There are so many things in the world that we may admire or even get inspired by, but there’s one main thing we may want to fall in love with before we start noticing the beauty of other things. It’s our own reflection in the mirror. Among all the numerous recipes for conjuring up self-love within ourselves, psychologists advise us to never compare ourselves to others and stop caring about other people’s opinions. Actress and producer Lena Dunham knows a lot about cultivating love for her own body despite all the criticism she faced, and she happily shares her journey with us all.
Lena Dunham doesn’t accept the term “body positivity,” and here’s why.
Actress and writer Lena Dunham has recently added another string to her bow and collaborated with the brand 11 Honoré to create a plus-size clothing collection. But the very term “plus size” frustrates Lena, and so is the term “body positivity.” In one of her Instagram posts, she explains that she feels more “body tolerant” than “body positive.”
In her interview, Dunham said, “The thing that’s complicated about the body-positive movement is it can be for the privileged few who have a body that looks the way people want to feel positive. We want curvy bodies that look like Kim Kardashian has been up-sized slightly. We want big beautiful butts and big beautiful breasts and no cellulite and faces that look like you could smack them onto thin women.”
Dunham has a very special relationship with her own body.
Dunhams path to self-love started with a decade-long journey with endometriosis. Since she started her own fight against it, she has been candidly sharing how it influenced both her emotional health and her relationship with her own body image. In her Instagram post, she emotionally described how she fluctuated between loving her body and the opposite.
She wrote, “Ya know when you’re home alone, and you realize you’d be happier in a hot lil’ onesie than your ketchup and cat food stained pajamas? And it’s not about a boy or a photo shoot or a weight loss before-and-after, it’s just for the feeling of glee you get from dressing your one and only corporeal form in pleasing fabrics, the unique pleasure of admiring the twists and turns of the body that loves the heck out of you even when you don’t love it.”
Dunham is powerfully addressing all people who come to her page with criticism.
In 2021, Dunham tied the knot with musician Luis Felber. It was such a darling event for her that she wore 3 wedding dresses to marry her love and shared the photos on her Instagram. However, she started getting some “gnarly” comments in her feed from people who commented on her body and appearance. The actress didn’t hesitate for a minute to address them with a powerful message.
She wrote, “One narrative I take issue with, largely because it’s a story I don’t want other women, other people, to get lodged in their heads, is that I should somehow be criticized because my body has changed since I was last on television. […] But lastly, when will we learn to stop equating thinness with health/happiness?”
Dunham’s powerful message can be echoed in the hearts of many.
For all people who have ever hesitated about embracing their body image, Dunham has some simple yet wise advice. She says, “Of course weight loss can be the result of positive change in habits, but guess what? So can weight gain. The pics I’m being compared to are from when I was with an undiagnosed illness. In the last 4 years, I’ve begun my life as someone who aspires toward health and not just achievement.
These changes have allowed me to be the kind of sister/friend/daughter that I want to be and yes — meet my husband (who, by the way, doesn’t recognize me in those old photos because he sees how dimmed my light was). I say this for any other person whose appearance has been changed with time, illness, or circumstance — it’s okay to live in your present body without treating it as transitional. I am, and I’m really enjoying it. Love you all.”
Do you find Lena Dunham’s example inspiring? What do you love the most about your appearance?
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I Discovered My Husband’s Affair with His Boss Through a Subtle Clue
David’s invitation to a lavish party at his boss’s mansion sparked excitement in Penelope. It felt like a perfect opportunity for them to reconnect. However, her enthusiasm wavered when she noticed a detail indicating that David had visited the mansion before, planting seeds of doubt in her mind. As hidden truths began to surface, Penelope faced the unsettling possibility of betrayal.
On an ordinary Thursday evening, Penelope was busy baking cookies for her energetic five-year-old, Derrick. The kitchen was filled with the delicious aroma of vanilla and chocolate, harmonizing with Derrick’s laughter as he painted a colorful masterpiece that vaguely resembled a dinosaur.
Just then, David entered, dressed sharply but with a weary demeanor. The sight of him stirred a mix of emotions within Penelope, once thrilling, now a reminder of their strained relationship.
After exchanging greetings, David revealed an exciting opportunity: an invitation to a birthday party hosted by his boss, Laura, at her extravagant mansion. Penelope felt a rush of hope. This could be a moment for them to reconnect and enjoy each other’s company, especially with a babysitter already arranged for Derrick.
When Friday night arrived, Penelope was awestruck by Laura’s mansion. The grand structure, complete with manicured gardens and twinkling lights, felt surreal. As they stepped inside, Penelope’s excitement quickly shifted when she borrowed David’s phone to check in with the babysitter and noticed it was connected to the mansion’s Wi-Fi. Confusion washed over her, why would David’s phone already be linked here if he claimed he’d never visited before?
Throughout the evening, Penelope’s discomfort grew. David mingled with colleagues, while she wandered aimlessly, increasingly anxious. When she overheard Laura’s husband mention that Laura would have the mansion to herself, an unsettling feeling crept in. David’s casual remark about working late that night felt ominous, igniting her suspicions further.
The following day, Penelope dropped off Derrick at school, heart heavy with unease. Determined to uncover the truth, she drove to David’s office but learned he had left early for a “personal matter”. Her gut told her something was off. She called him, and his dismissive response only intensified her fears.
Fueled by a mix of dread and determination, Penelope drove to Laura’s mansion. Confronted by Laura at the door, she insisted on seeing David. Ignoring Laura’s attempts to block her, Penelope stormed inside, driven by an urgent need for answers. When she found David hiding in the closet, guilt written all over his face, everything came crashing down.
Accusations flew, and as David stumbled through half-hearted explanations, Penelope’s anger bubbled over. The confrontation concluded with her declaration that it was over, leaving David behind as she exited the lavish house, heartbroken.
The drive home blurred into a haze of tears. Back at home, the weight of betrayal felt almost unbearable, yet she knew she had to be strong for Derrick. That evening, with Maria’s comforting presence, Penelope began to process the betrayal. Seeking support, she reached out to a lawyer and started therapy to rebuild her life.
Days turned into weeks as she focused on Derrick, ensuring he felt secure and loved. One night, as she tucked him in, his innocent question about her well-being reminded her of her resilience. Smiling through her tears, she reassured him, determined to embrace a new beginning for both of them.
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