According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Users stunned by Pamela Anderson’s rustic home that was once her granny’s
Celebrity Canadian-born Pamela Anderson, who over the past ten years has gone from glam to charmingly ordinary, gave fans a glimpse into her newly constructed rustic home, which is a reflection of her love of the great outdoors.
Currently in her late 50s, the Baywatch sex icon—who was previously well-known for her exploits with her rock star ex-husband—enjoys the rustic beauty of Western Canada on the property that her grandparents formerly owned.
Following her return to “her safe place,” fans are ecstatic to see the once-wild woman “living simply,” but they are shocked to learn the modest diva does her own laundry.
Continue reading to learn more about the stunning Pam Anderson in her natural environment!
After years of leading a busy lifestyle, Pamela Anderson, the star of the popular television show Baywatch, recently underwent a major makeover and redefined herself as a natural beauty.
In 2023, Anderson, 56, disproved the long-held reputation of her as a sex symbol by attending Paris Fashion Week sans makeup.
The stunning model and actor looked stunning on the red carpet in an all-white ensemble that had wide-leg leggings, a cream-colored blazer draped over her shoulders, and a loose-fitting blouse. The outfit was finished with tiny silver stud earrings, and her hair was pulled back into a short ponytail to highlight her inherent beauty.
Anderson claims in an interview with Allure that her appearance was a fiction about who she truly is.
If my name is taken out of context, it can convey a negative impression. I like to refer to these outfits I wore from Playboy to Baywatch as my “Halloween costumes.” I just feel like it’s alright now that I’ve found my place of self-acceptance and self-love. “What I’m into today is an intentional choice,” says Anderson.
But there were several changes to her appearance.
Canadian female
After being married to rock icons Tommy Lee, Kid Rock, and the drummer for Mötley Crüe in the past, Anderson moved back to her home country of Canada a few years ago from the hustle and bustle of Hollywood.
While there, Anderson—a vegan and PETA representative—renovated the charming seaside cottage on Vancouver Island that she had purchased from her grandparents more than thirty years before.
“It celebrates the magic of scenic settings where nature always has a proud seat at the table,” writes Anderson on Instagram.
This six-acre property, which sits on the strait separating the island from the mainland of British Columbia, is where she spent her formative years.
One of the nine wooden huts her grandpa had constructed on the land many years ago belonged to her parents; the other eight had been demolished.
“The Little Mermaid Castle”
Anderson, who portrayed the Tool Time Girl in the sitcom Home Improvement in the 1990s, had high standards for the rustic and “sexy” repairs she wanted to make to her own home: “I’m craving something wild, sensual, and insane! I am a mermaid, and here is my mermaid castle.
The property has undergone a “cheap and cheerful makeover,” resulting in sweeping gardens and a barn, which are indicative of her love of the great outdoors and carefree attitude.
With a pavilion added on the old pier, the actor was able to dine al fresco while taking in views of the shimmering lake. Today, the boathouse serves as a lakefront home.
“Laundry is life.”
While renovations were being done, Anderson moved into The Roadhouse, a former little shop used by guests staying in the vacation cabins.
The woman, who says that doing laundry is her “happy place” and “life,” was made to choose setting up a laundry room over continuing her “self-care ritual.”
Anderson declares, “It has to be done, might as well make it fun,” in an Instagram promotional video. I see it as an opportunity to sort of withdraw and take some alone time. It is reflective.
Fans had a lot to say after Anderson revealed their true feelings: “I thought I was the only one who enjoyed to wash laundry! Hanging the sheets on the line is heaven on a bright sunny day when you hop in bed!
In reaction to the video of her looking almost angelic in all white, another writes: “She is one of the very few women who makes me feel at peace while perusing social media.I love her fashion sense.
“A sweet spirit”
Based on comments posted on her social media sites, it appears that fans love her even more now than they did when she debuted on television almost 35 years ago.
“At fifty-three, I still feel like the woman we all wanted me to be at twenty-five.” “GORGEOUS soul,” a fan declares.
“You’re quite beautiful! “I admire you for bringing your innate beauty and self-love to the mainstream and showcasing them,” adds another.
A third remarks about Anderson’s property and says, “Good for her.” Right there, with granny. Is there love for you to experience?
Another remarks, “Beautiful…She deserves to be happy in every way.She went back home to her safe sanctuary.
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