I’ve always been a patient person. I got to practice my patience when my father remarried following my mom’s death. So, when my in-laws tried to get me to break up with my husband before we could get married, I just used what I had learned earlier in life to withstand their onslaught.
You know, sometimes trying to find your place in someone else’s family can be really tricky. At least, it was for me when I met my husband’s family. See, I’m originally from Morocco, while my husband, Jeremy, was raised by an extremely conservative family from Georgia. That should be enough to give you an idea of what I faced.
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I immigrated to the US shortly after my mother passed away. I was 11 at the time, and it felt like my entire world was coming to an end. To add to this, my dad married a new woman only a little over a year after Mom’s death. Naturally, adjusting to life in a new country and coming to terms that there was a new woman in my mom’s place was jarring.
My stepmom wasn’t a bad person, but we never got along. I think she felt insecure about the fact that she could never have kids, so she would often be mean and distant toward my sister and me. She used to try to upset us all the time by doing petty things that she knew would make us uncomfortable, but luckily my mom had taught me to always smile when people were intentionally being mean to me.
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This turned out to be a great defense mechanism, and my stepmom couldn’t bear that her tricks weren’t working on me. Eventually, things died down and we made our peace, but I would never forget how effective it was to just smile through whatever petty new ploy she had devised to try and upset me. It truly was one of the greatest gifts my mom had ever given me.
But my stepmom was a minor hindrance compared to Jeremy’s family. When I met them for the first time, I knew I was in for a lengthy cold war.
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I met Leona, Jeremy’s mom, and the rest of the Fergus family at one of their family dinners. By that time, I had been dating Jeremy for almost a year, and they had used every excuse to avoid inviting me to their dinners. This time, Jeremy ensured that they couldn’t weasel out of meeting me, and he even told his mom to prepare a few dishes that I could eat, since I steer clear of any pork and alcohol.
While my loving boyfriend was sure there would be something for me, I knew better than to just blindly trust people who clearly had misgivings about me to respect my personal choices, so I ate as I would before a fast and prepared myself for sitting around the dinner table while everyone enjoyed their meal.
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When we showed up at Jeremy’s parents’ house, the family greeted me with half-hearted smiles and quick hugs before we all settled down to eat. I knew the greetings would be awkward and stiff, but what I didn’t anticipate was Leona bringing a peppy blonde woman up to me with a huge smile and saying, “Oh, Aleah, you just have to meet Diane, Jeremy’s last girlfriend. We’re all still very close and I thought you two might hit it off.”
Diane looked slightly embarrassed, and shook my hand with a smile that seemed to say, “I’m sorry, I know, but what could I do?” I introduced myself and we exchanged a few pleasantries before she greeted Jeremy with a huge hug. She immediately launched into a conversation with him about what was going on in his life, ignoring me completely. Jeremy answered a few questions, grabbed my hand, and steered me to our seats.
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At the table, things just got worse. Leona opened all the dishes, and every single thing had pork in it. The mac and cheese had bacon bits in, the mashed potatoes had lard in, and even the turkey was wrapped in bacon. After unveiling all the food, Jeremy’s mom looked at me, apologized for all the pork, and offered me a drink. “I don’t drink, but I’ll gladly take a glass of water,” I said with a smile. Slightly crestfallen, Leona got up to get me one.
During the meal, the entire family kept making off-handed, passive-aggressive, and slightly racist comments clearly directed toward me. Meanwhile, Diane was showered with compliments. You’d expect she was royalty with how the family sucked up to her. But I knew exactly how to handle the situation.
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Instead of letting my annoyance show, I once again employed my mom’s wisdom. I smiled at every so-called joke, and even threw a few of my own compliments at Diane. I told Leona how lovely the spread looked, and thanked her profusely when she went to refill my cup of water. I could see Jeremy’s mom seething at my pleasant demeanor.
The night ended and we said our goodbyes. I refrained from complaining to Jeremy about his family. I could handle it. But things didn’t get better from there. Family dinners were suddenly off-limits to anyone who wasn’t also a Fergus — although Diane was apparently an exception — so I would often spend Christmas on my own or with my sister. They never drove a wedge between myself and Jeremy, and imagine their shock when he eventually proposed.
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Now, Leona and the rest of the family never bothered to learn anything about my culture. They assumed the wedding would be a regular ceremony, but Jeremy and I had planned on blending traditions. So when all the women, Diane included, showed up wearing white, I was all smiles, complimenting their outfits all the way. This didn’t go down well.
Meanwhile, my outfits were made up of every color imaginable, and I outshone them in every photo. There’s even one picture of Leona with the biggest sour expression I had ever seen. It was a wonderful day.
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But the unspoken feud came to a head last Christmas when Leona suggested I host. Naturally, I accepted, even though I knew she only offered because she hoped I would be overwhelmed. Fortunately, she didn’t count on the fact that I often cooked, and had been since I was a young girl. So my spread was something to marvel at.
Mashed potatoes, mac and cheese, turkey, glazed ham, Brussels sprouts, green bean casserole, roasted carrots, and potatoes, freshly baked bread, corn bread, and an entire assortment of pies. Even I was impressed. But of course, with her plan in ruins, Leona did the next best thing. She started shouting at me.
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“You’ve got to be kidding me! How could you of all people have managed this?! I know you hired a catering company, Aleah! Just to make me look bad. Admit it!”
Surprised at her outright anger, I looked at her, then at Jeremy. Luckily he stepped in.
“Mom, Aleah slaved away for two days to make sure we had a great Christmas dinner. I don’t think you acting like this is very mature or fair. She has been nothing but a good host, and you accuse her of being petty, like a child who had hoped to one-up someone. I think you owe her an apology, or you should leave.”
There was a long pause. Everyone wondered what would happen next, plates in hand.
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Leona took a deep breath and looked at me. “You won,” she muttered and sat down dejectedly. Before Jeremy could say another word, I walked over to my mother-in-law, got on my knees before her, and took her hands in mine. “Leona, this isn’t a competition. I love your son deeply and I don’t want this cold war between us.”
She looked at me with new-found respect, and I could see the hatchet was buried. The war between us ended with a big hug and a great dinner, and although we still differ about things, we have grown quite fond of each other over the last few months.
This ’80s Teen Idol Left Hollywood, Adopted 4 Children & Is Now a Grandfather – His Photos at 54
He was a teen star with everything going for him—fame, fortune, and a top-rated TV show. But just as his career was soaring, he made a decision that stunned many. Stepping away from Hollywood, he chose a path that few could have predicted.
As a beloved child actor in “Growing Pains,” he became one of the most popular young actors of the 1980s. Teen magazines featured him on their covers, and he was the go-to heartthrob for many fans. Yet, behind the scenes, he grappled with a growing sense that Hollywood wasn’t where he truly belonged.
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By the early 1990s, at the peak of his fame, the star made a choice that would shock many in the industry. He turned away from acting and embraced a life of faith. This decision didn’t just alter his career; it transformed his entire worldview. How did his life unfold after he left Hollywood?
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From Childhood Aspirations to Accidental Stardom
He didn’t set out to become an actor. In fact, as a young boy, his sights were set on something completely different—he wanted to be a doctor. His dream was to become a surgeon, but his career path took an unexpected detour when his mother, encouraged by a friend, introduced him to acting.
That friend happened to be the mother of Adam Rich, a child actor famous for his role in “Eight is Enough.” She suggested that the boy’s mother take him to an agent and try his luck in commercials.
Reluctantly, his mother followed the advice, and before long, the nine-year-old was booking small roles. His first acting jobs included commercials, like the one for McDonald’s. Though he found himself working steadily, the young boy didn’t enjoy acting.
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“I was always annoyed having to brush my hair and tuck my shirt in to go drive an hour in traffic to audition,” he once reflected on those early years. Despite his lack of enthusiasm, his acting career gained momentum, eventually leading to his breakout role as Mike Seaver in “Growing Pains.”
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As his fame grew, so did his internal struggle. Hollywood had much to offer, but he began questioning if that was enough. What would eventually pull him in a completely new direction was something unexpected—his faith.
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From Atheism to Christianity
Growing up, his family wasn’t religious, and there were never conversations about God in his home. “When I was growing up, we didn’t go to church,” he once shared.
“If you had asked me, I would have said I would be in the category of an atheist at 16 years old, 17 years old,” he added.
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His atheism was shaped by those around him, particularly his teachers. “I think I caught my atheism—it was by contagion,” he said, referring to the influence of his science and history teachers, who dismissed religion as “just a fairy tale.”
At that point in his life, he was fully immersed in his Hollywood career and had little interest in exploring faith or spirituality. Yet, despite his disinterest, a chance encounter would soon change the course of his beliefs.
Kirk Cameron with co-star Dana Plato on November 5, 1985 | Source: Getty Images
It wasn’t a deep theological conversation that first brought him to church. Drawn to a girl he liked, he accepted her invitation to attend church with her family. “I’ll be honest. It wasn’t because I was interested in God. I was interested in the girl,” he admitted.
Little did he know, this casual decision would spark a profound transformation in his life. As his faith deepened, it began to have a noticeable impact on his life and career, raising concerns among his colleagues in Hollywood.
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Hollywood’s Reaction to His Faith
By the time he was 17, his commitment to his newfound beliefs had started to influence the way he approached his role in “Growing Pains.” This sudden shift did not go unnoticed by the show’s producers and cast members, who grew increasingly worried about how it might affect the series.
As one of the show’s key characters, his actions held significant weight. The show’s success—and everyone’s jobs—depended, in part, on him. The producers worried whether his deepening religious beliefs would take him in a direction that could jeopardize the show’s longevity.
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“Is he getting into something that’s really gonna take him into Looney Town? And if it is, we need to stop that,” he recalled their concerns. He, however, was focused on trying to live out his faith, though he admits that at times, he didn’t handle it as gracefully as he could have.
“I was trying to take the moral high road. I wanted to please God genuinely, and I think sometimes that got misunderstood,” he explained. What was clear, though, was that his priorities were shifting—and Hollywood wasn’t sure how to respond.
The actor on set with co-actor Jeremy Miller in the movie “Growing pains” on February 18, 1986 | Source: Getty Images
The Dark Side of Hollywood
As his faith grew stronger, he also became more aware of the troubling behaviors around him in Hollywood. Over time, he reportedly witnessed disturbing incidents that further distanced him from the industry.
“The evil, the darkness, the twisted sickness of Hollywood has been going on for a long time,” he said, reflecting on his years as a child actor. The former teen heartthrob, who began acting at nine, recalled being suspicious of the unsettling things happening behind the scenes during his time on “Growing Pains.”
One of the most shocking revelations involved his personal dialogue coach from the show, Brian Peck, who was later convicted of sexual abuse crimes. Peck’s name was highlighted in a recent documentary that uncovered the darker side of the entertainment industry.
The actor described how these revelations confirmed what he had suspected all along—that Hollywood was not the wholesome place it often appeared to be. For him, this environment, driven by power, pride, and ego, only reinforced his desire to move away from the spotlight.
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He became even more committed to his faith and the values it provided, believing that the pursuit of fame and fortune often led people down dangerous paths. “When that becomes your God, rather than the God who laid down His life on a cross 2,000 years ago, you’re in for a world of hurt,” he stated.
His growing disillusionment with Hollywood solidified his decision to step back from acting. However, his life was about to take another meaningful turn that would see him focus more on family and faith.
Life After Hollywood
Kirk Cameron’s departure from Hollywood marked the beginning of a new chapter in his life. At just 20, he married his “Growing Pains” co-star, actress, Chelsea Noble, and the two started building a life together far from the entertainment industry. Together, they welcomed six children into their family, four of whom they adopted.
Kirk Cameron and Chelsea Noble in the movie “Growing pains,” dated October 18, 1989 | Source: Getty Images
Adoption was a cause close to both Cameron and Noble’s hearts, as Noble herself was adopted. They always ensured their children knew their origins and helped them reconnect with their biological families when the time came.
For Cameron, this focus on family became central to his life, as did his commitment to maintaining a strong moral foundation. One of the most striking examples of his dedication to family values came during the filming of his 2008 movie “Fireproof.”
In the film, Cameron plays a firefighter trying to save his marriage. However, when it came time to shoot a kissing scene with the actress playing his wife, Cameron refused to kiss anyone but his real-life spouse.
Kirk Cameron and Chelsea Noble at Westbury Hotel in New York City on June 28, 1996 | Source: Getty Images
To honor his marriage vows, the filmmakers worked around this by dressing Noble as the movie’s female lead and filming the scene in silhouette. Cameron later explained, “I have a commitment not to kiss any other woman,” showing how seriously he took his beliefs.
With Hollywood in the rearview mirror, Cameron’s life became less about fame and more about staying true to the values he cherished. But his journey wasn’t over—he soon made another major decision that would further change the course of his life.
Leaving California Behind
In recent years, Cameron made another bold life decision—leaving the place where he had spent most of his life building his career. In early 2021, Cameron took to social media to share his intention to leave California.
“I asked on social media what states people recommend for a Californian looking to relocate, and the top responses were Tennessee, Florida, and Texas,” he shared in a Facebook post. Ultimately, it was Tennessee that won his heart.
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In subsequent interviews, he revealed his reasons for the move. Cameron felt that California had become unsafe and longed for a place that embraced more of the “wholesome values” he held dear.
He was drawn to its lifestyle, but there was another significant reason for the move—three of his children now lived there. It offered the opportunity to be closer to family while also enjoying the slower pace and community that Tennessee provided.
Cameron also spoke of the “healthy freedom mindset” he found in Tennessee, a stark contrast to what he described as California’s growing restrictions. He also called Tennessee a “hub for Christian projects.”
In Tennessee, he discovered a community of like-minded individuals, including other creatives who had left Hollywood behind. The state, with its growing entertainment industry, has even drawn a number of California “refugees,” offering a fresh start for those seeking a more grounded lifestyle.
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With his move to Tennessee, Cameron found not only a new home but a place that aligned more closely with the values he had embraced. Yet, despite leaving Hollywood and California, his passion for family, faith, and storytelling has not wavered.
Becoming a Grandfather and New Projects
Cameron’s life has been full of milestones, but one of his most cherished moments came in July 2024, when he and Noble became grandparents. Cameron proudly shared the news on social media, posting a heartfelt message about the arrival of their granddaughter, Maya Jeanne Noble Bower.
“Our hearts are filled to overflowing,” he wrote. “Our beautiful baby girl just had a beautiful baby girl, and we can hardly wait to spend every minute with her and shower her with love.”
For Cameron, this new chapter as a grandparent brings even more joy and meaning to his family-centered life.
In addition to celebrating his growing family, Cameron continued his passion for projects that align with his faith and values. In 2022, Cameron brought a deeply personal story to life with the release of his film “Lifemark,” a heartfelt exploration of the beauty of adoption and the priceless value of life.
For Cameron, the project was more than just a film—it was a reflection of his own life. As a proud father of four adopted children and a husband to someone with her own adoption story, the movie carried a profound significance for him.
Sharing his excitement, Cameron emphasized how the narrative resonated with his family’s journey and the importance of uplifting stories like these. The passion for adoption runs deep in the Cameron family, extending even to the next generation.
His son Luke, inspired by their personal experiences, founded the “Together as One Podcast.” This powerful platform sheds light on the incredible journeys of adoption, celebrating the families who transform lives through their commitment to love and care.
The podcast serves as a beacon of hope and inspiration. Through compelling stories and heartfelt conversations, it highlights the challenges and triumphs of adoptive families, offering valuable resources and support.
Their mission is to also ease the financial strain of adoption by providing grants, making the dream of family accessible to more people.
Although Cameron stepped away from the Hollywood mainstream long ago, he remains active in creating faith-based films and media that reflect his beliefs.
A photo of Kirk Cameron taken from a video posted on November 26, 2024 | Source: Instagram/kirkcameronofficial /iheartchm
His focus on positive, uplifting stories that celebrate family and faith has become the hallmark of his post-Hollywood career.
A photo of Kirk Cameron taken from a video posted on November 26, 2024 | Source: Instagram/kirkcameronofficial /iheartchm
Cameron doesn’t just tell inspiring stories; he lives them. In November 2024, he put his beliefs into action by lending a helping hand to hurricane relief efforts in Black Mountain, North Carolina. Sharing his experience on Instagram, Cameron posted photos of those affected alongside a heartfelt caption.
He recounted the efforts of the 700-strong Red Truck Men rescue squad, who brought chainsaws, axes, backhoes, and hot meals to the disaster zone. Fueled by their faith and love for humanity, these volunteers worked tirelessly to rescue, restore, and rebuild in the aftermath of the storm.
“The power of a hurricane to destroy left me in awe,” Cameron wrote, “but what left me in greater awe was the even more powerful force of a group of 700 volunteer men.”
With his words, Cameron also extended prayers to those affected by the tragedy, reminding his followers of the resilience and hope that shines brightest in the darkest times.
With a growing family and a steady stream of projects that align with his values, Cameron’s life today is a far cry from his teenage days as a heartthrob on “Growing Pains.” But for Kirk Cameron, the path he has chosen has brought him a deep sense of fulfillment and purpose.
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