In a profoundly inspiring story of love and determination, Joseph Williams defied seemingly insurmountable odds to find not just love, but an enduring and unbreakable connection with Vania. Their journey, marked by initial uncertainties and obstacles, ultimately led to a heartwarming union in 2020.
Williams encountered many challenges and faced repeated rejections.
Born with otofacial syndrome, Williams endured a lifetime of bullying and isolation until he found the love of his life. Despite ongoing criticism, the couple is now happily married and has emerged from these challenges even stronger. Unable to speak or chew due to his disability, Williams communicates through sign language and relies on a feeding tube.
The love he experiences with his wife has reignited his self-esteem following years of feeling worthless. This has motivated him to advocate for embracing life despite differences. He expressed fervently, “I understand that I am different and that some people will think I am ugly and not accept me, but I am still a person who has a heart, feelings, and a brain. I should be treated with respect, just as anyone else should be.”
During difficult times, love persists.
Joseph prefers to receive questions rather than stares regarding his condition. He emphasizes the importance of independence, as he experienced excessive protectiveness during his youth. His adoption stemmed from his birth mother’s surprise at his condition, yet he remains steadfast in not letting it define or limit him.
Despite enduring difficult treatments such as bone and skin grafts along with jaw reconstruction, Joseph faced self-esteem challenges in his youth, fearing a life of isolation. However, in 2019, he met Vania, who would become his wife. Their relationship started as friends and evolved into a deep and meaningful love story.
Curiosity blossomed into a deep love that bound them together.
When Vania first encountered Williams at her workplace, she was intrigued but uncertain about how to approach his condition. Eventually, she learned about it through someone else. Williams had faced various reactions to his condition, from curious stares to people avoiding him out of discomfort.
Despite these challenges, Joseph and Vania forged a deep bond. Their friendship gradually evolved into a romantic relationship, though Vania initially struggled with feelings of embarrassment. Over time, she fully embraced him for who he was. They communicate using a text-to-speech app and sign language. When Vania’s mother, Janice, first met Williams, she was initially surprised but curious about his condition.
Despite initial uncertainties, their love triumphed.
Vania’s mother expressed her admiration, saying, “He’s a remarkable man. He does things that, you know, normal men don’t do. He’s a hard worker, for one, he’s attentive to Vania. He cares about her, he loves her, and she loves him.”
Despite initial doubts, Williams and Vania got married in 2020, supported by her parents and his loved ones.
Their relationship has sparked various opinions from people, with many making assumptions about them. Some have commented, “She can’t kiss him,” or “She must be cheating on him.” However, their unwavering determination and deep love for each other have never stopped them from pursuing their dreams, proving that love conquers all and prevails above all else.
Their story is a testament to the immense power of love to overcome obstacles and defy societal expectations. Through highs and lows, doubts and triumphs, they have forged a remarkable bond that will endure a lifetime.
Countless other stories similarly demonstrate that love is an unstoppable force capable of conquering any adversity.
MEET NYAKIM GATWEC – A MODEL NICKNAMED ‘QUEEN OF THE DARK’
A woman was utterly surprised when her Uber driver offered her an unsolicited tip on how to care for her remarkable skin.
Celebrating her striking beauty, the fashion icon, famously known as the “Queen of the Dark,” responded with laughter, dismissing his remarks with ease.
Read on to discover what the Uber driver said and how she transformed the situation into a learning opportunity!
Having spent her early years in refugee camps in Ethiopia and Kenya, Nyakim Gatwech envisioned America as a “heaven on earth.”
However, upon arriving in Buffalo at the age of 14, Gatwech found herself often alone, crying over the harsh judgments she faced due to her deeply pigmented skin.
Based in Minnesota and originally from South Sudan, the model endured years of bullying for her radiant dark complexion, with comments like, “You don’t take showers. That’s why your skin is dirty,” or, “Smile so we can see you, Nyakim. We can’t see you.”
“In class, for example, the teacher would ask a question and say, ‘Oh, Nyakim, can you answer that?’ A kid would say, ‘Who are you talking to? We can’t see her. She’s not here.’ The whole class would start laughing, and I would just cry,” the now 31-year-old woman shares with Cosmopolitan.
As a young girl desperate to fit in, it was tough when random men would bet on whether she was wearing leggings or if her skin was genuinely that dark.
“At one point, I did consider [bleaching my skin]. When I came to America from a refugee camp in Africa [at age 14], I lived in Buffalo, New York. I would cry myself to sleep after being bullied [about my skin],” she says. “There are so many beautiful dark-skinned Sudanese women who bleach their skin.”
Gatwech revealed that her own sister was among those who bleached their skin. “My own sister did it. But when I told her I wanted to [after living in America for a few months], she told me no. ‘I’m not going to let my daughter do it, or you, nobody.’”
Queen of the Dark
Now hailed as the Queen of the Dark, this woman – who has faced discrimination from designers, makeup artists, and even fellow models – feels empowered by overcoming negativity.
Gatwech’s confidence and profound love for her deep chocolatey skin are supported by her 962,000 loyal Instagram followers.
“My chocolate is elegant. So is what I represent… A nation of warriors,” she writes in one post.
Fans are captivated by her striking beauty.
“Omgggggg I love your skin and melanin,” one fan comments, while another says, “love your beautiful skin tone so much! God makes beautiful creations such as you to remind us of His magnificence!”
Responding to the overwhelming support, Gatwech states, “I grew to learn to love myself… Now, I am not bothered by it [the negativity]. I accept my skin, I love myself, and I’m not insecure about my skin anymore. I don’t think I’m ugly anymore. I have confidence in myself.”
‘Stupidest questions’
A few years ago, Gatwech recounts an encounter with an Uber driver who asked if she’d ever consider bleaching her unique skin.
“He said, ‘Wow, you’re dark,’” Gatwech tells Cosmopolitan about her conversation with the driver. “I just laughed. I wanted to know why he thought I should. He said because life would be easier for me. It would be easier for me to be in a relationship, or guys would be more attracted to me if I was lighter. If I was going to a job interview, I would get the job opportunities because I’m lighter. I just said, ‘[Even if] being lighter would make my life easier, I’d rather take the [hard] road.’”
She adds, “I’m accustomed to people asking the most absurd questions about my skin.”
Gatwech then shared her story on Instagram, accompanied by a stunning photo of herself with three other dark-skinned Sudanese women.
She wrote, “A nation with people so dark you won’t believe your eyes… skin so rich and teeth so bright. Gosh, how I love my country, my people, and everything that comes with it.”
She detailed her encounter with the Uber driver: “[SIC] I was asked by my Uber driver the other day, he said, ‘Don’t take this offensively, but if you were given 10 thousand dollars, would you bleach your skin for that amount?’ I couldn’t even respond; I started laughing so hard. Then he said, ‘So that’s a no?’ and I was like, ‘Hell to the f*cking yeah, that’s a no. Why on earth would I ever bleach this beautiful melanin God blessed me with?’ Then he asked, ‘So you see it as a blessing?’”
Her followers quickly responded with praise and support.
“I guess he didn’t get the memo… black is beautiful,” one fan commented.
“I love you for loving you,” shared another. A third added, “Why would we ever want to mess up something so beautiful?”
When asked by Yahoo Beauty what advice she would give to young black girls facing similar challenges, she said, “You are beautiful, you are unique, and there are people who love you just the way you are. They say the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice. Embrace your darkness!”
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