Sonia Todd of Moscow, Idaho, died of cancer at the young age of 38. But knowing the end was near, she decided to write her own obituary before passing away. As she explained, obituaries were usually written a couple of different ways that she simply didn’t care for. So, as one of her last acts on this earth, she put pen to paper and decided for herself how her obituary would read.
The result of Sonia confronting her own mortality as she penned her obituary was a piece full of humor as well as wisdom, appearing in the Moscow-Pullman Daily News. The words were so honest and inspirational that long after her death, they will still ring true, giving others something to aspire to. Ironically, Sonia wrote, “I never really accomplished anything of note.” How wrong she was. The truth expressed in the obituary she wrote proved to be quite an accomplishment in and of itself.
“Other than giving birth to my two wonderful, lovable, witty and amazing sons (James and Jason), marrying my gracious, understanding and precious husband (Brian), and accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as my personal savior – I have done very little. None of which requires obit space that I have to shell out money for,” Sonia Todd began, explaining why she was writing her obituary and why it wouldn’t be like others.
Adding that she didn’t want a bunch of her loved ones sitting around to write a glowing report of her, which she says would be “filled with fish tales, half-truths, impossible scenarios, and out-right-honest-to-goodness-lies,” Sonia explained she simply didn’t like putting people in those kinds of situations. With the explanation out of the way, she got to her version of the truth about her own life.
“I just tried to do the best I could. Sometimes I succeeded, most of the time I failed, but I tried. For all of my crazy comments, jokes and complaints, I really did love people. The only thing that separates me from anyone else is the type of sin each of us participated in. I didn’t always do the right thing or say the right thing and when you come to the end of your life those are the things you really regret, the small simple things that hurt other people,” Sonia admitted.
Although she said that she mostly enjoyed life, she also said it wasn’t perfect and that she encountered many bumps in the road, especially in her teens and early 20s. Even though some parts of her life were harder than others, Sonia said, “I learned something from every bad situation and I couldn’t do any more than that.” She also claimed there were benefits to dying young. Jokingly, she wrote, “I still owe on my student loans and the jokes on them cuz I’m not paying them. Plus, I am no longer afraid of serial killers, telemarketers or the IRS.”Addressing the fact that some people have told her that writing her own obituary is morbid, Sonia Todd continued, “I think it is great because I get a chance to say thank you to all the people who helped me along the way. Those who loved me, assisted me, cared for me, laughed with me and taught me things so that I could have a wonderful, happy life. I was blessed beyond measure by knowing all of you. That is what made my life worthwhile.”
It was the conclusion of her obituary that was the most important, however. Sonia encouraged others to change their lives. “If you think of me, and would like to do something in honor of my memory do this: Volunteer at a school, church or library. Write a letter to someone and tell them how they have had a positive effect on your life. If you smoke – quit. If you drink and drive – stop,” she wrote.
Her advise continued, “Turn off the electronics and take a kid out for ice cream and talk to them about their hopes and dreams. Forgive someone who doesn’t deserve it. Stop at all lemonade-stands run by kids and brag about their product. Make someone smile today if it is in your power to do so.”
Today seems like a good day to honor Sonia’s memory by completing some of these simple requests and reminding others to do the same. Luckily for us, we still have time for these things. And, thankfully, with her dying wish, Sonia Todd left us these words of wisdom that few realize until it’s too late
I Overheard My 9-Year-Old Daughter Whispering on the Phone: ‘I’ll Never Forgive Mom for What She Did’
“I’ll never forgive Mom for what she did!” Isabella heard her daughter Hailey whispering on the phone. The words sent an icy shock through her. What had she done? What horrible thing did Hailey believe? Dread coiled in her stomach as she realized someone had filled her daughter’s head with lies. And those lies could destroy everything.
My husband Stan and I have been together for ten years. I love him, and he loves me. We have a wonderful daughter, Hailey, who lights up our lives with her curious mind and infectious laugh.
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Our life together has been filled with love, laughter, and the kind of understanding that makes a marriage strong. Despite the usual ups and downs, we’ve built a home full of warmth and happiness.
That’s why what happened last Tuesday hit me so hard.
It was just a regular afternoon. I had finished putting away the groceries and was heading to the bathroom when I passed by Hailey’s bedroom. Her door was slightly ajar, and I could hear her voice, hushed but clear enough that her words stopped me in my tracks.
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“I’ll never forgive Mom for what she did!”
I froze mid-step, my hand gripping the wall for support. I just stood there, forgetting where I was heading to.
Why would Hailey say something like that? What had I done to hurt her so deeply? My mind raced through recent memories.
Had I been too harsh about her messy room? Too strict about screen time? Had I forgotten some important promise?
“No, I can’t tell Dad,” Hailey continued, her voice trembling. “It would break his heart.”
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My stomach twisted into a painful knot. This wasn’t about some minor parenting mistake. This was something serious enough that she thought it would hurt Stan if he knew.
I backed away from the door quietly. Part of me wanted to burst in and demand answers, but the rational side of me knew that would only make Hailey clam up.
Whatever was happening, I needed to approach it carefully.
That evening, I found Hailey in her room after dinner. Stan was washing the dishes, so I thought this was the perfect opportunity to talk to her.
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“Hey, sweetie,” I said, sitting beside her. “Can we talk for a minute?”
She nodded.
“Hailey, I didn’t mean to eavesdrop, but I heard what you said on the phone today,” I admitted, trying to keep my voice gentle. “What have I done that you can’t forgive?”
Her head snapped up, eyes wide with panic before she quickly looked away. Then, she shook her head.
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“Please, tell me,” I urged, reaching out to touch her hand. “Whatever it is, we can talk about it. I promise I won’t be mad.”
Her eyes filled with tears. She wiped them quickly, but they kept falling. The sight broke my heart. My little girl, always so quick to smile, was drowning in a sadness I couldn’t understand.
“You can tell me anything,” I whispered.
Then, in a trembling whisper, she finally spoke.
“Grandma told me that you cheated on Daddy and that he isn’t my biological father!”
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What the heck? I thought.
It took me some time to process what she’d just said.
My stomach twisted into knots.
Ten years. My husband and I had been together for ten years. And yet, my mother-in-law, Martha, had always hated me.
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I had endured her cold stares, her snide remarks, and her calculated attempts to make me feel like an outsider. I had done it all for the sake of my husband and our family.
But this? This was unforgivable.
I took a deep breath, trying to stay calm for my daughter’s sake.
“Sweetheart, why would Grandma say something like that?” I asked gently, smoothing her hair back from her tear-stained face.
She hesitated before answering, her small fingers twisting in the fabric of her bedspread.
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“I asked her why she has always been so mean to me,” she admitted. “I just wanted to know why she never hugs me like other grandmas do. When we visited last weekend, I saw her hugging cousin Emma, but she never does that with me.”
My heart sank. I had noticed Martha’s coldness toward Hailey but had convinced myself it wasn’t that obvious. Clearly, I was wrong.
“And that’s when she told me…” Hailey continued, her voice barely audible. “She said you betrayed Dad and that he’s not really my father. She said it’s easy to see why. Dad has green eyes, and I have brown. He has dark brown hair, and mine is light. She said that proves I can’t be his real daughter.”
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My heart ached. My mother-in-law’s hatred for me had now poisoned my daughter’s innocence.
“Who were you talking to on the phone about this?” I asked softly.
“Lily,” she confessed, referring to her best friend. “I didn’t know who else to tell. I saw people do that in movies when they have secrets.”
I cupped her face in my hands, making sure she was looking directly at me. “Hailey, listen to me very carefully. What Grandma told you is a lie. A cruel, horrible lie. Your father is your biological father. I have never, ever cheated on him. I love him too much to ever do something like that.”
“But what about my eyes and hair?” she asked, doubt clouding her features.
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“You get your brown eyes from me, sweetie. And your hair color comes from my side of the family too. My brother has the exact same color, remember? That’s how genetics works sometimes. You don’t always look exactly like your parents.”
She seemed to consider this, but uncertainty still lingered in her expression.
“Tell you what,” I said, an idea forming. “If you’re worried, we can prove it. There are tests that can show without any doubt that Daddy is your biological father. Would that make you feel better?”
Her eyes widened. “Like on those TV shows where they find out who the real dad is?”
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Despite everything, I had to smile at her reference. “Yes, exactly like that. It’s called a DNA test.”
“Can we really do that?” Hope flickered across her face.
“Absolutely. We’ll order one tonight, and when the results come back, you’ll see that Grandma was lying.”
“Will Dad be mad if I ask for a test?” she asked anxiously.
I shook my head. “Not at all. He’ll understand that you need reassurance. That’s what parents do. We help our children feel safe and secure.”
That very night, after Hailey had gone to bed, I explained everything to Stan. His face darkened with each word.
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“She said what to Hailey?” he demanded. “Is she out of her mind?”
I reached for his hand. “I know it’s shocking. I’ve already ordered a DNA test online. Not because I think we need it, but because Hailey needs to see proof.”
The next morning, we went to get the test done.
The results would take a week to arrive, but I wasn’t going to sit idly by while my mother-in-law tried to destroy my family. It was time for some well-earned revenge.
I knew exactly how to hit her where it hurt.
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You see, Martha had always prided herself on being a respected woman in her social circle. She hosted charity events, bragged about her son’s accomplishments, and most importantly, never let anyone see the bitter, manipulative side of her.
It was time for everyone to see the real her.
First, I crafted an anonymous email and sent it to the elite women in her social group. I kept it short and to the point:
Ladies of the Garden Club,
The Martha you think you know is not who she pretends to be. Attached is a recording of her true character. Listen carefully to how she speaks about her own family. Is this someone you want representing your values?
– A Concerned Citizen
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Attached was a secret recording. It was a conversation I had once accidentally recorded when she was ranting about how she had always wanted my husband to marry the daughter of her best friend instead of me. How she had done everything in her power to ruin our marriage. How she despised me for taking away her son.
I had kept that recording for three years, never thinking I’d use it. It was my insurance policy. My private proof that I wasn’t imagining her hatred.
But now, it would serve a greater purpose.
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Then, I went one step further. I told my husband everything she’d done to me over the years. I’d never told him anything in depth because I didn’t want him to worry about it.
“All these years,” Stan said, his voice breaking. “All these years I thought she was just a little difficult. I had no idea she was actively trying to destroy us. And now she’s dragged Hailey into this? Our little girl? That’s unforgivable.”
“What do you want to do?” I asked quietly.
His eyes met mine, resolute and clear. “I’m going to confront her. Today. And this time, I’m not buying any excuses.”
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When my mother-in-law realized what I had done, it was too late.
Her social circle turned against her. Friends distanced themselves. The same women who had once laughed at her jokes now whispered behind her back. The recording had revealed a side of Martha they’d never seen.
When Stan confronted her, she couldn’t do anything except come up with lame excuses.
“How could you tell my daughter I’m not her father?” Stan demanded when he visited her house.
“I was only pointing out the obvious,” Martha sniffed. “Look at her! She looks nothing like you.”
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“She looks exactly like Isabella’s side of the family,” Stan countered. “But even if she didn’t, how dare you plant those doubts in her mind? She’s nine years old, Mom. Nine!”
“I was trying to protect you,” she insisted. “That woman has never been good enough for you. I’ve always known it.”
Stan shook his head. “The only person I need protection from is you. Until you can apologize to my wife and daughter, I don’t want you in our lives.”
A week later, the DNA results arrived. As expected, they confirmed that my husband was our daughter’s biological father.
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I showed them to my daughter, holding her close as she cried in relief. “I told you, sweetheart. Grandma was wrong.”
“So, Dad is really my dad?” she asked, her voice small but hopeful.
“He really is,” I assured her. “He always has been, and he always will be.”
And just like that, my mother-in-law lost everything she had fought so hard to preserve. Her reputation, her influence, and most painfully of all, the unwavering love of her son.
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Through this painful ordeal, I learned something important. Some people are like poison because they seep into the cracks of your life and slowly contaminate everything they touch.
For too long, I had tolerated Martha’s behavior for the sake of family harmony. I had convinced myself that maintaining peace was worth the personal cost.
But I was wrong.
Protecting my family meant setting boundaries, even difficult ones. It meant standing up against toxic behavior, no matter who it came from.
Sometimes, the people who should love us the most are the ones who hurt us the deepest, and recognizing when to walk away is not a sign of weakness.
It’s proof of strength.
What do you think?
If you enjoyed reading this story, here’s another one you might like: When my husband proposed, he gave me a beautiful vintage ring that had been in his family for generations. But his mother decided it wasn’t mine to keep. She demanded it back, and I handed it over, too stunned to argue. I thought that was the end of it… I was wrong.
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