What makes a bride turn into a bridezilla? Is it the nervousness and anxious thoughts that make brides lose their cool, or do they get angry because of other things?
Every woman wants her wedding day to be perfect, but when that stress gets intense, the brides either flip out or, let’s be real, their true colors start to show. Here are stories from five folks on Reddit who’ve witnessed some of the most jaw-dropping bridezilla moments.
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1. My Best Friend’s Wedding
u/ajlawford: I had a silent bridezilla. She was my best friend of 15 years and didn’t ask for much during the wedding planning as there were only two months between the engagement and the wedding day.
There was no bachelorette party, dress shopping, gift exchanges, or in-person meetups. We lived two hours away, but she didn’t want my input.
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She wanted me to buy a dress, look pretty, and attend her wedding. I thought, “OK, whatever you want. You’re my best friend, and I’m excited you are getting married.”
She didn’t even let me help with her hair and makeup on the wedding day. Instead, she just asked me to focus on my hair and makeup. She didn’t trust me to do it well enough because I had short hair. Okay, fine. It’s your day, whatever.
Everything went well until the bride got her sister to call me. During the two-hour-long call, the bride’s sister criticized my every move throughout the wedding, saying that I should never have accepted to be a bridesmaid if I didn’t want to participate.
She also reviewed my Facebook profile to note what I had spent my money on (for example, I posted about joining a bowling league for fun). She said I should have spent that money on the wedding.
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The wedding was two days after Christmas, and her family didn’t even celebrate Christmas that year because of the wedding.
Meanwhile, I was criticized for not spending more time with her, even though I traveled three hours by train the day after Christmas to hang with her the night before her wedding.
Apparently, I should have stayed the night of the wedding to hang with the other two bridesmaids, but I opted to drive home with my boyfriend as I needed to work.
Initially, the bride said she would pay for my makeup on the wedding day, but she changed her mind two weeks before the event.
She asked me to drive for two hours and buy an expensive makeup brand. Despite knowing I was broke after Christmas shopping, I accepted her wish and purchased the makeup. However, she still thought I had an attitude about this.
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I was also criticized for not giving a gift, although the bride said, “Being a bridesmaid was gift enough.”
After these events, the bride stopped talking to me and blocked me on Facebook. After months of being mistreated, I finally cut my best friend and her sister out of my life.
The last time I saw either of them was the wedding day, which was five years ago. I never even got to see the wedding photos. It’s so sad to see long-term friendships ending over nothing.
She should have told me about her expectations instead of expecting me to guess them and then judge me for not meeting her demands. She also should have talked to me directly instead of involving her sister.
2. She Was Mean as Hell
u/sojadedblond: A friend took out a $7500 loan for her wedding. Okay, that was not too bad. It was workable and sounded pretty reasonable. Then, she asked her fiancé to take out a $25,000 loan. (She forced him by saying she’d leave him if he didn’t.)
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He had much better credit and got the loan. Then, my friend begged his parents to pay for their honeymoon while they had no idea she had asked their son to take out a loan.
They thought her parents were paying for a modest outside wedding at a local garden, and she repeatedly lied to them until a few weeks before the wedding. She kept threatening to leave her fiancé if he didn’t do things as she wanted them done.
Anyway, his parents were so happy to pay for a cruise (a nice Alaskan cruise) for their honeymoon, but that wasn’t enough for her.
She then lied to her parents, saying that his parents were only giving them $250 for the honeymoon. Her parents were shocked as they were paying for the wedding and reception and thought the groom’s family would at least pay for some of the honeymoon.
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They encouraged her to get a better job (she worked 20 hours a week as a receptionist at a nail salon) or to at least go full-time at her current job, but she flat-out refused, saying she had so much to do in planning for the wedding/honeymoon, etc. She was an absolute nightmare.
She and I hadn’t talked since high school (we weren’t very close, more like acquaintances), and she had gotten my number from a mutual friend to call and ask if I’d sing at her wedding.
During that phone call, she told me about everything that happened. She added that she wanted her fiancé to take off two and a half weeks instead of the nine days he’d already taken.
When she asked me what she should do about the honeymoon, I told her she was being a little unreasonable and very demanding with people.
I said it gently and kindly. I wasn’t just like, “Wow, you’re being the worst person ever right now, and your fiancé is really stupid to marry you for a lifetime.”
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I said, “It seems like you’re putting a lot of pressure on everyone around you to do things your way and only your way. This is Evan’s wedding, too. Maybe ask him what he’d like. Planning this together instead of you alone can be much more fun. You guys will be together for a lifetime, so putting this much stress on everyone, yourself included, just makes things so much harder than they have to be.”
She was quiet for a few seconds, then said, “Uh, okay, I deserve this wedding, and Evan will give me what I want. I don’t want you to sing at the wedding. You’re so mean for telling me I don’t deserve a beautiful wedding!”
When I tried to explain that I thought she could have a gorgeous wedding, just with less stress and anxiety, she said, “You’re just like everyone else. You don’t want me to be happy! My dad keeps telling me to get a better job, and Evan fought to get the loan, and you saying this makes me want to give up!”
After that, she burst into hysterical tears and hung up. It was bizarre. She was like that in high school: very dramatic, mean, and selfish. However, I don’t remember her being that crazy and delusional. They got divorced 14 months after the wedding.
3. The Bridezilla Tried to Scam the Bridesmaids
u/ShamedShamingShamer: Several years ago, a friend asked me to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. There were six bridesmaids and one maid of honor (MOH).
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The bride had picked out her dress already, one for the MOH and one each for the bridesmaids. The dresses were lovely but a bit expensive at $400 each.
Two bridesmaids, including me, were still in college, and the rest had graduated. Since I was still studying, my budget was super tight.
Once the bride picked the dresses for us, she asked the MOH to coordinate with us for the fittings. The MOH told us she would pay for our dresses using her credit card because she wanted Air Miles. She asked us to pay her directly and said we could repay her in installments if needed (I definitely needed to). We all agreed.
All the bridesmaids picked their dresses together, but I couldn’t join them because of my exams. As a result, I decided to go myself the following week.
The MOH said she would pay for mine on the group trip but to call her if there were any issues with the dress. She said she would handle it.
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When I tried the dress at the shop, it looked perfect, and I was happy. The shop owner went to attend to another client while I was changing back into my clothes, but she confirmed that we were all set.
As I was walking out of the door, a shop employee yelled, “Hey! That will be $200!” I was stunned and totally mortified. I apologized and explained how I thought the MOH had paid for it the weekend before.
The shop owner immediately rushed towards us, diffusing the situation by confirming that the MOH had already paid for the dress. When I turned to leave the store, I realized the shop owner had said $200 and not $400.
Long story short, the dress was only for $200. When I confronted the MOH about it, she spilled the beans.
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Apparently, the bride and MOH plotted together to charge us double to help pay for the bride’s dress. I let the rest of the bridesmaids know, and four of us dropped out of the wedding immediately.
4. The Last-Minute Floral Fiasco
u/Haceldama: I am a florist, and we once had a bridezilla visit our shop. The bride came with her mother at 9 a.m.
They wanted to order a bridal bouquet, a mother-of-the-bride Cattleya orchid corsage, a boutonniere for the groom, and six smaller ones for the groomsmen.
The wedding was scheduled for noon, and they gave us only three hours to fulfill their order. They wanted everything ready by the time they were done with their makeup appointment at the beauty parlor a few doors down.
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The bride was flipping through the FTD sample book and pointing out the style and flowers she wanted. She wanted to order garden roses with long sweeping trails of stephanotis and variegated ivy, all three of which would require at least a week’s advanced order with our suppliers.
The bride was shocked when we told her we didn’t always carry extremely expensive and highly perishable flowers. My boss told them that since they didn’t place an order beforehand, they would be limited to what we had in stock and simple styles that could be assembled quickly.
The bride and her mom kept pointing at the book and arguing that we should have those specific flowers in stock. My boss eventually took the book off the desk and tossed it behind the counter.
The bride vacillated between tears and petulant whining that we would ruin her big day. My boss, who disliked brides in general, told her she had ruined her day by not ordering flowers before her wedding day.
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The mom tried chewing out my boss for lacking customer service skills. My boss told her she was welcome to go down the street to another florist and ask their flower department to make their order with whatever they had in stock.
The mom said she’d do just that and reassured the bride that she’d have her flowers done by the time her appointment was over. Both women stormed out.
I figured that was that, but my boss told me and the other girl to start on six simple dendrobium orchid bouts. Meanwhile, she threw together a ribbon-wrapped bridal bouquet with white roses nearly past their prime.
Twenty minutes later, the bride’s mother slunk back in and meekly asked if we could still assemble what they needed. We did. We also charged her a huge rush fee.
5. The Bridezilla Meets Karma
u/[deleted]: My friend called me one day and asked me to be her maid of honor. At first, I was thrilled. But then things took a bizarre turn.
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She started oddly, asking me to dye my hair blonde, then demanded $1000 for her bachelorette. I was shocked but things worsened when she insisted I lose 10 pounds. I was taken aback by her demand.
Fuming, I thought about teaching her a lesson. But before I could do anything, karma intervened.
A week after our heated conversation, just a day before her wedding, she called me in a panic. “WHAT DID YOU DO??? I just got a call from my bank!” she said.
It turned out that her bank had frozen her account due to suspicious activity. In her pre-wedding frenzy, she had made so many extravagant purchases that the bank suspected fraud.
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One of my exes had his account frozen once and she needed advice as to what I’d done to help my ex-boyfriend. I worked as a banker back then. I refused to help her and hung up.
Have you ever seen a bride throw tantrums and get too demanding with her family and friends? Share your experience with us in the comments section.
I Found an Elderly Woman on the Roadside on a Snowy Christmas Eve & Took Her Home — Days Later, a Luxury Decorated SUV Pulled up to My Door
Despite being a struggling single mom, I had to help the elderly woman I found out in the cold on Christmas Eve. I never imagined that my simple act of kindness would lead to a mysterious luxury SUV at my door — or heal my broken heart.
I pulled my threadbare coat tighter around me as I trudged home through the thickest snow I’d seen in years. I was bone-tired from scrubbing floors in the Grayson mansion, but I was almost home.
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But I couldn’t complain. My job was hard, but the Graysons were kind enough for rich folk. Besides, I had five hungry mouths waiting for me at home.
The streetlights cast long shadows across the pristine snow, and I couldn’t help but think of my late husband, Jason. He would’ve loved this kind of night and probably would’ve dragged the kids out for an impromptu snowball fight.
God, I missed him. Three years felt like forever and yesterday all at once.
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I almost didn’t see the woman huddled on a bench, shivering in the darkness.
My first instinct was to hurry past. We barely had enough for ourselves, and the roof had started leaking again last week. But something made me stop.
“Ma’am?” I called out, taking a tentative step closer. “Are you alright?”
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She looked up, and my heart clenched. Her face was weathered but elegant, with clear blue eyes that reminded me of my grandmother’s. She tried to smile, but her lips trembled from the cold.
“Oh, I’m fine, dear,” she said, her voice cultured but weak. “Just resting a moment.”
I glanced at my watch. It was 8 p.m. on Christmas Eve. No one “rests” on a bench in this weather at this hour unless something’s wrong.
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“Do you have somewhere to go?” I asked, already knowing the answer.
She hesitated, pride warring with desperation in her expression. “I… I’ll manage.”
The Jason-voice in my head spoke up: No one should be alone on Christmas Eve, Katie-girl.
I sighed, knowing I was probably crazy but unable to walk away.
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“Look, I don’t have much, but I’ve got a warm house and some soup on the stove. Why don’t you come home with me?”
“Oh, I couldn’t possibly—”
“I insist,” I said, offering my hand. “I’m Kate, by the way.”
“Margaret,” she replied softly, taking my hand after a long moment. “You’re very kind.”
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The walk home was slow, but Margaret grew steadier with each step. As we approached my little house, I saw the lights on and the familiar sight of Emma watching for me at the window.
“Mom!” Tommy, my youngest, flung open the door before we reached it. His eyes widened at the sight of Margaret. “Who’s that?”
“This is Margaret,” I said, helping her up the creaky steps. “She’s going to stay with us tonight.”
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My other kids, Sarah, Michael, Emma, and Lisa, appeared in the doorway. They stared at Margaret with undisguised curiosity.
“Kids, help Margaret get settled while I warm up some soup,” I called out, heading to the kitchen.
To my surprise, they sprang into action. Sarah grabbed our best blanket (which wasn’t saying much), while Michael pulled out a chair.
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Emma and Lisa started showing Margaret our tiny Christmas tree, decorated with paper ornaments they’d made at school.
“Look at the angel!” Lisa exclaimed. “I made it myself!”
“It’s beautiful,” Margaret said, her voice warming. “Did you make all these decorations?”
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As the kids chattered away, I ladled out soup into our mismatched bowls. The house was shabby, but at least it was warm. Well, mostly warm. I’d stuffed old towels under the doors to block the drafts.
Later, after the kids were in bed, Margaret and I sat at the kitchen table with cups of tea.
“Thank you,” she whispered. “I… I never expected…”
“No one should be alone on Christmas,” I said simply.
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The next morning, I caught my supervisor, Denise, in the kitchen during our break. She was arranging flowers in a crystal vase, her gray hair neatly pinned back as always.
“Denise, can I talk to you about something?” I fidgeted with my apron strings.
She turned, warm brown eyes crinkling at the corners. “Of course, honey. What’s troubling you?”
“I… well, I took someone in last night. An elderly woman who was out in the cold.”
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Denise set down her flowers. “On Christmas Eve? Oh, Kate…”
“I know it sounds crazy—”
“Not crazy. Kind.” She squeezed my arm. “Lord knows we need more of that in this world. How are the kids taking it?”
“They’ve practically adopted her already. But…” I hesitated. “With money being so tight…”
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“Don’t you worry about that.” Denise patted my hand. “I’ve got some leftover ham from our Christmas dinner. I’ll pop home during my break to fetch it so you take it home to those babies.”
“Oh, no, I couldn’t—”
“You absolutely could, and will.” She fixed me with her no-nonsense stare. “That’s what community is for.”
“Excuse me, you did what, Kate?” Janine’s sharp voice cut in.
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She leaned against the doorframe, arms crossed. “Honey, you can barely feed your soccer team of kids as it is. What were you thinking?”
Her words stung because they echoed my doubts.
“Shame on you, Janine!” Denise cut in. “All acts of kindness make the world a better place and…” Denise winked at me. “Life has a way of repaying people who go out of their way to help others.”
Janine rolled her eyes, and I almost did the same. I never imagined then that my simple act of kindness would change my world.
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Three days later, a sleek SUV festooned with Christmas decorations pulled up outside my house just as I was leaving for work. I was still staring at it in shock and confusion when a tall man in an expensive suit jumped out, his face tight with emotion.
“Are you Kate?” he demanded.
I nodded, pushing down my sudden anxiety as a fierce frown appeared on his face.
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“I’m Robert. Margaret is my mother.” His voice softened. “I’ve been searching for her since Christmas Eve.”
I stood frozen on my front steps as he ran a hand through his dark hair, clearly agitated. “Please, I need to know if she’s alright.”
“She’s fine,” I assured him. “She’s inside with my youngest, probably doing puzzles. They’ve become quite the team.”
Relief flooded his face, followed quickly by anguish.
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“I should never have left her with Claire. God, what was I thinking?” He paced in the snow. “I was overseas for business and my sister Claire was supposed to care for Mom. But when I got back…”
His voice cracked. “I found Claire throwing a party in Mom’s house. The place was trashed, and when I asked where Mom was, Claire just shrugged and said she’d ‘moved out.’ Moved out of her own damn house! Yeah right. My leech of a sister clearly kicked her out.”
“That’s terrible,” I whispered.
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“I’ve been searching everywhere. I finally went to ask Mr. Grayson for help — he was a friend of my father’s. A member of his staff overheard us and mentioned you.” He looked at me intently. “You saved her life, you know.”
I shook my head. “Anyone would have—”
“But they didn’t. You did.” He pulled out a set of keys and gestured to the decorated car. “This SUV… it’s yours now.”
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“What? No, I couldn’t possibly—”
“Please.” He stepped closer, and I noticed his eyes were a warm hazel. “When everyone else walked past, you stopped. Let me repay you.”
He gently took my hands and tucked the keys into my palm. I thought of Denise’s words about kindness being repaid, and wrapped my fingers around the keys, accepting the gift despite my doubts.
I thought that would be the last I saw of Robert and Margaret, but I was wrong.
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Over the next few weeks, Robert became a fixture in our lives. He’d stop by with workers to fix various parts of the house, always staying to chat.
I tried to stop him, but he insisted on helping. I learned to accept it as I got to know him better and realized how much he valued family. He didn’t see us as a charity case like I first thought; he was genuinely grateful to us.
“Mom!” Sarah called one evening. “Mr. Robert brought pizza!”
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“And books!” Lisa added excitedly.
I found him in our newly repaired kitchen, looking slightly sheepish. “I hope you don’t mind. The kids mentioned they were studying ancient Egypt…”
“You didn’t have to—”
“I wanted to.” His smile was gentle. “Besides, Tommy promised to teach me his secret handshake.”
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As winter melted into spring, I found myself watching the clock on days I knew he’d visit. We’d sit on the porch after the kids were in bed, talking about everything — his work, my dreams for the kids, shared memories of loss and hope.
“Jason would have loved this,” I said one evening, gesturing at our transformed home. “He always had such plans…”
Robert was quiet for a moment. “Tell me about him?”
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So I did, surprised to find I could talk about Jason without that sharp pain in my chest. Robert listened in a way that made me feel heard.
Weeks became months. Margaret also visited regularly and the kids thrived under the attention of their new grandmother figure and Robert’s steady presence.
“He likes you, you know,” Sarah said one day, wise beyond her thirteen years.
“Sarah—”
“Mom, it’s okay to be happy again. Dad would want that.”
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A year later, Robert and I were married. I stood in the living room watching Robert help Tommy hang ornaments on our new Christmas tree while Margaret and the girls baked cookies, and marveled at how life surprises you.
“Perfect spot, buddy,” he said, then turned to me. “What do you think, Kate?”
“It’s beautiful,” I replied, meaning so much more than just the tree.
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The house is warm and solid now, like the love that fills it. Jason will always be in my heart, but it’s grown bigger, making room for this unexpected family brought together by a single act of kindness on a snowy Christmas Eve.
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