Katharine Juliet Ross went from being an unknown actress to a famous star overnight. She is best known for playing Elaine in *The Graduate* alongside Dustin Hoffman. Over the years, many people called her a Hollywood bombshell.
Ross has had a long and successful career in acting. However, her personal life has been quite different. She has been married five times. Luckily, her fifth marriage to the beloved actor Sam Elliott has turned out to be a happy one.
It’s been a while since Katharine Ross appeared on screen, but her life is about more than just acting. Even at 83, she is still a true beauty. Here’s everything you need to know about Katharine Ross and what she looks like today.
Katharine Ross took part in her school’s production of *The King and I* and decided she wanted to pursue acting seriously. However, after just one year, she dropped out of school. Instead, she applied to The Actors Workshop in San Francisco and moved into a small apartment above a grocery store.
### Katharine Ross – Early Life & Career
For three years, Ross worked hard to improve her acting skills. She eventually landed some small roles in television shows. Not only was she talented, but she also knew how to audition well.
“I was queen of the screen tests,” Ross told *Life Magazine* in 1968. “I made daily trips from San Francisco to Los Angeles and back in time for the Workshop’s curtain call. I played many different types of hit-and-run drivers: an innocent driver, a tough driver, and a wealthy, snobby teenage driver. On *Gunsmoke*, I played a sympathetic character with a clubfoot.”
While in college, Ross met her first husband, Joel Fabiani, and they married in 1960. He was the first of her five husbands, but more on that later.
The years after her marriage to Fabiani were important for Ross. She became known for her many roles in television Westerns, which suited her beauty perfectly.
However, even though it might sound like a dream to be cast in many shows, it wasn’t always easy for Katharine Ross. Like many young stars in the business, she faced exploitation and challenges. Simply put, it wasn’t all fun and games for young TV actors in the 1960s.
Katharine Ross shared a memory about auditioning for a film directed by Samuel Goldwyn Jr. called *The Young Lovers*. She was supposed to screen test with Peter Fonda, but he wasn’t available, so they brought in Chad Everett instead. He didn’t know the role was already filled, and he was giving it his all. Katharine didn’t have the heart to tell him. After several sessions with a hairdresser to get her look right, they ended up cutting all her hair off, and in the end, they cast someone else.
### Katharine Ross – Cast as Elaine in *The Graduate*
Ross reflected on the time, saying it was great because the old studio system was ending, and new styles of filmmaking were starting. Films with small budgets, like the one she auditioned for, were becoming popular. This shift eventually led to the indie film movement.
Katharine made her TV debut in an episode of *Sam Benedict* in 1962. Her first movie role was in *Shenandoah*, a Civil War film starring James Stewart, in 1965. The following year, she signed a deal with Universal Studios. While working on her first starring role in the film *Games*, director Mike Nichols noticed her talent.
He cast her in her most famous role: Elaine in *The Graduate*, alongside Dustin Hoffman.
“Dustin Hoffman was a New York stage actor. He looked like he had just rolled out from under a rock; he was so pale. He just wanted to get back to his off-Broadway play. Even though we eventually became friends, my first thought was, ‘Oh my God — this guy is dressed in black and looks like a ghost,’” Ross remembered in an interview with the *Houston Chronicle*.
She also mentioned that Gene Hackman, who was Dustin’s roommate at the time, was supposed to play her father but dropped out for some reason.
*The Graduate* became a classic, and Katharine became a star overnight. She was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress and received a Golden Globe nomination for New Star of the Year.
In 2017, Katharine Ross and Sam Elliott starred together in a movie called *The Hero*. In this film, Elliott played an aging Western film star, and Ross played his ex-wife. While the movie doesn’t reflect their real lives, it allows the couple to try new things together.
“I think we just like making movies, and having that creative experience together is the best,” Elliott told the *Los Angeles Times* in 2016.
“It’s just fun. It’s a whole different kind of energy to go home with someone you’re working with rather than go home to someone who isn’t working. It’s a totally positive experience,” he added.
Ross and Elliott split their time between their homes in California and Oregon. Earlier this year, they attended the Screen Actors Guild Awards together. Katharine has not acted in any films or television shows for several years.
However, she has become a successful author and has published several children’s novels.
My Husband’s Best Friend Came to Our Family Dinner – After He Left, Our 7-Year-Old Daughter Stopped Talking for Months
When my husband’s best friend, Brian, came over for a casual family dinner, I never imagined it would change our lives forever. But after that night, our daughter stopped speaking, and as the silence stretched on, we uncovered a devastating betrayal that shattered her innocence.
I still don’t know how to make sense of everything that happened. Maybe if I write it down, it’ll help. Maybe someone will understand or tell me I’m not crazy for feeling like this.
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It started with a family dinner. Tom’s best friend Brian was coming over, as he had so many times before. Brian and Tom had been inseparable since middle school, practically brothers.
Brian was around for every big and small moment in our lives. If something needed fixing, he was there with his toolbox. If we had a BBQ, he was there with a cooler and a smile. He was more than a friend; he was family.
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Emily, our daughter, adored him. She’d race to the door every time he came over, practically bouncing with excitement. “Brian! Brian!” she’d shout, wrapping her little arms around his legs, her eyes wide and bright. He’d always laugh and scoop her up.
“Hey, kiddo,” he’d say, grinning, giving her a playful noogie. “How’s my favorite girl?”
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That night felt no different—just pizza, laughter, and catching up. Tom was running late from work, so I called Brian to pick up the food. He came in with a big grin, balancing two pizza boxes in one hand and holding a small gift bag with the other.
“Look what Uncle Brian brought,” he said, handing the bag to Emily. Inside was a small stuffed puppy. Emily’s eyes lit up.
“Thank you!” she squealed, hugging the toy. “I love him!”
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Brian chuckled, ruffling her hair. “I thought you might, kiddo.”
We settled in for dinner, chatting about little things. Brian cracked his usual jokes, making us all laugh. Emily was glued to his side, asking him about everything under the sun.
“Why do dogs have tails?”
“To wag when they’re happy,” he answered with a smile.
“Why don’t cats have big tails like dogs?”
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“Oh, that’s ’cause cats are sneaky. They don’t need ‘em as much,” he replied, making Emily giggle.
As we were finishing up, I realized we were out of drinks. Tom still hadn’t arrived, so I turned to Brian.
“Do you mind staying with Emily for a few minutes while I run to the store?”
Brian shrugged, waving a hand. “Of course not. Go on, we’ll be just fine.”
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“Thanks. I’ll be back in ten minutes,” I said, grabbing my keys. I knew Emily was in good hands. Brian was practically family, after all.
When I got back, I saw Brian by the door, looking… different. He wasn’t his usual self—he seemed tense, almost… nervous. He barely looked at me as he grabbed his coat.
“Everything alright?” I asked, frowning.
“Yeah, yeah,” he said quickly, not meeting my eyes. “I just—uh, something came up. Gotta run. Tell Tom I’ll catch him later.”
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Then he was out the door, barely waiting for me to say goodbye. I felt a strange chill but brushed it off. It was Brian. He’d never given me a reason to doubt him before.
After that night, everything changed. Emily, my bubbly, talkative daughter, went silent.
At first, I didn’t think too much of it. Kids have off days. Maybe she was tired or upset that Brian left so suddenly. But by the next day, she still wasn’t talking.
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She went through breakfast without a word, not even looking up when I put her favorite waffles on the table. When I tried to draw her out with a story or a question, she just shrugged or looked down, her fingers tracing little circles on her plate.
“Emily, honey,” I asked gently, “are you mad about something? Did something happen with Brian?”
She just looked at me, her big, sad eyes filling with tears, then shook her head and went to her room.
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Tom tried talking to her, too. “Em, sweetie, you know you can tell Daddy anything, right?” he coaxed, crouching down to her eye level.
Emily just nodded, her lips pressed tightly together. She clutched the little stuffed puppy Brian had given her like it was the only thing holding her together. I tried to brush it off as a phase, or maybe a delayed reaction to a bad dream. But a mother knows when something’s really wrong.
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By the third day, I knew it wasn’t just a phase. My heart ached as I watched my little girl, once so full of life, withdraw into herself. She wouldn’t go to the park. She didn’t want to color or play. When she spoke, it was short, single words—”yes,” “no,” “fine”—like she was afraid to say anything more.
Tom and I began to worry something terrible had happened. We took her to the pediatrician, who ran every test, checked her hearing, even her vision.
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Everything was normal. Then we went to a child therapist, but after several sessions, the therapist pulled us aside and told us they couldn’t figure out why Emily had retreated into silence.
Weeks turned into months, and Emily still hadn’t returned to her old self. She went through the motions but never spoke more than she had to. Tom and I tried every gentle way we knew to get her to open up, but it was like she’d locked herself in a place we couldn’t reach. Our lives felt wrapped in a strange, unspoken grief.
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And then, one morning, after five long months, Emily finally broke her silence. I was buckling her into her car seat, about to take her to school, when she looked up at me, her eyes wide and scared.
“Will you leave me there forever?” she whispered, barely above a breath.
Her words hit me like a punch to the chest. “What? Emily, why would you say that?” I asked, my voice breaking.
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Her lower lip quivered. “Brian said… he said I’m not really yours. He said you’re going to leave me like my real parents did.”
My heart shattered. I could feel the blood drain from my face as I struggled to hold back tears. Tom and I had always planned to tell Emily she was adopted, but when she was old enough to understand it in a safe, loving way.
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“Emily, listen to me,” I said, trying to steady my voice. “You are ours. We love you more than anything. Brian was wrong to say those things. We would never leave you. Ever.”
She looked at me, her eyes searching mine for something to hold on to, then nodded slowly. Her shoulders relaxed a little, but I could still see the doubt lingering in her face. That night, when Tom came home, I told him everything. He was furious, hurt beyond words, but we were both more focused on Emily’s recovery.
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After that, Emily began talking again, slowly at first, but I could see she was still scared. I tried reaching out to Brian. He didn’t answer. Every call, every text went unanswered. Months went by, and it felt like Brian had vanished from our lives without a trace. Tom wanted to confront him in person, but we didn’t even know where he was anymore.
Then, one evening, out of the blue, I got a message from him. “Can we meet? I need to explain.”
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Against Tom’s better judgment, I agreed to meet him. I needed answers. When I saw Brian, he looked like he’d been through hell—tired, thinner, his face hollowed out by something I didn’t recognize.
“I’m sorry,” he said as soon as we sat down, his voice barely more than a whisper. “I never meant to hurt her… or you.”
“Then why, Brian?” I asked, my voice edged with the months of anger and confusion. “Why would you tell her that?”
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He took a shaky breath. “I found out I was adopted that day,” he said, looking down. “Right before I came over. My parents never told me. My whole life, I thought they were my real parents. And then, just like that, I find out they’re not. It broke me.”
I stared at him, speechless. “So you decided to hurt Emily? To throw that on a child?”
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His face crumpled. “I wasn’t thinking straight. She was just so innocent, so trusting. I don’t know why I said it. I was… I was lost in my own pain, and I thought maybe… I don’t know, maybe she should know the truth before it’s too late.”
I shook my head, hardly able to look at him. “Brian, she’s seven. She’s just a child. That was our truth to tell her when the time was right, not yours.”
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“I know. I’ve been punishing myself for it every day since. I don’t expect you to forgive me, but I just… I needed you to know. I’m sorry.”
I left the meeting feeling hollow, burdened with a sadness I couldn’t shake. Brian wasn’t evil. He was broken, and his pain had shattered the innocent trust my daughter had in the world. But it didn’t change the fact that we had to pick up the pieces.
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Since that day, he hasn’t reached out again. Emily is doing better, but there’s still a part of her that hesitates, that questions.
If you liked this story, consider checking out this one: Life sure has a way of surprising you when you least expect it. Just when you think everything’s going according to plan, something or someone comes along and flips your whole world upside down. But sometimes, those moments that seem like the end of everything turn out to be just the beginning.
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