior motives.”

The air shifted, a current of something unspoken but undeniable passing between us. My heart raced, and I broke the silence with a whisper.

“What kind of motives?”

“Guess you’ll have to stick around and find out.”

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Couple on a dinner date | Source: Getty Images

A year later, we stood under the sprawling oak tree in my parents’ backyard, surrounded by fairy lights, the laughter of friends, and the quiet rustle of leaves. It was a small, simple wedding, just as we wanted.

As I slipped the gold band onto Leo’s finger, I couldn’t help but smile. This wasn’t the kind of love story I’d ever imagined for myself, but it felt right in every way.

Bride and Groom exchanging vows on their wedding day | Source: Midjourney

Bride and Groom exchanging vows on their wedding day | Source: Midjourney

That night, after the last guest left and the house had fallen into a peaceful hush, Leo and I finally had a moment to ourselves. We sat in the dim light of the living room, still dressed in our wedding clothes, shoes kicked off, champagne glasses in hand.

“I have something for you,” he said, breaking the comfortable silence.

I raised an eyebrow, intrigued. “A gift? On top of marrying me? Bold move.”

He laughed softly and pulled a small, worn leather notebook from behind his back. “I thought you might like this.”

I took it, running my fingers over the cracked cover. “What is this?”

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An old small note book | Source: Midjourney

“Open it,” he urged, his voice tinged with something I couldn’t quite place—nervousness? Excitement?

Flipping the cover open, I immediately recognized the messy scrawl on the first page. My handwriting. My heart skipped. “Wait… is this my old dream journal?”

He nodded, grinning like a kid confessing a well-kept secret. “You wrote it in my history class. Remember? That assignment where you had to imagine your future?”

“I completely forgot about this!” I laughed, though my cheeks flushed with embarrassment. “You kept it?”

Bride smiling while looking at her journal | Source: Midjourney

Bride smiling while looking at her journal | Source: Midjourney

“Not on purpose,” he admitted, rubbing the back of his neck. “When I switched schools, I found it in a box of old papers. I wanted to throw it out, but… I couldn’t. It was too good.”

“Good?” I flipped through the pages, reading fragments of teenage dreams. Starting a business. Traveling to Paris. Making a difference. “This is just the ramblings of a high schooler.”

“No,” Leo said, his voice firm but gentle. “It’s the map to the life you’re going to have. I kept it because it reminded me how much potential you had. And I wanted to see it come true.”

Newly weds having an intimate conversation in their living room | Source: Midjourney

Newly weds having an intimate conversation in their living room | Source: Midjourney

I stared at him, my throat tightening. “You really think I can do all this?”

His hand covered mine. “I don’t think. I know. And I’ll be here, every step of the way.”

Tears welled in my eyes as I clutched the notebook to my chest. “Leo… you’re kind of ruining me right now.”

He smirked. “Good. That’s my job.”

That night, as I lay in bed, the worn leather notebook resting on my lap, I couldn’t shake the feeling that my life was about to change in ways I couldn’t yet comprehend. Leo’s arm was draped over me, his steady breathing warm against my shoulder.

Newly weds having an intimate conversation in their living room | Source: Midjourney

Newly weds having an intimate conversation in their living room | Source: Midjourney

I stared at the notebook, its pages brimming with dreams I’d long since forgotten, and felt something shift deep inside me.

“Why didn’t you tell me you had this sooner?” I whispered, breaking the silence.

He stirred slightly but didn’t lift his head. “Because I didn’t want to pressure you,” he murmured sleepily. “You had to find your way back to those dreams on your own.”

I ran my fingers over the pages, my teenage handwriting almost foreign to me. “But… what if I fail?”

Leo propped himself up on one elbow, his eyes meeting mine in the dim light. “Claire, failing isn’t the worst thing. Never trying? That’s worse.”

His words lingered long after he drifted back to sleep. By morning, I’d made up my mind.

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Woman having coffee while seated on her bed | Source: Midjourney

Over the next few weeks, I began tearing down the walls I’d built around myself. I quit the desk job I’d never loved and threw myself into the idea that had lived rent-free in my head for years: a bookstore café. Leo became my rock, standing by me through late nights, financial hiccups, and my relentless self-doubt.

“Do you think people will actually come here?” I asked him one night as we painted the walls of the shop.

He leaned on the ladder, smirking. “You’re kidding, right? A bookstore with coffee? You’ll have people lining up just to smell the place.”

He wasn’t wrong. By the time we opened, it wasn’t just a business—it was a part of the community. And it was ours.

People at a bookstore with coffee shop. | Source: Midjourney

People at a bookstore with coffee shop. | Source: Midjourney

Now, as I sit behind the counter of our thriving bookstore café, watching Leo help our toddler pick up crayons from the floor, I think back to that notebook—the spark that reignited a fire in me I didn’t know had gone out.

Leo glanced up, catching my eye. “What’s that look for?” he asked, grinning.

“Nothing,” I said, my heart full. “Just thinking… I really did marry the right teacher.”

“Damn right, you did,” he said, winking.

Happy couple gazing into each other's eyes | Source: Midjourney

Happy couple gazing into each other’s eyes | Source: Midjourney

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