I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
“Batman” Actor Christian Bale Reveals Plan to Build 12 New Homes for Foster Children
“I was stunned and mad to learn that we have more foster kids in Los Angeles than anywhere else in the country,” Christian Bale, the beloved Batman actor, shared. This drove him to want to keep brothers and sisters in foster care together, and he plans to build a ’village’ to make it happen. He also talked about what made him decide to take on such a big project.
Bale recently showed off plans for a new ’village’ in California.
Christian Bale, known for his roles in movies like American Psycho and the Batmanseries, has been working on an idea since his daughter was born in 2005. Now, he’s taking action.
His vision includes building 12 foster homes, two studio flats for kids transitioning to independent living, and a 7,000 square foot community center. Bale wants to keep siblings in foster care together, ideally living under the same roof. So, he’s leading the charge to create a special complex that will make this possible.
It’s set to be the first of its kind in the state.
Construction is currently ongoing on the project, which is estimated to cost $22 million and is expected to be completed by 2025. The village will be located next to a park in Palmdale, a city situated 60 miles north of Los Angeles.
Christian Bale, aged 50, who co-founded Together California, the organization driving the development, described the village as “something absolutely new, totally transformative, and something completely needed.”
He expressed a deep desire to change the sad reality by launching the village project.
Christian Bale spoke passionately about the heartbreaking experience of children losing their families and being separated from their siblings. He hoped this initiative would raise awareness in the community about the challenges these children face and encouraged people in California and Los Angeles to come together to support them.
“Imagine the absolute pain and the trauma of losing your parents or being torn from your parents, and then losing your brothers and sisters on top of that,” he explains.
Bale said he learned about helping others and taking action from his dad, David.
Bale added that growing up their home was always open to those in need, “We were always having other people coming and living in our house who didn’t have homes, etc. That’s just the guy that he was.”
The actor revealed that his drive to help children in need was ignited after the birth of his daughter, Emmeline, in 2005. Bale admitted that he found himself deeply pondering what life would be like for his daughter if he wasn’t around.
Bale shared that he was “mad” to find out that Los Angeles has the highest number of foster children in the country. He admitted feeling frustrated with himself for not knowing about this earlier, prompting him to decide to focus on addressing the issue. He and his wife resolved to do everything they could to make a difference.
Christian Bale’s kindness towards those who need help is really amazing. Whether he’s standing up for foster children in Los Angeles or doing other good deeds, Bale’s commitment to making the world better shows us the power of caring. Before you go, why not read another touching story? It’s about a woman who adopted her husband’s ex-wife’s baby so he wouldn’t have to grow up in foster care like she did.
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