Every day, the female body is exposed to more and more judgment from society. Social media feeds are full of unrealistic photos that can really make someone feel uncomfortable in their own skin. For women with postpartum bodies, this topic can be the most sensitive. To support others, this proud mother decided to stop hiding behind filters or pieces of clothing and embrace the flaws that truly make us special.
Most mothers aren’t prepared for the challenges that come after childbirth.
Danisha, a mom of 4, recently started sharing her journey about accepting her body on social media. At first, she was really ashamed and constantly tried to hide her postpartum belly, but with her last baby, she wanted a change.
“I didn’t know that I would have as much loose skin as I do now, and stretch marks. No one ever discussed it, my doctors didn’t discuss it,” the mother explained. “I didn’t know that my body just wouldn’t look the same anymore. But I want to embrace my body, and I’m happy where I’m at.”
Danisha believes a woman’s body creates miracles.
Seeing tons of celebrities and models posing with their pregnant bellies can give us the wrong image. They can make us believe that perfection can exist and that something might be wrong with our own bodies, even lowering our confidence to the point that we forget to love ourselves.
In one of her Instagram posts, she pointed out to other moms that they are loved, saying, “Don’t let society trick you into believing you need to be ’fixed.’ Your body is not wrong, society is!”
Society expects a different image of the female postpartum body.
Women are expected to quickly bounce back to their pre-pregnancy bodies. For many mothers, this can feel like they’re strangers in their own their skin. Fighting against your body means losing the battle in the end, but knowing how to accept it and start loving yourself from all angles is a different type of pure love that can only occur if the mother is 100% ready to do it.
The brutal honesty behind Danisha’s posts makes her even prouder of who she is. “Our body is meant to evolve and change, that is what happens with growth, not everyone’s body will change the same and that’s okay,” she admitted. “My wonderful body carried 4 beautiful blessings, my belly is a reminder of that and signifies growth. It has taken me a long time to accept her, love her, and appreciate her.”
Despite the negative comments that come from everywhere, knowing how to keep your positivity is one of the hardest jobs that people face when they show themselves at their most vulnerable online.
“I have a pouch, I have soft stretchy loose skin. My physical features are not what makes it beautiful, but the fact that my body was able to create life itself for a fourth time. I’m strong as a mother.”
Danisha doesn’t let the negative comments stop her. Showing the raw reality behind a mom’s body is a huge help for other mothers out there as well. “A lot of mamas are unprepared for postpartum.”
It’s a privilege to watch our bodies change as we grow older.
Sometimes, despite all our efforts and hard work to keep our bodies in shape, genetics can get involved and create a different person in the mirror. She explained, “I love it when people tell me that if I had moisturized my skin more then my belly wouldn’t have looked ’this way’ or if I wore a waist trainer I wouldn’t have a pouch and even greater if I dieted or exercised more, then my belly wouldn’t be as ’big.’”
The mother of 4 continued, “The reality is genetics play a big role. My belly is this way because of 4 reasons. I created life 4 times and no oils or creams would have miraculously prevented it. My sagging skin, stretch marks, and other love marks are reminders of bearing my children.”
Every mother is special in her own way and no one deserves to be discriminated against because of their appearance.
“To the mama looking at herself in the mirror: It’s completely normal not to fit into your pre-pregnancy clothes your body outgrew in order to make room for your beautiful blessing. Sizing up is nothing to feel ashamed of,” Danisha declared.
It wasn’t easy, but Danisha started accepting her body.
Understanding how to love stretch marks and accept body changes can be one of the hardest steps that a mom can do. They are a natural response from the body.
“Many would love to have tiger stripes. You can also have them without having children. My tummy was home to 4 of my children, and they love it,” she said.
Beauty comes from both inside and outside.
Regardless of what we look like on the outside, whether we differ in skin color or weight, all people are special in their own way, and our bodies do an amazing job at keeping us alive. In an effort to encourage others around her, this mother points out, “Whether you choose to cover your belly or not, you’re still worthy, still beautiful.”
Here are some similar stories that show us the beauty in every woman’s body.
A Mom of 4 Proudly Documents Her Postpartum Body and Becomes the Dose of Body Positivity We All Need
A Mother Was Told Her Stomach Was “Nasty,” but She Proves How Beautiful Women’s Bodies Really Are
9 Times Ashley Graham Embraced Her Motherhood Journey, From a Postpartum Body to Breastfeeding
8 Celebrity Moms Who Got Honest and Showed Us the Raw Reality of Motherhood
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Woman Swerves To Miss Trash Bag In Road, Looks Closer And Gets The Chills
An Unexpected Meeting on a Different Route
Even minor adjustments to our daily routine can have a big impact. This was the case for Kentucky teacher Malissa Sergent Lewis, who one summer morning in 2016 decided on the spur of the moment to take an alternative route to work.
In an attempt to go to her elementary school more quickly, Malissa, who was running late, chose to take a side route rather than the main highway. She had no idea how much this little diversion would affect her day.
Malissa saw an odd sight as she drove along the desolate road: an abandoned trash bag. But this was no regular bag—it appeared to be in motion.
Malissa was forced by curiosity to look into it more. She noticed that someone had purposefully tied the bag tight as she cautiously approached it. She cautiously tore open a corner of the bag, only to find a touching surprise within.
A puppy was inside the sack, and as soon as it spotted light, it began to eagerly wag its tail. Malissa was astounded by what she saw. For an indefinite amount of time, the puppy had been abandoned in the middle of the road and kept inside a trash bag.
A Heartfelt Reaction
Unable to ignore the defenseless puppy, Malissa made the decision to take it to work. After her son eventually brought the dog home, they went to the vet to make sure it was healthy.
Malissa tried everything to figure out how the puppy got into the bag by the side of the road, but she was unable. She got in touch with animal control because she was afraid it would be lost or stolen. Remarkably, nobody had claimed ownership of the puppy or reported it missing.
With a great deal of compassion, Malissa and her family decided to give the puppy the love and care it deserved by adopting it. Malissa, though, was unable to understand the callousness of someone who would commit such a heinous deed.
An Unexpected Development
Malissa thought back on the event and realized that she would never have found the abandoned puppy if she had carried out her usual routine that day. This coincidental meeting changed the story, sparing the dog from an otherwise terrible outcome.
The tale of Malissa’s generosity serves as a reminder of the amazing people who give their all to better the lives of mistreated and abandoned animals. Their commitment and kindness make the world a happier and better place for these defenseless animals.
To honor Malissa and those who go above and beyond to provide love and hope to animals in need, please spread the word about this story.
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